@Auspice said in Mental Health and Grown Up Stuff:
It's dangerous to the people in the thick of it, tho.
It's like that article even said- that woman had people in a cancer group who were the most optimistic people she'd ever met. Which, props to them for being positive. It's hard in that state.
Sure. People can elect to feel however they feel about a certain topic. I'm okay with that. Shoving platitudes on someone does little to make them feel better, though. And I've learned that it breeds resentment and can even exacerbate the problem.
My partner gets panic attacks about examinations in her program, which she gets every 2 or 3 weeks. I used to try to pep her up and encourage her, but she told me recently that just made it worse. Made her feel like, if she didn't pass, that she'd be letting me down. So my new strategy is just letting her deal with it her own way, and trying not to get frustrated from the fact that I've seen her for only a few hours every couple of weeks, and, by then, I'm so lonely and detached that I've nothing to say to her.
I mean, I can basically feel our partnership falling to bits, but I don't say shit about it. It doesn't help. The only thing I can hope is that, at the end of the road, there's something to cling onto that we can build around.