Sexuality: IC and OOC

[Bad at Lurking]

@surreality said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

"mangoo"

Well, I'm never going to look a fruit smoothie the same way. Thanks for that.

[bored]

Many of the dull male and female stereotypes frequently decried here (the 7' fuck-vikings and their sub 5' giggleprincess counterparts) are portrayed by players of those genders. They are still dull as shit, and completely unrealistic depictions of those identities. Conversely, a more interesting player portraying something other than their own gender (or ethnicity, or anything else), even if they do it less well than they would 'matching' character, will still probably be infinitely more interesting to interact with. One of my long-term RP partners is like this; she plays men fairly often, and maybe they're not informed by a deep understanding of those identities... but they're still far more entertaining than TryHard McStudmuffin version 12.

So I don't think playing what you are matters much, compared to the all-consuming vacuum of RP-suck that encompasses much of the hobby.

[Ganymede]

@Wretched

[Ghost]

@Wretched said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

I hope this helps all of you testicular free people in the Rp, thanks

Also: Sitting on your balls.

This sucks and it happens way more than you'd think.

+5 to the non-scrote carrier who roleplays that.

[Wretched]

@Ganymede

[BetterJudgment]

@Wretched Corn starch baby powder. Really. A sprinkle a day helps keep itching away.

[Auspice]

@BetterJudgment said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

@Wretched Corn starch baby powder. Really. A sprinkle a day helps keep itching away.

I have been told to never, ever mistakenly use cornflour tho.
(Had a guy friend do this one day: he'd heard the cornstarch thing and didn't have any, but he DID have cornflour and assumed 'sure, it's pretty much the same thing!' Hint: it's not. at all. even remotely.)

[Wretched]

@BetterJudgment I'm just gonna use this in TS.

she pulls down your pants and presses her head in to <censored/redacted/bleep>

ooc Me: "It tastes like cornstarch that has clumped up from sweat! You like that?!"

[Bad at Lurking]

Nothing like some ball-battered shrimp, if you know what I mean.

And I'm not entirely sure I do.

[Ganymede]

@Wretched said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

ooc Me: "It tastes like cornstarch that has clumped up from sweat! You like that?!"

Worst. Cornbread. Ever.

[Wretched]

@Ganymede

[Grayson]

Cis female here, somewhere between bi and asexual. I mostly play men (two reasons - first, I don't understand most women, and second, I do not and never did want the sort of attention that men frequently give women whether we want it or not, I get enough of that without asking, I can think of no earthly reason to want to fill my pretendy funtime with that too). Most of the men I've played have not been straight. Most of the women I've played haven't been straight either, but they tend towards the asexual, mostly because I still don't want to have to deal with that shit. I usually FtB, though, so not many worries there, and I do at least try to do my research.

What I have learned to run away from are the incredibly subby gay-man-played-by-a-woman types, the ones who just want to lie there and pant while you put all the effort in. If I wanted to wank into a dishrag it'd probably be a sight more erotic than repeats of 'X moans as you Y'.

Trouble over my characters' sexualities? Not often, partly due to the archetypes my characters tend to be based on. Trying to seduce the evil overlord doesn't usually go too well for the seducee when he's just not interested, for instance, but he's going to wring as much advantage out of the idiot's compromising position as humanly possible. It's not as though he doesn't advertise exactly what he is - but there's always someone who doesn't read the warning labels, signs, notices, announcements and .bulletins, or thinks they just won't apply to them.

[Pandora]

My first scene on my current Arx character was a commoner chick breaking down her list of princesses she'd fucked, right there in public, in our first conversation. I just smiled and nodded and noped out as fast as I could, because the line between 'Shaming someone for being an indiscreet, crude, disrespectful ass' and 'Omg, slut shaming!' is very thin.

[surreality]

@Pandora I would have done the same. I know you've mentioned playing princesses and similar often enough, too, so if you were at the time? Dang, if I was in your shoes I'd be a little nnngh on that since it'd sound a bit like I was being lined up to become another notch on that bedpost as just part of a princess collection. Allllll the 'no thanks'.

[GreenFlashlight]

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[Groth]

@Quinn said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

I'm a cisgender, straight woman and I find playing a guy pretty tricky unless I'm just going all out frat-boy stereotype as a one off NPC. I just can't get that into it and feel more comfortable playing women. I'm not sitting there constantly like "is this how guys scratch their balls? How much ball scratching should one pose have?" when I'm playing a woman. I know how many times I scratch my balls a day, people.

This is one of those things that you almost only see in those who 'crossplay'. Most guys who play guys won't put ball scratching into their poses because while that might be something they do in their daily lives it's not something they think about. If you just want to 'pass' as being the same gender as the character you're playing, all you need to do is avoid bringing attention to weird things and just focus on your characters personality/dreams/goals etc, don't try to play a 'male' or 'female' character, just play a character who happens to be male or female.

[Ghost]

@Groth said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

@Quinn said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

I'm a cisgender, straight woman and I find playing a guy pretty tricky unless I'm just going all out frat-boy stereotype as a one off NPC. I just can't get that into it and feel more comfortable playing women. I'm not sitting there constantly like "is this how guys scratch their balls? How much ball scratching should one pose have?" when I'm playing a woman. I know how many times I scratch my balls a day, people.

This is one of those things that you almost only see in those who 'crossplay'. Most guys who play guys won't put ball scratching into their poses because while that might be something they do in their daily lives it's not something they think about. If you just want to 'pass' as being the same gender as the character you're playing, all you need to do is avoid bringing attention to weird things and just focus on your characters personality/dreams/goals etc, don't try to play a 'male' or 'female' character, just play a character who happens to be male or female.

Agreed 100%.

I don't crossplay. I make characters and simply RP the character regardless of gender or sexual orientation. The important thing is to avoid playing a caricature of a stereotype. The closer you aim to simply writing from the perspective of a character who is 3-dimensional and isn't a cartoon, the less likely you are to offend someone.

[Arkandel]

I don't play to fit other people's ideas of what I should be playing. So for example I'm crap at playing females thus I don't outside of NPCs in my plots, and I feel self conscious playing different ethnicities since I don't want them falling into stereotypes therefore I end up avoiding those as well.

All of my characters are straight white guys. Like me. If anyone doesn't approve for whatever reason, well, I'll just have to live with that.

[Ghost]

@Arkandel said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

All of my characters are straight white guys. Like me. If anyone doesn't approve for whatever reason, well, I'll just have to live with that then they're judgy and can fuck right off.

^^^^

[Cobalt]

I don't think @Quinn was being literal about the ball scratch thing, my dudes. I think it was an easy example of why it's difficult for her to play male characters and why she doesn't. Saying "well just don't pose ball scratching" and then "well just play a character who happens to be male/female/nonbinary/a lamp and not a character who is male/female/nonbinary/a lamp" is a little bit dismissive of her perspective...

But it could also be damaging to the portrayal of those types of characters. Especially if you take away the gender part and instead insert race/ethnicity or sexuality. If you are a white person playing a POC on a game and you don't give any thought to who that person's background has effected them you might find yourself walking straight into stereotypes.