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    AeriaNyx

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    • RE: MU Things I Love

      So, as I was talking to my best friend today, about our characters and specifically how mine is fairly psychologically damaged, I started seeing the utterly obvious parallels between my character and myself. And as I continued to pick recent events apart, I started realizing how much I use my character as a vessel to understand my own damage. I really found myself figuring my shit out, seeing behaviors in her and because there was a distance, I was able to really see the threads of cause and effect and see my RL behavior and feelings from a perspective that really helped me pinpoint problem areas. I really appreciate the fact that this medium allows for that kind of self-reflection and growth opportunity.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Critters!

      It was so hard to leave my house today, because this guy was like 'No. You stay with me.'
      0_1540571298987_Stitches.jpg

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries

      Thank you guys. Seriously, thank you so much. This is all really super helpful. Seeing it in writing really helps me absorb stuff, and as much as it sucks that some of you clearly have the same sort of anxiety I do, it's also something of a relief to know I'm not the only one dancing and trying not to trip over myself at the same time.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: RL Anger

      @Derp
      The issue I have with your comments is that it comes across as condescending. Like... Jeez little lady, you should really know better! And again, it cannot be overstated, that putting the onus on the victim is freaking ridiculous. Women know that they are in danger. We are taught this from an extremely young age. And culturally? The divide between our expectations from children of one gender or the other is staggering.

      For instance:
      When little boys fight, or misbehave, or pick on little girls, what is the most common refrain? Boys will be boys! Oh, he's only being mean to her because he likes her! That's cute! Seriously, how effed up is that?? From an extremely young age, girls are conditioned to associate cruelty with affection/attraction. That is seriously effed up.

      Girls are expected to be calmer, quieter, more socially savvy, mature and demure. School dress codes -- omg do not even get me started on those. Telling girls that they can't wear crop tops, or spaghetti straps or skirts that are too short? The reasoning? That it is 'distracting'. Fuck. Off. It is not a girl's problem if others are distracted by their bodies. Put the responsibility on the people who act inappropriately towards a girl instead of telling her that she is the cause of her own victimization. It is not a woman's responsibility to cover herself so that she does not draw the eye of men! That sets it up as though the man has no control over his baser impulses. That is insulting to everyone.

      Telling a woman she has to "be smart" and restrict her own ability to enjoy herself to the same amount as anyone else is shameful. Women are already on their guard. It's time to understand male privilege and start working towards honest equality.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Arx's Elevation Situation

      When Kael and I wrote House Keaton, we deliberately made it a county with the intention of growing it as far as we could. From day one, out of the gate, it was all about expansion. This had nothing at all to do with our IC lieges, and while our momentum stopped due to a bunch of IC stuff happening, it's still in the back of our minds to see if we can't go for duchy (Sorry @thesuntsar ), though K doesn't think we should as it isn't really realistic to think we could grow that much in such a short period of time, despite the fact that we're sitting on a veritable mountain of resources and our army is the same size as Laurent's.

      I think @Tempest is right. If there is a solid RP relationship between liege and vassal houses, it DOES add a natural deterrent to pushing for elevation, since they would be close to their liege on a personal basis. What drives the desire to rise? Wealth/prestige? Wealth is kind of a red herring -- when a House is elevated their income doesn't really change just because they get a bump in title. When Keaton became a March, we did not gain 3 counties and 9 Baronies. We just had the 3 Baronies we had while being a County. So, in terms of pure power, there isn't really a big gain beyond the acclaim granted from the achievement and the shiny new title.

      To directly address @wahoo's complaint about losing money -- that should serve as a reason to negotiate with your vassals. All of this is an opportunity to RP. Try to find something to offer them instead of being released from their vows. Or, like, make them jump through hoops to buy time to court their vassals, be they PC or NPC houses.

      This is all, I guess PVP in the strictest sense, but so long as there is open communication on an OOC level and people are willing to work with one another there shouldn't be a problem. I think the biggest hurdle there is not communicating OOCly. There is a stigma, I think, to approaching someone and being like "Hey, this is my IC goal. I understand there may be IC consequences and I'd like to work with you to see what kind of story we can develop." But an approach like that requires trust (This person, thus notified of my intent is not going to do everything in their power to fuck up my plans) (This person is trying to screw/manipulate me into rolling over and giving them everything), the ability to compromise (No one is going to get everything their way), and desire to cooperate and build story together. I try to do these things every time I engage some one. I play to have fun, but I also play with the mindset that other people are trying to have fun too.

      As in real life, if everyone took the time to treat people the way they would like to be treated and extended the basic trust that everyone else isn't a dick looking for an opportunity to fuck you over, I think we'd all be happier.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: RL Anger

      @roz Uhm, technically we're called Xennials. And when I think about how old I am, I wanna cry.

      https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-vs-xennials-biggest-differences-2018-4

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      When you feel like all your creativity has been dried up and then you stumble across an idea that shines so brightly that it motivates you to get things done just so you can do that inspiring thing. And then you do it and it is AMAZING and better yet, people ENJOY it!

      I love writing things for people that delight them. I love being surrounded by other writers who enjoy the same. Arx has taught me so much.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • AeriaNyx's Playlist

      I suppose I should go ahead and rip this bandaid off. Then again I have no idea if anyone knows me at all! I've been ghosting around the periphery of games for longer than I was active at this point.

      Past PCs/Staff:
      Honeysuckle Rose Sinclair - Redcap Shadow Courtier - Ashes2Ashes
      Geneva, Cult of Ecstasy Mage - Ashes2Ashes
      Hail - Changeling Staff - Ashes2Ashes
      ... a Troll Fiona Knight who was also a firefighter - Denver, whose name I cannot remember. T something?
      Rabbit, a bobcat pooka - Denver
      Dez, Satyr - Denver (For like, 5 minutes)
      Gir/Sister Grimm - Changeling Staff - Denver
      A merchant Eshu whose name I don't remember - Denver
      Baron Jon ap Fiona of the Butterfly Barony - TeaTime II
      Itzy, lynx pooka, one of the commoner leaders of the Commoner Freehold that I don't remember the name of, - TeaTime II
      Eiluned Sidhe with a mysterious monster under her skin - Persistence of Memory -- Was that the game set in Hawaii? I think it was set in Hawaii. Man. Uhm. Alicia? Maybe?
      Captain Rio, Scathach Sidhe based on the legend of Sedna - Arctic Rage
      Black Fury Ragabash, I can't recall the name of - Cajun Nights
      Eva, Get of Fenris Ragabash/slam poet extraordinaire - City of Hope
      Alala/Countess Ionae the lioness of Fiona - City of Hope
      Shane, Black Fury turned Silent Strider Philodox out of time - City of Hope
      SugarGlider, Changeling Staff - City of Hope
      Rhys, Fianna Philodox - City of Hope
      Lady Aeria ni Fiona the Starborn - Oathcircle
      Scabious, Co-Headstaff - Oathcircle
      Juliana Pravus - Arx
      Lark Grayson - Arx (literally overnight. I was so silly)
      Vincenzo Villente - Arx (why did I give him up again?)
      Korka Glynn - Arx

      I am positive there are more that I just can't remember.

      Current:
      Reigna Keaton - Arx
      Alecstazi Thrax - Arx

      So yeah. I had some rough patches, I was a monster flake for a good number of years. I'm pretty sure 'flake' was my defining character trait for a while there. I fell in with people that were not the greatest and I did some shitty stuff, but I'd like to think I've grown up in the 17 years I've been doing this.

      posted in A Shout in the Dark
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Breaking the Silence: Issac/Thrace

      @abyss-walker
      The proof is the fact that you posted her Facebook stuff on this forum, dude. That you are oblivious to the fact that you're willing to violate her in order to "prove" that you're right is freaking sad, and pretty damn gross. That alone is enough to show the world that you are on the wrong side of this. Let it go. You are the bad guy here.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • Learning how to apply appropriate boundaries

      I am fairly self-aware when it comes to personal character flaws, and being a people pleaser is near the top of that list. It means I am usually willing to overlook behavior that makes me uncomfortable because I would far rather be mildly uncomfortable than make someone else upset. I'll save the dime-store sob story about why I am the way I am, but I've been working on being better to myself and part of that is in learning how to establish and maintain boundaries. The biggest hurdle I am experiencing right now, however, is identifying when something is a legitimate issue rather than me being picky or fussy. I am struggling to figure out if I am being judgmental and overly standoffish, or if it is okay to for me to speak up. The problem is, I do not want to harsh someone else's fun. I know we all come to MU*ing to get access to pretendy-fun time and I really don't want to be the jackass that tells someone they are doing it wrong.

      So, this is my long-winded way of asking for advice or tips on how to ascertain if something is worth broaching and most importantly, how to address an issue in a way that doesn't come across assholish.
      I'm an asshole

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx

    Latest posts made by AeriaNyx

    • RE: Crafting Thread Part ?

      @crawfish This makes me so intensely happy! I just adooooore it so freaking much!!

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: RL Sads

      So, talked to the vet today. Have an appointment tomorrow at 10:45 to put our baby to sleep. I haven't cried this much in years. I've had an uncle and a cousin pass in the last 6 months, and this is killing me. My husband is beside himself too. I realized that like... we've had him 16.5 years, which is close to half my freaking life. Like, I've had this cat for the vast majority of my adult years. I laid in the bed next to him and just listened to him purr. I am going to miss that purr.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: RL Sads

      So, my beloved Stitch, who has been having problems, we thought, with his teeth, was discovered to have a tumor under his tongue today. I've been blessed with sixteen years with this adorable, loving, fluffmonster. He's been there for me any time I was sad or sick. He's given me years of feels and laughter and delight. We are probably going to put him down on Friday. My heart is completely broken.

      stitch.jpg

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Good TV

      @GreenFlashlight I've only seen the first two episodes thus far. The only penis I've seen was a literal snake. Not a snake's penis, but rather a dude that had a snake for a tallywhacker. Soooo. I'm not sure if that was the thing, but contextually I doubt it. When I get to the latest episode, I will be super disappointed if it goes that route, especially considering the tenor of things overall. We'll see!

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Good TV

      So many things to mention! I get the biggest kick out of The Female from The Boys being the voice actor of Glimmer from She-Ra. This delights me so much.

      She-Ra is freaking amazing.

      What is REALLY baking my noodle at the moment though, is Lovecraft Country. Holeeeee shiiiiiit y'all. From the appalling horror that was/is the reality of being black in the United States to the WTF horror that randomly appears. It is great. Great in the way that it leaves you horrified on multiple levels.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      Spur of the moment scenes with awesome people having a blast! This has been a stretch of good times. I've really been feeling much better.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: MU Things I Love

      When you feel like all your creativity has been dried up and then you stumble across an idea that shines so brightly that it motivates you to get things done just so you can do that inspiring thing. And then you do it and it is AMAZING and better yet, people ENJOY it!

      I love writing things for people that delight them. I love being surrounded by other writers who enjoy the same. Arx has taught me so much.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: RL Sads

      I just found out my cat, Cricket, has cancer. It's a cytoma, rather than lymphoma, so it's like... the best worst case scenario? But my heart is breaking and I'm struggling. I'm struggling a lot. This feels... I don't even have the words.
      CRicket.jpg

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Favorite Youtubers?

      I watch WAY too much YouTube. I am ok with this.

      Good Mythical Morning + Good Mythical More - I love me some Rhett and Link, will never apologize
      Mythical Kitchen - Josh is freaking hilarious and Nicole and Trevor are darling
      Biographics - I have really gotten into this channel lately, but then I'm a total fool for history and biographies
      Jamel aka Jamal - I don't know why I love reaction videos so much, but I really do. This guy is super positive and open, and he cried during Jeremy by Pearl Jam and just, yup. Sold.
      Frog Leap Studios - I love me some metal covers and this guy is just amazing.
      Kittisaurus - One of my cats watches this show intently. It is bizarre. She legit watches it. I love it. Plus my god, Lulu. Don't forget the subtitles unless you speak Korean. ETA: Thank you @Packrat ! WTF is wrong with people??
      Film Joy or Movies with Mikey - Super insightful, lots of interesting takes on movies and the writing behind them.
      Hot Ones - Love love love this show. Incredible interviews, funny premise.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx
    • RE: Arx Alts

      I play Reigna (shocking!) and Alecstazi (Maybe surprising?)

      posted in A Shout in the Dark
      AeriaNyx
      AeriaNyx