@Rinel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
In general, the best way to remedy this is to apologize for any hurt your words may have caused and to either rephrase the argument if it is a very important argument or, and personally I am suggesting this course of action in the instant situation, simply withdraw from the argument entirely.
Thank you. This is what I've been struggling to find the words for.
I was hurt. Because the timing of the original post was such that it felt very much like a pointed (I don't want to say attack, but certainly response) note to me. I can acknowledge that perhaps it was simply a matter of timing, but there was nothing in the wording that indicated it was a wholly separate and independent post in and of itself and based on how others have reacted, I don't believe I am the only one who felt that way.
So I don't think I am wrong in feeling hurt. And I don't think I'm wrong, either, in feeling that it would be nice to be apologized to. I am not demanding one. I am not going to put my foot down and say I am owed one. But it would be nice. I was in a very bad place (I am still not in a great one) and someone came along and said something that knocked me down further. Then, when it was pointed out that what they said was very hurtful... they later came back and attempted to paint me and those who pointed out what they said was hurtful as the villains in the thing.
Again, @Warma-Sheen, I acknowledge that it may be a matter of crossed wires: you may have come in with a wholly separate concept and it was simply poor timing (see gif below):
but instead of being like 'lemme help put out this fire' you just sort of..... threw on some gasoline and then ran away.