Jan 22, 2019, 1:40 PM

There's also the illusion of an apology - which in itself is supposed to signal regret. "I didn't mean to inconvenience you" doesn't mean anything when you bring a friend knowing it will cause an issue.

Not only did you deprive your social group from choice in the matter but on top of it you created a new choice for them; do they get to be assholes ("sorry, she can't sit with us") or face a consequence that wouldn't otherwise exist ("I guess I'll go sit by myself").