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@sunny said in How should IC discrimination be handled?:

ETA: Is it really that big of an OOC ask for you (generic) to not use that particular word in reference to my PC?

I don't see anyone disagreeing that with the premise that if someone asks you to OOC stop something, you should stop it.

But I'm beginning to lose the point between the goalpost-shifting here.

I play homosexual characters. I don't expect people to know if I will take a slur right or wrong OOC. I'd prefer if they didn't use slurs IC, but I can understand that their PC might do so. I'd probably avoid RPing with them in the future.

But, because I don't really know if someone's going to take the N-word or a slur well OOCly, I try to avoid using them. And, as I can't find any particular reason to use an "-ist" when building a PC, I don't see why people don't try to use other tropes and ideas to create their edgy antagonists.

I probably wouldn't create a game with a policy of DON'T USE THESE WORDS. But I might.

@SixRegrets

Office cat is awesome.

Office cat is a staple in a law firm.

Like, we don’t know where the evil is, but we’re pretty sure he does and doesn’t give a fuck as long as we keep hurling treats at him to keep the evil in check.

We believe they keep the undead away.

@thenomain said in Social Systems:

This is what most social systems lack.

Fix this.

I think I did, personally.

1. In PvE, players can roll to see if their PC successfully influences NPCs.
2. In PvP, players can roll to see whether they project their own PC in an intended manner.
3. In PvP, players cannot enforce the results of a roll on a target PC, but the target PC may elect to accept the outcome in exchange for a reward; if they don't, then the player's PC gets a reward.

As far as MUSHing, I think that having to roll to lie is silly; I think it may be more important to roll to see if your PC seems credible. Why? Because you could be telling the truth, but just come off as a liar because you can't keep your shit together.

When I get 6 hours to cook.

German red cabbage sauerkraut. Sausage soup w/ mirepoix base. Arborio risotto cooked with leftover broth from the soup. And later, gluten-free apple muffins.

Yes, my family probably doesn't deserve this, but I like to feed people.

@bored said in Repurposing a Tabletop RPG for MU* Play:

To be clear, I'm not saying it's a doomed endeavor or anything. I just think we need to dig deep and realize we've basically built new games on the mangled corpses of their original incarnations. Repeating basic WoD-isms in every 'new' system is probably the quickest way to assure we have all the same problems, right?

And people wonder why I pushed the schedule out almost a year for what looks like a Chronicles of Darkness game. I whole-heartedly concur with this. And I think if people actually read the Chronicles of Darkness core book closely, it becomes clear that it is meant to give you a structure for your game rather than fill in every little nook and cranny.

Some games are easily to mold into something new. WoD 2E is pretty easy; FUDGE/FATE is even easier. Harder games may have systems as simple as the Storyteller System, like L5R, but there are massive hurdles to do so, including, but not limited to, the need for constant GM judgment calls, the waffle-nature of the Honor and Glory systems, and so on. For D&D 5E, WH40K, and Battletech, there's the map.

So, the title is really good: you need to re-purpose your RPG if you are going to turn it into a MUSH. Innovators like Faraday and Apos (and crew) basically made their own systems, and good on them to do so.

Kitties.

I have two now.

I’ll post pictures when they stop hiding from the world.

Guess what their names are?

Use GIFs only.

@warma-sheen said in Make it fun for Me!:

Many people in this community don't know how to be competitive, meaning they can't stand going up against someone else, losing, and being okay with it - much less have fun with it.

Many people in this community need to grow the fuck up, then.

My experience differ vastly from yours. The people I run with are generally okay with winning, losing, collaborating, competing, and being good to others. Jealousy is a non-issue. Feelings are shared often and openly, with no fear of reprisal.

But if you are correct -- you may be -- this might explain why I find it difficult to stay for long on any place.

@GreenFlashlight said in Dead Celebrities 2020:

I get the feeling this thread will get moved to the Hog Pit if I say what I think about someone who gets a pass on advocating for beating women because he once did a good job pretending to be a spy who drives cool cars, so let me just say I don't think you're being sensitive.

To be clear, I don't pardon or condone what he said or did at all. I mean to say that it is a pervasive line of thought carried by a lot of older people, and by extension that we shouldn't tolerate this from old people, no matter how we are taught to love and honor family.

My mother is horridly racist, for example. Bet your life I call her out on that shit loudly ever single damn time, IDGAF who she is.

@bored said in Spotlight.:

I think MU players of any... veteran degree are going to understand that being the star all the time, or even ever (if we're talking Luke level), is impossible and would be quite happy to settle for something along the lines of the GoT secondary cast.

I've come to the opinion that there are no true stars in the best stories, and the most compelling tales to participate in are the ones where you really aren't the centerpiece.

Thanksgiving 2020 means me cooking every fucking part of the dinner: turkey; stuffing; mashed potatoes; sweet potatoes; cranberry sauce; carrots; corn; and biscuits.

@vulgarkitten said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

What's the longest one you've ever had?

All my PC's stories seem to end before marriage. But all of my PC's long-term relationships have been stories I still cherish.

@silverfox said in The Work Thread:

All the kids I've tested have fallen a full grade level, if not more.

@thatguythere said in Real life versus online behaviors:

I like it less knowing that it comes from Cosmo given the quality of a lot of their advice.

I know you probably did not mean it so, but this is sexist bullshit.

A maxim should be evaluated on the message conveyed, the clarity of that conveyance, and the power of the words used. It doesn't matter where you find it. It does not even matter who says it. If it's a cool quote or anecdote, then it's cool no matter how you come across it.

Magazines like Teen Vogue are trying very hard to change themselves into something more than what it has been in the past. In fact, Cosmopolitan won a GLAAD award for outstanding coverage in 2015. They have been fighting the general bias you're espousing for a while now, while they probably shouldn't have to.

It's okay to like Cosmo.

@auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

My best instructors were the ones who gave me honest, thorough feedback. Who were willing to take the time to talk to me when I had questions. Who provided a cut-and-dry syllabus (really, there is no need for cutesy shit with a syllabus: there's a reason there's a formula. it works and people understand it).

Well, I can give honest feedback because there are two kinds of students:

1. Students who think I am their friend, and are sorely disappointed; and
2. Students who think I am not their friend, and are never disappointed.

My syllabus will be tough to get done, I'll admit, but I'm probably going to tell them: "Look, I know you have 12 weekly assignments for 12 weeks, but get them done and in on time and you'll get the full 5% per, up to a max of 50%, then we grade your final assignment for the remaining 50% because whether I give you an A or a D won't matter if you can't pass that bar exam."

I may ride their asses like Zorro, but those students are going to have a nice portfolio of work, some worthwhile feedback, and know how to litigate a whole slew of real estate lawsuits.

I'll admit, I'm painting in broad strokes here, but, let's be fair: lots of people judge magazines like Cosmopolitan because it is tailored to a particular gender. Not everyone, yes -- but lots and lots and lots, to the point where it's almost meme-worthy to say "this is good advice ... but it came from Cosmo, so take it with a grain of salt."

Regarding the article you cited to? The veracity of the advice depends entirely on the reader and the subject. Yet the thrust of the article is, if your guy becomes secretive, changes his habits completely, or offers really detailed explanations where he didn't before, he may be hiding something ... and that something might be cheating. This isn't bad advice, but it's not 100 percent accurate -- nor should it be considered so.

If Cosmopolitan is to be judged on its basic (I mean this in a derogatory way) relationship advice, then go ahead and judge the advice so. But if you're going to go out and say "well, that sounds like great words to live by, but since it came from Cosmo, maybe not so much, ha ha", that rings in my head -- and maybe mine alone -- like saying "well, that sounds like a great investment advice, Becky, but since it came from you, a woman, I think I'll go with what Jim Cramer has to say, ha ha."

I don't mean to say that ThatGuyThere went that far, but I'm stepping in to say, hey, let's not disregard something or treat it as lesser simply because it comes from Cosmo.

@derp

I argued it was a satire on bad parenting.

I got an A.

@lotherio said in Wheel of Time mechanics:

Thanks to Daithi, we got to run turtles vs wall, two turtles vs a section of wall set up using FS3 vehicle.

Those battles were more like:

Daithi yells something incoherent.
Enemy nearly cuts Daithi's head off; he goes down.
Healer revives Daithi.
Daithi grunts and goes back at it.
Enemy nearly cuts Daithi's head off again; he goes down.
Healer revives Daithi.
Daithi swears and goes back at it.
Enemy sticks a sword through Daithi's belly; he goes down.
Healer revives Daithi.
Daithi loses his shit, and crushes Enemy's skull with axe.
Enemy slowly dies wondering what on Earth will stop Daithi.
Everyone else in the party destroys the wall while Daithi serves as a meatshield.

Which was really frustrating from my end because I just wanted to hit people with an axe.

Anyhow, so goes the Legend of the Turtle.

@puppybreath said in How are you coping with COVID (and other 2020 fun)?:

It's been several days and I'm still so fucking angry that I probably didn't even write this well enough to convey why I'm so fucking angry.

Oh, I think we all felt it.

@arkandel said in Let's talk about TS.:

3. Then set expectations: How often do you want TS? Is it a garnish or the main course when you come online? (Yes, double-entendre there, har har, GTFO.)

That's a tough issue to bring up, I think. A poster here brought up in a recent thread she had someone as-a-joke-but-not-really-hah-hah complain about the regularity of TS, and I've been shared pages in the past by people who explicitly state that's what they're on the game for.

Too fucking bad? If you want to make sure that you're having enjoyable pretend-time sex, you absolutely have to fucking tell the other person how often you want it. There's nothing wrong with telling people you want to bang-bang-bang all the time. But there is something wrong to get your PC into a relationship with mine and bitch-whine when I'm off doing something else and you want your orifices stabbed or schlong sucked.

Get the fuck out of my face if you can't be up front with something that's important to you.

What I'm wondering is how often folks are honest, either to themselves or to their partners, about how often they do want this to happen. Is it a fallback on a rainy day when not much else is happening or the, as you aptly put it, main course?

For me, yes. For others, no. That's why you should set expectations.

4. Then discuss what you like: Do you prefer the grinding, descriptive, purple-prose TS, or the light-hearted, fun-having TS that leads to injuries and escapades?

Another sensitive point here is that in the early stages it might seem presumptious to start the conversation at all. You meet someone you don't know too well OOC yet - maybe you're chatting in pages about video games or whatever, then RP starts heading into that kind of direction... it's a step forward to start busting out the sex questions.

Let me ask you this: when you're with a new partner in real life, do you casually slip on a rubber and push your meat into their ass? Or do you simply presume that, because they are into the moment, that they would be cool with that?

At some point, you need to talk about what you like and don't like. If you don't start at the beginning, you risk souring a relationship with surprise butt sex. Take Lawyerbot's advice: talk first, fuck second.

@rinel

Estate work might be your thing, especially for LGBTQ+ clients. Polyamory is a difficult situation to deal with when it comes to estate planning, for instance.