RL things I love

[Aria]

This is a really stupid thing to be excited about, but I got one of those plastic-donut things for putting your hair up in a bun, even when your hair is fine and stupid and would only make a little hair nugget if you tried to put it in a bun on your own.

I cut my hair super short when I was about 14? 15? and kept that pixie cut for well over a decade, so I missed out on all of those years when it seems like every other woman on the planet figures out how to manage her own hair. As I've spent the last few years growing it out to past my shoulders, I've also had to (sometimes rather embarrassingly) spend my 30s figuring out how this all actually works.

Now I'm like, "Waaaaaaaaaaaaaait..... I can outside in the summer and not immediately look like an electrified poodle?! AWESOME."

It's a really, really stupid little thing to be excited about, but given the year insomniac and I have had.... fuck it, I'll take it.

(Note: Ponytails are not an option due to the spectacular "young Samuel, the colonial youth excited to start his new apprenticeship at the printer's press" vibe I give off when wearing one.)

[mietze]

Day one of new job today blew me away.

I feel like someone who has been in freefall stress wise and mental health wise due to job related stress and have now just been gently caught and set on my feet again.

Like maybe after a year and a half I can have a life again and more importantly time with my kids/family.

It was a really, really good day.

[Goblin]

I have no idea why we have a tradition to dress up like witches on thursday before easter, and go around asking for candy - it's some really old tradition, I could google it, but too lazy. But, here's a video of some women that do that every year and collect money for a charity. For obvious reasons they couldn't do that this year, so they made a youtube video, dancing to Jerusalema.

Made my day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdIZC4Wh_P0

[Wizz]

I got the J&J microchip last night!!

It's such a load of anxiety off my shoulders, knowing Bill Gates is looking out for me.

Plus, the side effects are p minimal so far. A little achey, fatigue. The day after the flu poke was much worse, and I don't need a second dose.

It's really, really nice!

[Sunny]

Training somebody who WANTS to learn what I am showing them. It is such a gift, when most of the teaching I do is to...less than receptive audiences.

[Aria]

Student discounts, when I actually remember them.

It's so weird to be in my mid-30s and be like "Haha! STUDENT COUPONS FOR MY JEANS, FUCKERS." But I also love it, so.

[Crawfish]

Making artwork and it's for people and money and I'm enjoying it so much i have to stop and look at it and giggle because what I'm drawing is hilarious and meant to be hilarious and I keep going, "They are going to throw things at me".

[Testament]

Started going back to the gym, making a serious attempt at. I'm coming to realization that, at my age, if I do not do something now for my own health, I will probably be dead by 50. That's not really an exaggeration considering the conversations I've been having with my doctor relating to my cholesterol(ie, still within the normal range, but has been hanging around the high normal range and trending). It's been a concern to her, so after what I'd call a wake up call, and watching enough youtube on exercise, what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. Changed my eating habits, which has probably been the worst part than actually going to said gym.

But, my company has a full gym that's free to me to use, so I should've been doing this last year.

So, yeah. It's good that I'm doing this, but I also know there is going to be a lot of suffering.

[Aria]

I now present "An Actual Conversations with My Work Bestie: Discourses on Love in the Modern Era."

Her:

Me: MARRY THAT MAN. All these silly girls who are like, "I want romantic declarations! I want to be swept off my feet! I want the fairytale!" No, bitch. No.

Her: Um, clearly the answer to happiness is to date on FarmersOnly.

Me: My husband has never been sexier than the time he walked into our bedroom and announced "I fixed the problem with the plumbing. You can shower again." except for maybe the time he baked cookies without me asking.

Her: One hundred percent!

Me: Get you a man who fixes your house and brings you food. #priorities

You're welcome for the solid life advice here, everyone.

[Cupcake]

@aria It's a terrible movie, but Exit to Eden got one thing right:

"You want to make all of my fantasies come true? Paint my house."

[Ganymede]

@aria said in RL things I love:

You're welcome for the solid life advice here, everyone.

A man?

I do the lawn mowing. The gardening. The furniture-making. The cooking. The plumbing. Cleaning, often. Washing and folding clothes. Putting the kids to bed.

Of course, my partner is also a lawyer-PA combo, so she be smart as fuck, but --

-- yeah, get you an anybody who will get off their ass and not be a helpless fuck. And for fuck's sake, I learned how to fix the washer and dryer through YouTube, along with changing oil, a car battery, and a flat tire on the side of the road.

THERE IS NO DAMN EXCUSE FOR ANYONE TO NOT KNOW THESE BASIC THINGS.

[Aria]

@ganymede said in RL things I love:

@aria said in RL things I love:

You're welcome for the solid life advice here, everyone.

A man?

I do the lawn mowing. The gardening. The furniture-making. The cooking. The plumbing. Cleaning, often. Washing and folding clothes. Putting the kids to bed.

Of course, my partner is also a lawyer-PA combo, so she be smart as fuck, but --

-- yeah, get you an anybody who will get off their ass and not be a helpless fuck. And for fuck's sake, I learned how to fix the washer and dryer through YouTube, along with changing oil, a car battery, and a flat tire on the side of the road.

THERE IS NO DAMN EXCUSE FOR ANYONE TO NOT KNOW THESE BASIC THINGS.

I mean....

I'm a woman (mostly? kind of? let's go with mostly and also "no one will ever look at me and think 'guy' or even 'non-binary no matter what I do'" because gender is complicated and society is fat-phobic and also dumb) and I also fix the shower, fix the air conditioning, self-diagnose wheel bearings crapping out in my car, manage all our finances, argue with the mechanic about why he's a wrong-face idiot who is an idiot that is also wrong (motherfucker, my car does not need power-steering fluid when I have clearly told you it's electric power-steering), and plenty of other household-slash-life maintenance things that our culture normally ascribes to dudes. On a trip to Lowe's a few years ago, I remember staring at the cashier who asked me if I was "picking up things on my husband's shopping list" right in the face and announcing "Are you kidding? He doesn't even know what a cartridge puller is. My husband is at home washing my laundry."

I said a man because we were literally talking about a guy (he) who bought a girl (the OP's sister) a wheel of cheese and their reaction to that, including our mocking the bullshit heteronormative standards of the fairytale romance narrative, which push the idea of grand gestures and, frequently, stalking or abusive behavior over the practical aspects of building a life together.

And also because my work bestie is a straight girl who is all about that dick, so. Y'know. Catering to my original audience.

[Ganymede]

@aria said in RL things I love:

I said a man because we were literally talking about a guy ...

I understand.

What I meant to insinuate is not about gender; rather, it was that one should find someone resourceful enough to be useful. Because there's really no excuse not to be, in my opinion, for household tasks.

I recognize that replacing a water heater is a two-person job, but it's not a difficult one. (I helped my friend replace his with him.)

[Aria]

@ganymede said in RL things I love:

What I meant to insinuate is not about gender; rather, it was that one should find someone resourceful enough to be useful. Because there's really no excuse not to be, in my opinion, for household tasks.

Accurate.

Though I still maintain that someone who sends you cheese instead of flowers after a date is marriage material. Unless they know you're lactose intolerant, in which case they're a monster.

[Tinuviel]

@aria said in RL things I love:

Unless they know you're lactose intolerant, in which case they're a monster.

Unless they know you're lactose intolerant, in which case they know you're going to eat it anyway.

[Aria]

@tinuviel

Look. LOOK. Sometimes sacrifices have to be made. No one likes it. It's still necessary.

[Vixanic]

When you see that there are unread posts in Crafting Thread Part ?

And you hope for more @Crawfish cats

And there ARE NEW ONES

[sahin]

Summer dresses with functional pockets.

Seriously.

I can fit my wallet and my phone in one pocket.

It's great.

[Aria]

@moth said in RL things I love:

Summer dresses with functional pockets.

Seriously.

I can fit my wallet and my phone in one pocket.

eShakti. They'll customize to your measurements or make style adjustments for $10 and almost every one of their dresses comes with pockets by default.

You're welcome.

[Kestrel]

I love my silly stupid dog. She is my first dog. I never knew just how much joy a dog could bring to my life until now. I feel like I have joined a top secret exclusive club because surely if everyone knew how awesome dogs are then everyone would have one?

I still love cats just as much for different reasons, but this dog has brought more positive change to my life than any medication I've ever been on.