Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

wahoo

None of y'all have any right to complain about pizza until you live in a Los Angeles pizza hellscape.

surreality

...when you know it's moody-as-fuck PMS week•, and it's still piling on quick and hard in ways you wouldn't handle well on a normal day. It's not fun.

Dental hell is scheduled. For July 31. And they are still calling every fucking day to confirm, reconfirm, and re-re-reconfirm. For something over a month out. Every fucking work day. My gods, please fucking stop. This is not exactly a recipe for less anxiety.

Determined shitlord is still determined.

Woke up to depressingly shitty work thing this morning, that had been a happy thing when I went to bed. Included: flaily demands and refusal to accept a straight answer.

There is game stuff, too, but none worth going into.

• Seriously, fuck you with a rusty chainsaw if you think this is a generalized anti-feminist/sexist statement about all women, as some have done before on this board, like the tiny, narrow minds they are. Some people do have real, documented issues with this, as something that really exists in the real world -- and if you're so bloody aware as you present yourselves to fucking be, you know this already -- and I'm one of them. So fuck you really hard, you sanctimonious, 'read only what you want to read into something', pre-judging shits.

Rinel

@surreality said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Some people do have real, documented issues with this, as something that really exists in the real world -- and if you're so bloody aware as you present yourselves to fucking be, you know this already -- and I'm one of them. So fuck you really hard, you sanctimonious, 'read only what you want to read into something', pre-judging shits.

Interestingly enough, there is at least some research indicating that males have long-term (i.e. not daily) hormonal cycles as well--it's simply that they don't exhibit obvious physical symptoms of such cycles.

Auspice

@Rinel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@surreality said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Some people do have real, documented issues with this, as something that really exists in the real world -- and if you're so bloody aware as you present yourselves to fucking be, you know this already -- and I'm one of them. So fuck you really hard, you sanctimonious, 'read only what you want to read into something', pre-judging shits.

Interestingly enough, there is at least some research indicating that males have long-term (i.e. not daily) hormonal cycles as well--it's simply that they don't exhibit obvious physical symptoms of such cycles.

Blame the moon! We're mostly made of water and the moon has an effect on that.

But yes. I have had male friends who are especially susceptible and I always know when it's 'their time'

surreality

@Rinel I absolutely believe it. PMDD is a thing, and it's not fun to have.

I am still pretty galled that the one time I mentioned something about 'issues' during that time, it got the usual 'you're one of the people the board has deemed gross and un-woke, so clearly you are just making a disgusting sexist comment, and not one that accurately reflects your reality', but frankly, I expect it at this point. That's depressing in it's own right, but it is what it is, in the usual vein of 'people will believe whatever they're inclined to believe, and if their initial assumptions are biased toward the ugliest possibility, they're going to be that asshole'.

I just really wish those people would stop trying to pretend to be 'more enlightened than thou' as rote.

(I still secretly pine for the pony I asked Santa for when I was five, however, and understand the pony is way more likely.)

Rinel

I, however, being an enlightened Frankensteinlet, have essentially no hormonal cycles whatsoever. What's that you say? That probably isn't healthy? Well I'll have you know that no studies whatsoever have been done on the long-term dangers of my medication regime, so it's obviously safe!

Sparks

Being ADHD, working on your bullet journal for the next month, having your morning dose of ADHD medication wear off right as you end up smearing ink everywhere in the bujo (ruining pages you'd just worked on for an hour and a half), and finding yourself on the verge of frustrated tears over something so dumb. And then having to go take another dose of the meds, sit down, and redo everything again.

Some of it may be stress over family health stuff, some of it was the ADHD medication wearing off, but it feels like creating the charts and lists for the next month in a freaking journal should never drive someone to that point, even if a mess gets made.

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surreality

@Rinel I send all the hugs ever in support of hoping there won't be things like this. I really do. It's something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and you seem pretty cool.

In all sincerity, I consider it brave as fuck-all to go through hormone treatments of any kind, for any purpose. The ability of those systems to Jekyll and Hyde the hell out of someone are real, terrifying, and emotionally painful unto themselves.

I have one or two friends I trust, really, to talk to much during that four or five days, because they're aware and KNOW not to take me seriously if I explode or start sobbing over nothing (in part because they know I feel horrible about it and will bend over backward to apologize and I do everything I can to make it right, since I'm still responsible for it, whether it's something I can readily control or not).

Fingers crossed nothing similar will ever crop up. Am rooting for you.

Auspice

@Sparks said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Being ADHD, working on your bullet journal for the next month, having your morning dose of ADHD medication wear off right as you end up smearing ink everywhere in the bujo (ruining pages you'd just worked on for an hour and a half), and finding yourself on the verge of frustrated tears over something so dumb. And then having to go take another dose of the meds, sit down, and redo everything again.

Some of it may be stress over family health stuff, some of it was the ADHD medication wearing off, but it feels like creating the charts and lists for the next month in a freaking journal should never drive someone to that point, even if a mess gets made.

I have yet to find a bujo method that works consistently for me. Partly because I see these amazing, gorgeous layouts people do and the hate of my own lack of ability to make something so good creeps up...... on top of the 'I spent hours on this but it looks like hot garbage'

I love bullet journaling, but I am bad at it.

Sparks

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I have yet to find a bujo method that works consistently for me. Partly because I see these amazing, gorgeous layouts people do and the hate of my own lack of ability to make something so good creeps up...... on top of the 'I spent hours on this but it looks like hot garbage'

I love bullet journaling, but I am bad at it.

I had this problem too, honestly. I was just doing very bland and sort of messy pages, and it made me keep drifting away from my bujo. But I've finally discovered the joys of stencils, washi stickers and washi tape, and my housemate's stash of washi sticker inkjet paper with which I can make my own stickers. Also metallic markers. I cannot draw for shit, but I can sure as heck stencil.

My August theme in the bujo, for instance, will be gaming. And I've got a bunch of sort of watercolor imagery of dice, minifigs, game controllers, and so on which will be printed on washi sticker paper and placed in the bujo to accent various pages. I'm going to borrow some of my housemate's holographic d20 washi tape. I've got stencils with nicely dramatic fonts suitable for a gaming theme; where I do not do headings as washi stickers on the inkjet, I will use stencils instead.

I have found now that my bujo is pretty, I use it more consistently.

Auspice

@Sparks said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I have yet to find a bujo method that works consistently for me. Partly because I see these amazing, gorgeous layouts people do and the hate of my own lack of ability to make something so good creeps up...... on top of the 'I spent hours on this but it looks like hot garbage'

I love bullet journaling, but I am bad at it.

I had this problem too, honestly. I was just doing very bland and sort of messy pages, and it made me keep drifting away from my bujo. But I've finally discovered the joys of stencils, washi stickers and washi tape, and my housemate's stash of washi sticker inkjet paper with which I can make my own stickers. Also metallic markers. I cannot draw for shit, but I can sure as heck stencil.

My August theme in the bujo, for instance, will be gaming. And I've got a bunch of sort of watercolor imagery of dice, minifigs, game controllers, and so on which will be printed on washi sticker paper and placed in the bujo to accent various pages. I'm going to borrow some of my housemate's holographic d20 washi tape. I've got stencils with nicely dramatic fonts suitable for a gaming theme; where I do not do headings as washi stickers on the inkjet, I will use stencils instead.

I have found now that my bujo is pretty, I use it more consistently.

Where do you get your stencils? I've considered those.
I have tons of markers and colored pencils and pens and.... (because I do like to art journal sometimes and that's a lot less.... well I mean there's no need to be consistent!)

Do you do a full-month calendar page? That was what always took the longest for me. Sitting there with a pencil and ruler meticulously making lines, then going back over them in pen and... eesh.

Also: I did not know there was such a thing as washi tape paper. Man the things I could do with that. I might need a printer and some of this at some point!

Sparks

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Where do you get your stencils? I've considered those.

Amazon. There are approximately 8 billion journal stencils. This is the main set I use.

ETA: You can also find interesting custom-made stencils on Etsy, as well as custom-made washi tape.

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Do you do a full-month calendar page? That was what always took the longest for me. Sitting there with a pencil and ruler meticulously making lines, then going back over them in pen and... eesh.

Nope. My full month is a list; numbers down the left-hand margin, with the events written in beside them.

The page that takes me forever is my habit tracker because, yes, I do a grid and then color alternating lines with a light marker. And then label the page and add stickers. (This time I added a watercolor space whale that went nicely with the shades of blue I used as the dominant color on the page. I used a very interesting style of outline stencil from that set I linked above, drawn in black ink for the page label, and a metallic purple marker to fill in the outline afterwards.)

@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Also: I did not know there was such a thing as washi tape paper. Man the things I could do with that. I might need a printer and some of this at some point!

Eyep. It's very dangerous.

(Though I feel like this is verging on getting into "we should make a thread for bullet journaling if we don't have one already" territory.)

Auspice

@Sparks said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

(Though I feel like this is verging on getting into "we should make a thread for bullet journaling if we don't have one already" territory.)

Probably.

Tho I'm definitely gonna check out those stencils.

...you know, added perk of a printer when I get one: print stencils onto cardstock. Could make just about anything, then.

Rinel

@surreality Thanks. It's not bad for me, thankfully, at least thus far.

@Sparks @Auspice what is bullet journaling oh god don't play with guns

surreality

Admittedly, if I could scratch things off my to-do list when they're done by blasting a hole in them, it sounds like it'd be super satisfying.

Auspice

@Rinel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@surreality Thanks. It's not bad for me, thankfully, at least thus far.

@Sparks @Auspice what is bullet journaling oh god don't play with guns

The bullet in bullet journaling refers to 'bullet points'.

It's intended as a quick, easy method of planning, journaling, tracking....etc. There is an official method/way, but really it's about making it your own.