Partner: I was thinking of cooking tonight. You deserve a break.
I do love to cook, but I also cook because I like to eat and I learned very early on in our relationship that, as smart and wonderful as she is, she'd make Anne Burrell cry.
How do I gently tell her that I'd rather cook for myself without making it obvious that I fear for my life?
Yeah, St. Petersburg was quite an experience, but it did not fall due to her actions.
@arkandel said in Good or New Movies Review:
It also managed very well (in my opinion) to avoid the 'comic book prose' of a direct conversion from the source material coming off as a bit forced. For example I found Watchmen to suffer from that a bit.
No part of Watchmen suffered from the added narration, in my opinion.
If anything, it made the film so much more enjoyable.
@solstice said in The Work Thread:
Just found out that I am making 56% less than the person who was hired a week before me, is ten years my junior, and who has demonstrably fewer responsibilities (and to be petty, who barely understands the job.)
You could report this to your higher-ups and indicate that you learned of this truth from said person.
It's under-handed skulduggery, but, y'know, capitalism.
Thank you to everyone offering financial support. We definitely appreciate it.
That said, what we really need are a handful of folks willing to scout the options and report back. Again, PM me if you're interested.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I've straight up told them people steal things. No response. The neighbor has a camera pointed at our front DOOR (whom has been one of the people stealing and vandalizing our things, because I was polite to her husband. No, I wish I was kidding) , I asked them to request the tenant point it at their own door.
I know this is not a solution to the problem of your neighbors or landlord, but have you considered getting a P.O. Box?
@tnp said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Lets not forget onomatopoeia. BING The bell is binging.
"Bing" may be onomatopoeic, but that doesn't make it a verb. Bells don't 'bing'; they ring.
I am reviving this thread because we need some assistance.
I have decided that it is best for us to try to find a new host and forum platform to use. I love what we have but, from all accounts, it is a little out-dated. I would like to put together a small committee of members to seek out and make recommendations regarding the following:
Important details include cost, ease-to-use, and how quickly we can set the place up. Our staff will consider the recommendation seriously and I will (likely) personally bear the set-up cost.
We know how much this community means to some people, so any interested should PM me as soon as possible. Once we have a committee of three, we'll set them loose on the internet.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
But we didn't sign these changes into our lease, and like hell I know how we prove this shit (in some cases literally) isn't ours.
Did you sign changes to your lease?
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
Have I entered a state of delusion, or can a landlord suddenly change rules/terms/fines for xyz on a lease without advance notice or it being.. oh, signed?
Generally, no.
@tinuviel said in GMs and Players:
So while evidence of rule-breaking is important, we as staff/runners/people do have to be aware that different people will digest different levels of abuse differently.
This.
There is no one standard. Staff will employ what standards they are comfortable with. No one is owed a uniform standard of proof or process. Some will demand more evidence than others.
And that’s okay.
As someone studying the new Title IX regulations, I can only watch in horror.
Uh. This is a bad faith claim, if I ever heard of one.
@icanbeyourmuse
I restored all your previously deleted posts in this thread. If you want to re-delete any or all of them, go for it.
@betternow said in GMs and Players:
So how do you figure out which it actually is? Or (I know, revolutionary idea) Could BOTH player and staffer be the problem in the same equation?
I don't try to figure it out. The point of the question is to self-reflect. And when I do that, I usually find an answer I am comfortable with.
If I am not being fair, I should try to be more fair. If I am being fair, then there is nothing more I can do.
It does not matter if the staffer is fair or not; what matters is the decision I end up making.
@icanbeyourmuse
Did you want me to try and undelete?
@derp said in Decriminalise Pretty:
I need to finish Korra. Is it on Netflix?
Yes. So's Avatar and S:PoP.
I'm binging ATM on Fresh Prince of Bel-Air on HBO Max too.
@runescryer said in Decriminalise Pretty:
However, you've inspired me to do another PoP binge through while waiting for Tiger & Bunny Season 2 to drop on Netflix in April...
I'm going back through LoK because Korra is my boo.
Except that's not all il-volpe said.
Players will have the unreasonable expectation of fairness. They think that if they interact with the game correctly they’ll have as much chance of fun as anybody else, and the systems will work for them the same as for others. The latter can be approximated. The former is impossible on an open MUSH but you must make a run at it and expect some pushback when you inevitably fall short.
If something is impossible, why should I attempt to make it possible? If fairness is an unreasonable expectation, why should I cater to it? And if the reason is only "because this is what you signed up for as staff" then I can easily avoid additional stress in my life by not signing up.
As has been said a hundred times in a hundred different ways, finding staff who are reasonable, diligent, and trustworthy is an extraordinarily difficult task for someone running a game. People who fit this mold have other important duties and responsibilities in their lives. They are generally unwilling to take on additional duties and responsibilities to run a game that includes players who have unreasonable expectations or demand that they make the impossible possible.
Here's a "revolutionary" question that has helped guide me in my past decade of MUSHing: am I being fair to staff?