Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
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PM me. I regularly handle these sorts of problems.
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@Alamias Upvoting for support. Debt is terrible and terrifying and I'm so sorry.
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@Alamias Ideation (not actively pursuing suicide, but wishing you could go to sleep and not wake up or get hit by a random car) is no joke. If there's a means to talk to someone, through a help line, or local services...please take it.
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@Cupcake said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@Alamias Ideation (not actively pursuing suicide, but wishing you could go to sleep and not wake up or get hit by a random car) is no joke. If there's a means to talk to someone, through a help line, or local services...please take it.
@Cupcake is absolutely right. This is a gateway feeling. Definitely get someone to talk to about this. If you do not have the means for any relief, I would strongly suggest you reach out to your faith's clergy to speak to them in confidence.
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@Seamus @Cupcake I have a therapist, and I will talk to them about it when I see them next. Thank you for the concern.
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I accidentally seem to have stood for local government... I'm not sure what I just did.
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@Macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@Derp If they were going to prove it was an undue hardship to set me up for work from home, they would have to remove the option for everyone.
Hey! So sorry for the delayed reply. It's not showing me notifications when people use @mentions, for some reason.
So in regard to needing to remove the option for everyone -- no, not so much, really. This is part of what I was trying to say before. These cases are very fact-specific.
They don't need to remove the option from everyone, because everyone is not a valid comparator in your case. Only the people who hold your exact position (or an incredibly similar, only marginally different position) are, and whether this creates an undue hardship or is a reasonable accommodation turns very heavily on what the employer defines as the essential functions of your position. (Which, by the by, is determined by the employer, within certain guidelines, and absent an argument that an 'essential function' is pretextual, judges and the like don't question whether a function listed as 'essential' is really essential or not).
IF they argue that your on-site presence is an essential function of the position, then they are not required to grant a work-from-home accommodation, since you would technically be asking for an accommodation that negates an essential function of the position. Therefore, they can claim that a reasonable accommodation would not be possible, since negating an essential function of the position makes it an unreasonable request.
It's all very technical, and again, highly dependent upon what your actual job description is, and everyone else receiving a remote work allowance may not be a valid comparator.
TL;DR -- press for it, so that you can at least have them engaged in an interactive process, but don't assume that you're entitled to such a thing, because that's just not the way that any of that works.
ETA: This is not meant to discourage you in any way. Just trying to make you aware of what all goes into these sorts of things, so that you can go in with reasonable expectations.
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Double posting because, I'm just gonna leave part of the definitions here for you to peruse. These are being left here as general information, and should not be considered legal advice:
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@Derp I have been through this process before. This company, however, does not have an actual, dedicated HR person. There are so many forms and things lacking that they should have, it's a little ...well, the only word that keeps coming to mind is gross.
Someone in my exact same position also has applied to work from home - though her reasoning is that she's moving across the country. Mine is that the job place is not ADA compliant (if you're in a wheelchair, get fucked. I can't imagine the stairs there on crutches, either.), and there's a lot of ways I sit, things I do, drugs I can take, that I can handle at home, but not at work. (Heating pad, different lumbar pillows, low level pain killers). I do not need to be present in the office, as a core part of my job. I answer the phone, and take information/give info. They have about 2 dozen people in my same job description, that work from home.
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And their cost is: Letting me access their website. I'd be using my own computer, etc. So really, they don't have anything to deny me on.
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So as part of my treatment for an on-going condition, I need to visit a specialist.
I search my insurance co's website for an in-network provider and find one. The visit as per the details of my insurance, is covered.
I visit. It goes well.
A few months later, I get a bill for $350. WTF?
I get told by my insurance that they're out of network. No, says I, they're in-network. They're literally listed in your in-network providers listing!
A customer service rep researches. Oops! They're not longer in-network. We'll get them taken off the site. You still owe $350. Too bad, so sad!
I have NO idea what to do. Appeal, I guess?
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@Cupcake said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I have NO idea what to do. Appeal, I guess?
Definitely. Also, if it's not too late, get a screenshot of the website showing them in network.
Whenever you speak to a customer rep, get the person's name and a call reference number. If you don't like what they're saying, ask to speak to an ONSHORE supervisor. A supervisor can do more than the rank and file and it's much better to speak to someone based in the US than in India.
Also, find out how to file a complaint with your state and do so if you don't get told they'll pay it.
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@Cupcake I would absolutely appeal. It's their fault for not having removed the provider from the listing.
Might not actually be successful, but yeah. That'd be an escalation IMO. You followed their rules; they're the ones who weren't applying them correctly.
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@Cupcake Oh, also... Did you ask the doctor's office if they are in network? If you did and they said yes, demand to speak to their billing manager since they screwed up too.
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@TNP I did, yes. They were specific about making sure I was in-network.
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@Cupcake said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@TNP I did, yes. They were specific about making sure I was in-network.
Then it might maybe be worth it to contact the doctor's office and let them know what's going on. It's possible they'll go to bat for you (at the very least you may be able to get something in writing that you were 'in-network' when you went).
I've had pretty good luck over the years of doctors being willing to help fight when the insurance company is being dumb.
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After immense weight gain for a variety of reasons, and realizing that pretty much my life is unlikely to become less stressful for the foreseeable future I did the following:
Discontinued the family y membership now that we only have 1 child in activites instead of 3, when it requires me to drive 30 minutes to get to the facility because of traffic.
Joined a local gym with far less programming but has the machines I like AND best of all a stream room and sauna.
My self care now includes 3x week hydrotherapy rotation and still takes me less time than going to the Y for a 30 min workout and quick shower.