Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff

faraday · Dec 9, 2019, 1:23 PM

@Derp That’s dumb. There’s a world of difference between two people discussing the law (which everyone knows at least a LITTLE bit about) and someone trying to pass themselves off as an attorney (or a doctor in my example). If someone is going to act on legal or medical “advice” from some random person on MSB or reddit or whatever, that should be on them.

Though I do get why someone might be confused if it were an actual lawyer saying it, hence the need for “I am a lawyer but I don’t know YOUR situation/jurisdiction” disclaimers.

Arkandel · Dec 9, 2019, 1:34 PM

And so it begins, the new year resolution-ers are starting to hit the gym.

Today I witnessed that most typical of samples: the middle-aged guy offering unsolicited advice to people who're clearly in much better shape than he is. In this case it was a girl, which made it even better.

In Canada people are too polite to tell these idiots to fuck off, but she did end up putting her earphones back in short order so... good for her.

Auspice · Dec 9, 2019, 1:48 PM

Managed to get to work today (despite doctor's note to stay out until the 12th: I simply cannot afford it because as noted previously, I am a contractor and unlike employees am not salary and do not have PTO)....... sort of wish I hadn't.

Chills and body aches kicked in on the way here.

But unlike Miss Employee last week, I'm wearing one of those face mask things. I'm also probably past the contagious stage but damnit. Gonna be polite.

Auspice · Dec 10, 2019, 1:05 PM

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Managed to get to work today (despite doctor's note to stay out until the 12th: I simply cannot afford it because as noted previously, I am a contractor and unlike employees am not salary and do not have PTO)....... sort of wish I hadn't.

Chills and body aches kicked in on the way here.

But unlike Miss Employee last week, I'm wearing one of those face mask things. I'm also probably past the contagious stage but damnit. Gonna be polite.

I def overdid it yesterday.
Staying home today.

Fuck this flu.

Send chicken soup vibes.

surreality · Dec 10, 2019, 2:02 PM

@Arkandel Everyone's eyerolls will get skipped less often than leg day, most likely. Yeesh.

Derp · Dec 10, 2019, 2:16 PM

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Managed to get to work today (despite doctor's note to stay out until the 12th: I simply cannot afford it because as noted previously, I am a contractor and unlike employees am not salary and do not have PTO)....... sort of wish I hadn't.

Chills and body aches kicked in on the way here.

But unlike Miss Employee last week, I'm wearing one of those face mask things. I'm also probably past the contagious stage but damnit. Gonna be polite.

I def overdid it yesterday.
Staying home today.

Fuck this flu.

Send chicken soup vibes.

sends Nyquil vibes instead

Also: Don't you work in software development? Can't you do that remotely?

Auspice · Dec 10, 2019, 2:18 PM

@Derp said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Managed to get to work today (despite doctor's note to stay out until the 12th: I simply cannot afford it because as noted previously, I am a contractor and unlike employees am not salary and do not have PTO)....... sort of wish I hadn't.

Chills and body aches kicked in on the way here.

But unlike Miss Employee last week, I'm wearing one of those face mask things. I'm also probably past the contagious stage but damnit. Gonna be polite.

I def overdid it yesterday.
Staying home today.

Fuck this flu.

Send chicken soup vibes.

sends Nyquil vibes instead

Also: Don't you work in software development? Can't you do that remotely?

Contractor.
Only some of us get VPN access. I did not

boneghazi · Dec 20, 2019, 3:30 AM

Five days of no smoking today.

The most surprising part about it is that... I haven't had any cravings, no mood swings, no tremors, nausea, or other severe withdrawal symptoms I was expecting. Actually, my mood I would say is better because my blood pressure is more manageable and I'm feeling better physically because less chest pains.

Not at all what it was like when I was giving up benzos. Hooboy. That's some shit. My doctor has told me getting off of benzos is about like getting off of heroin in terms of difficulty. I did it cold turkey (had to used up all my supply and the government cracked down on it so I wasn't going to get any more from them) and the first 2 or 3 days I hallucinated and just... sweat and shook and slept. I still feel their siren's song though. Shit is powerful.

Imagine taking a pill and literally your whole life was okay. Everything is just okay. Great, even. Amazing. That's a benzo.

I DO struggle (with smoking) when it feels like I should be doing something though. I have these moments of "I have something I should be doing" and then I realize oh it's a regular smoking time. And then I can brush it aside. It's not always easy. Like "last one. It can't hurt!" but I'm getting through it. I know on the other side my thinking will be clearer.

Tomorrow I am going to start intermittent fasting for the first time. One day fasted, one day not. Eating mostly a keto type diet on my on days and surviving on tea and water for my off days. I likely won'know if it's for me or see any benefits until I hit month 2 or 3.

I'm really conflicted because I've been taught that FASTING BAD EAT ALL THE TIME and FOOD PYRAMID BIBLE and CALORIES IN/CALORIES OUT. That "crash dieting" is a cardinal sin. I'm at the point where I have tried every diet and have been living on 400-800 cals a day to keep my weight where it is, no weight loss even if I am body building and doing 2 hours of cardio a day or if I'm just lounging on a couch all day. It doesn't matter!

But the fact of the matter is that a condition I have known as PCOS just doesn't work like that. I need to readjust my thinking and reassess the rules. I might need to break them to just find what works for me. I am probably not going to die form PCOS but it's preventing me from living. It's stripping everything away that I liked about myself. My glorious long, healthy, thick hair. My sunny disposition and all together "good" personality. Anything outgoing about me. It's literally turning me into a grumpy ass cave troll with discolored skin, thin hair, beard, boils, and now that I can't shave my fucking armpits for a while you can add smelly to these adjectives.

I pray the damage that has been done can be undone. I'm so fucking done with this. I need a change.

surreality · Dec 20, 2019, 12:39 AM

...realizing it's not if, it's when on awful breast surgery, and all the 'nnngh, noooooooo' in the world ain't gonna change that.

Fingers crossed we can get in with a different surgeon, because one that doesn't even tell you he's going to start slicing before he just says 'hold that' (meaning my boob) and starts in with the lidocaine and the scalpel... yeah, that was not good. I'm not afraid of doctors, but I'm deathly afraid of THAT doctor.

Taika · Dec 20, 2019, 1:07 AM

@surreality What the everloving fuck? That'd be a punched doctor. -Informed motherfucking consent- is not 'hold that'.

surreality · Dec 20, 2019, 1:07 AM

@Taika Yeeeah, he's... special. I mentioned that to the nurse after he left and she had this pained look and sigh that suggested it isn't uncommon.

Seriously hoping we can see someone else.

TNP · Dec 20, 2019, 2:04 AM

@surreality Is this some kind of emergency that it has to be done NOW? Cause otherwise, this is not a 'Seriously hoping we can see someone else.' situation. This is a 'I refuse to see him again. I want someone else now. If that's not possible, schedule it."

surreality · Dec 20, 2019, 2:12 AM

@TNP It's not life or death, no. It is 'keep me awake at night levels of pain while alive and is progressively getting worse at a dramatic pace over 3 days', though. That ramps up the urgency somewhat. We're going to see if we can get something set up with the woman on their team come morning when their office is open.

It is one of those things that sometimes crops up for a day, then goes away without incident. 95% of the time, that's what happens. It's this 5% that's a bloody nightmare (literally and figuratively).

Guy in question is the top dude at the state network breast health center, believe it or not. He's very good at the cutting part and whatnot. The 'acting like an actual human' thing he fails at utterly.

While the previous 5% problem was the most minor surgery I've ever had, it remains the #1, hands-down, NO CONTEST body horror incident of my life. So we're really scrambling to ideally see someone else. Getting connected to a surgeon, period, can be really hard, though, and going to a new one could mean a week or more wait, which we definitely can't do.

TNP · Dec 20, 2019, 2:41 AM

@surreality Well, that sucks. But honestly, if he's the best they have, I'd probably just keep telling myself that he's an idiot savant on the autistic spectrum: all talent, no social ability. There must be a reason they haven't replaced him.

surreality · Dec 20, 2019, 2:49 AM

@TNP said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

There must be a reason they haven't replaced him.

I refuse to rule out 'terrified he'll just spontaneously start performing impromptu surgery on them if they did'.

I'd describe what actually happened, but frankly, even hiding it behind a spoiler tag, people don't deserve the nightmares for curiosity.

Rinel · Dec 20, 2019, 3:30 AM

@nyctophiliac said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Not at all what it was like when I was giving up benzos. Hooboy. That's some shit. My doctor has told me getting off of benzos is about like getting off of heroin in terms of difficulty. I did it cold turkey (had to used up all my supply and the government cracked down on it so I wasn't going to get any more from them) and the first 2 or 3 days I hallucinated and just... sweat and shook and slept. I still feel their siren's song though. Shit is powerful.

Christ. Benzos are worse than heroin. Heroin won't actually kill you if you go cold turkey. Benzodiazepine withdrawal can send you into a grand mal, or a coma. I'm glad you were okay.

Imagine taking a pill and literally your whole life was okay. Everything is just okay. Great, even. Amazing. That's a benzo.

lol I wish. My clonazepam gets me to "unhappy and functioning."

Wretched · Dec 20, 2019, 5:58 AM

I've now nearly finished with my third week of work after 13 years of getting fat and living off my glorious sexy library lady goth sugarmama. At the end of an 8 hour shift I am dead. I know, not a lot of sympathy but man my feet hurt. Also the panic attacks and forcing myself to wake up and get ready every morning are rough. Gotta wait to the prozac/rebull kick in, and even then I'm waking up 3 hours early just to smoke a bowl and have it wear off before work starts.

Boo Adulthood, that is all.

Sunny · Dec 20, 2019, 6:08 AM

@Wretched

You can do this. Good job so far. Three weeks is a GREAT start! You're almost to the mark of building a new habit. Also, you get plenty of sympathy. Change is ducking HARD, my man. It's hard. Don't matter what it is.

Auspice · Dec 20, 2019, 6:20 AM

@Rinel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

lol I wish. My clonazepam gets me to "unhappy and functioning."

I was prescribed this once. I stopped taking it after a month because I noticed no difference at all. It led me to assume, for a long time, that it was one of those drugs that doesn't actually do anything and doctors prescribe it just to shut people up.

I know now it's def. otherwise (based on friend's experiences with it) and I figure it's just yet another thing I'm weirdly immune to.

Tramadol was the same way. I never understood why I had friends who would literally buy it off of people to take for fun. It was like 'I was once prescribed this and it did nothing??????' to which I got some horrified 'BUT WE WOULD'VE BOUGHT IT FROM YOU' looks.

I am KIND OF JEALOUS of people for whom pain drugs work. It'd be nice to take something now and then. Instead I'll just keep fighting for weed to be legalized countrywide since it actually works.

eye8urcake · Dec 20, 2019, 6:42 AM

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I am KIND OF JEALOUS of people for whom pain drugs work. It'd be nice to take something now and then. Instead I'll just keep fighting for weed to be legalized countrywide since it actually works.

My husband is like you. Notably, he takes/has taken many more varieties of drug over his lifetime than I have, but I'm not entirely convinced that entirely accounts for 4 of pill A doing nothing for him while 1 of pill A takes me out of the loop for 4 days, for example.

Tramadol is one of those drugs, too, though I chalk this up to how much harder it is to do much for chronic pain as a result of damage to the spine and the nerves therein + shingles (him) versus how easy it tends to be to find something that works for someone who gets their dumb ass lost in the woods on a hiking trip at the base of a volcano and the tramadol she got 2 days later was the only painkiller she'd been near in a decade (me).

I can smoke him under the table, though. (No pun intended). So weird.