@Arkandel said in RL Anger:
What the guy did was objectively creepy even if he has only the best intentions in mind
We have not, to my knowledge, ever developed a universal consensus on what constitutes creepy or not creepy in social scenarios, so this is false. It's subjectively creepy. And like all things subjective, it's by definition open to interpretation, though I concede that there may be multiple equally valid interpretations. I even said so above, when I said that I understand @mietze's hesitation.
@Kanye-Qwest
s what the guy is or is not relevant? If Mietze doesn't want the attention, and doesn't want to talk to him/catch up/entertain his attention at all, that's her choice.
She doesn't even need a reason. She has them, but she doesn't need them. If someone doesn't want to talk with you or interact with you on a personal level, you 'not being the devil' doesn't mean they should, anyway.
Shockingly, I disagree with this sentiment, as a great many do.
While it's cool ultra-liberal ideology and catchy in that way, I don't buy it in the least. Sometimes, you have to interact with other people. Even, gasp, people who you might not necessarily want to interact with. That's all part of the glorious world of being a grownup, who lives in a community populated by other grownups that depend on each other, on some level, for their everyday social/intellectual/occasionally physical needs.
Sure, you can say it all you want to, but that doesn't make it true. The bully from high school is now the local auto repair guy. I think he's a dick. I still go there when my car needs fixing. I see him at local softball games, because our nieces are in the same league. The ex girlfriend? Now works for the county clerk. I go there and talk to her, because that's what I have to do for some of my work things. I will even interact with people that I personally despise on a fundamental level when in public, often even in private, because that's just how we roll around these here parts.
And you know what? I belong to a thriving, healthy community that is rated as one of the most forward-thinking and tolerant places in the country. We know each other. We befriend each other. Sometimes, we even fight, or get vibes from one another. But we also give each other a chance, and the benefit of the doubt.
So maybe I'm living in some weird utopian fantasy (I wouldn't go that far by a long way) but sentiments like this one make me want to smack people. Adulting is hard, and comes with lots of things that maybe we don't want to deal with, but have to anyway. Surprise. Social interactions are no different in that regard.
But you know what, you do you. That's cool. I even said that I think @Mietze is justified, and will say it again, just so it's officially on the damn record. I just don't think it's the path I personally would have chosen, because I have different beliefs than another person. I believe that that is also allowed under ultra-liberal ideology, no?