RL Anger

Ganymede · Aug 28, 2018, 4:22 AM

The place he wants to go is opening tonight, and you never go opening night anyhow! But no, he'll stomp up the stairs and pout.

When my son does this, I tell him to close the door and be quiet.

And then I enjoy a bourbon on a porch.

He's five. He'll be fine.

Lisse24 · Aug 28, 2018, 1:31 PM

I've been in an increasing amount of pain over the past year. By the time it got to the I should talk to someone point, I already had my yearly physical scheduled. So, I went to the physical and told my Dr. I dunno what I said, but my Dr. took it all very seriously, much more than I had to that point, and began to talk about autoimmune disorders and told me about a number of blood tests she was going to order. That was nearly 2 weeks ago.

However, several weeks later, my Dr. hasn't actually put in the paperwork to order the blood tests, meaning that I can't go get them. Waiting for results of tests is always frustrating, but I feel like this is even worse, because I haven't even been able to go get the blood drawn yet.

Auspice · Aug 28, 2018, 5:15 PM

I have ADD.

I have ADD, but I haven't yet found a doctor to take me seriously enough (yay being a woman) to give me anything for it. Usually I get 'Oh your anti-depressants should help with that' (wut.) or right now it's 'More sleep should fix that' (uhuh sure).

Meanwhile I have days I get so frustrated that I want to cry. I struggle with my job. I have a whole host of coping mechanisms just for daily life.

But the real anger part is my job. It's that I have told my bosses and project managers and their reactions range from 'Okay' to 'Oh I have trouble focusing some days, too!'

and then this bullshit.

I now, as of today, have to manually track my time. Every single case. I have to note the case number, a summary of what I did on the case, and how many minutes I spent on it. Because the client is concerned I'm not 'doing enough' on my shifts. This, after months of 'here work this special project.' After months of 'spend your shift focusing on <these> cases.' <these> cases being ones that take anywhere from 30-60 minutes to complete (sometimes more)... per case.

But oh, no, now it's 'We're worried she's not being productive enough because she's not closing enough cases per shift.' Because I'll 'touch' 20+ cases, but only close, say, 5.

Mother.fuckers.
You did this.
Not me.

Maybe get better software where you can get metrics showing which cases we worked.

If you're so fucking worried about my time, don't give me another task that will take up time. Especially not a task that is madness-inducing for someone with ADD. How the fucking hell am I supposed to keep exact track of time spent?

I hate, hate, hate this path because this path leads to trying to justify my fucking existence with ADD. In a job with a company where I have witnessed (because I've done QA) people who are utterly horrendous at their job remain in their positions for months, years on end.

I'm great at my job. I just sometimes work slower than other people because of brain weasels.

Cobalt · Aug 28, 2018, 6:07 PM

Oh, hey, you already have a 2 year degree in compsci. Lets put you in a freshman compsci class that is way below your skill level!

BetterNow · Aug 28, 2018, 7:26 PM

@cobaltasaurus Yeah, I have an BS in English - Secondary Education, and had to take an english course for my AS

Macha · Aug 29, 2018, 1:26 PM

@lisse24 Call your doctor. Harrass them (politely) until they give you the order.

Misadventure · Aug 29, 2018, 4:57 AM

I did read about a study recently where signs of autism can be masked by women's generally different baselines and training. Seems that could apply to ADD as well.

Lisse24 · Aug 29, 2018, 1:26 PM

@macha said in RL Anger:

@lisse24 Call your doctor. Harrass them (politely) until they give you the order.

I have. Hence the increasing amounts of frustration.

Ganymede · Aug 29, 2018, 2:39 PM

@lisse24 said in RL Anger:

I have. Hence the increasing amounts of frustration.

Have a lawyer friend start doing this for you. Works wonders.

TNP · Aug 29, 2018, 4:15 PM

@lisse24 said in RL Anger:

@macha said in RL Anger:
I have. Hence the increasing amounts of frustration.

Find a new PCP. There's no reason to have to beg/threaten your doctor to do his job when your health depends on it.

Macha · Aug 29, 2018, 11:42 PM

So, for a decade now, I've been arguing about my diabetes diagnosis. I did my research, and have politely and repeatedly asked for the test to make sure I'm type 2. (One of the admitting Drs in the ER thought it was type 1, but then someone else took over and stated it was 2). FINALLY, last fall, someone did the test. I'm type one. They didn't tell me this until my appointment this week. They've changed my doses and timings and added other things... and 'oh yeah, we might have damaged your liver, if these test results are anything, by giving you the wrong med.'. So effing furious.

LoaKey · Aug 30, 2018, 12:56 PM

@macha I know that frustration, in that my mom spent the last 22 years misdiagnosed as a type 2. It took a week in the hospital due to diabetic ketoacidosis last summer to get her a correct diagnosis.

Bright side, now that she's on the right treatments, she feels a helluva lot better most days.

Lisse24 · Aug 30, 2018, 7:13 PM

@ganymede @TNP

As a follow-up, orders finally came through yesterday, so now I can stop being frustrated at a slow-moving PCP and start worrying that I will go and pay hundreds of dollars for blood tests that will all come out perfectly fine and show nothing.

Sunny · Oct 2, 2018, 6:56 AM

Yaaaaaay hospitals. Bleh.

Arkandel · Oct 2, 2018, 6:56 AM

Every time I think people can't get stupider...

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/bloody-zombie-princess-costume-sold-kate-middletons-family-sparks-outrage-183748823.html

Thenomain · Oct 2, 2018, 7:41 PM

This whole Brett Kavanaugh thing. It makes me ashamed. It makes me ashamed of being male. It makes me ashamed of being white. It makes me ashamed of being upper middle class. It makes me ashamed of being from his generation. It makes me ashamed of my government. It makes me ashamed of my country. There is nothing from his bad acting to his outrageous entitlement that doesn't make me angry, and on top of that I hit most of the labels that makes me outwardly similar to that monster. Fuck. That.

That is all.

Ganymede · Oct 2, 2018, 7:56 PM

@thenomain

Vote.

You'll feel better.

Specifically, vote for people who don't make excuses for that shit, like you don't make excuses for that shit.

Thenomain · Oct 2, 2018, 8:00 PM

@ganymede said in RL Anger:

@thenomain

Vote.

I think the Millennials where I work are tired of me reminding them to vote. On the other hand, I have figured out that the link between Gen-X and Millennial is pretty strong.

Ganymede · Oct 2, 2018, 8:25 PM

@thenomain said in RL Anger:

I think the Millennials where I work are tired of me reminding them to vote.

Tough shit.

You can't whine about your shitty working conditions if you don't at least do something meaningful to change the rules of the game.

Shitheads.

Thenomain · Oct 2, 2018, 8:41 PM

@ganymede

Whoa there, Cowpoke, let's slow down there. The Millennials I work with are not whiners. Mostly. They're just kids. There are a lot of tattoos and woodsman beards, but I wouldn't classify almost any of them as Hipsters.

Step One: Vote.
Step Two: Figure out who to vote for based on their history.

I know that Step Two should be Step One, but as politics has become so much marketing that being able to train yourself to understand Step Two seems daunting these days, and funny thing the political parties don't seem that excited to give people critical thinking powers.

Also something that makes me angry, but more on a slow burn:

Without critical thinking education, we are fucked.