@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
Update: Rheumatology office called. Told me to follow the Neuro's desired plan (AKA no tylenol for a month, which leaves me with no pain relievers at all) and that he did not feel Medical MJ was something to be considered at this time.
You could try non-medical marijuana?
@sahin said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
it's super weird, in the shadow of turning a certain age, that I thought I would have my shit totally figured out -- but, nope, at 42 here I am sitting and and going -- that's right, the gender binary is bullshit and you should get a binder because why the fuck not.
I'm 42 and I've been playing around with the ol' binary construct since I deliberately picked this handle about 20 years ago.
@sunny said in Forum wonk:
Yeaaaah, I don't think money is the thing here, it's time/energy, both of which unfortunately cannot be purchased outright. Or we would.
Right. My priorities are:
In that order.
I have a task force together now. We are looking to open a new place first, then worry about porting stuff over. If I have to do it manually, so be it.
But we need a new place.
I'm sorry for the delay. RL continues to get busier and busier.
Double-posting because of something Aria said months ago.
I read a post on Facebook complaining about how Turning Red was objectionable, but Luca, which has a young male protagonist that rebels against his parents, was not. The post insinuated the misogynistic spirit in a lot of the criticism leveled at Turning Red. That observation isn't off-point, but it really does not do either movie justice.
Turning Red is a movie about the trauma families inflict on one another, particularly among women. This runs contrary to the unconditional love Mei's friends apparently have for one another. But it is important to point out that, unlike many films, the antagonistic force isn't male or phallocentric; it is wholly "feminine."
Luca is a movie about parental alienation. Luca's parents alienate him by refusing to understand him; Giulia's parents alienate her because of their own alienation as divorcees; and Alberto's parents simply leave him. That trauma motivates their actions: Luca seeks freedom; Giulia seeks approval; and Alberto seeks parental love.
In Turning Red, parental love is seen as a destructive force. Even when Ming is a monstrous red panda, she's still the "parent": she criticizes the 4*Town crew, shouting guilt slogans, and being judgmental. But in Luca, it is something healing -- something all the children are really looking for. They are two different movies with different themes, and it would be nice if people recognize this.
If you haven't seen Luca -- it was also a straight-to-Disney-plus Pixar film -- you really should. It is beautifully understated and quiet, and brilliant in construction. Once you see that, go watch Ciao, Alberto and cry some more.
Pixar is really hitting hard with its films.
@aria said in Good or New Movies Review:
I watched Turning Red last night and also enjoyed it.
About the only thing that they didn't add is how other non-Chinese would tell Mei how proud her parents must be and how good a job they did for her being so successful, while casually ignoring the telltale signs of mental abuse.
@tinuviel said in GMs and Players:
Especially if/when other staff use that same NPC.
I hate it when other staff return my NPCs without washing them first.
@bear_necessities said in GMs and Players:
If I feel like the optics are bad, I change my approach to certain things.
If the optics are so poor that a disinterested third party thinks I've acted with bias, then I would seriously question the decision I made.
@bear_necessities said in GMs and Players:
So I'm going to disagree with that point, because I'm 110% positive that every staff on every game is at some point perceived as having a bias. Whether or not that perception is reality is one thing, but if staff should step down every time they are "perceived" as having bias? We wouldn't have anyone staffing.
This is fair. I'll amend.
@kanye-qwest said in GMs and Players:
No one in the world has ever done anything without bias.
Thank you, Polonius, but I did not say otherwise. I said:
Sure, bias is inescapable; however, we can expect others to play without it and to accuse us of having it if we make a poor choice.
@icanbeyourmuse said in GMs and Players:
Note, I am on the side that staff should not be held to a higher standard/treat being staff like it is a job.
This is where you lost me. Staff have more power on a game due to their access to commands that other players cannot. Enter the Spider-Man truism and power and responsibility.
Staff are people playing in a hobby they are there to have fun in and escape the BS they get from their job/RL.
If you want to play, then play; if you want to staff, then staff; but if you staff, people are going to expect you to play without bias; and if you are perceived as having bias then you should no longer staff.
Turning Red was made for people like me.
Chinese? Check. Canadian? Check. Impossible-to-please mother? Check.
Actually, if you take out the first two, that also works.
But, I mean, I cackled when I saw the Daisy Mart, SkyDome, and No. 15 on Tyler's purple jersey.
@too-old-for-this said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
A lot of women have a poor understanding of how the female body works. Bible Belt sucks for having an extra level of 'your body is sinful and you should do everything you can to never acknowledge it', but it's bad everywhere.
Look, if I can't make a sex joke here, where can I make one?
@too-old-for-this said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
So! Yes, being in the Bible Belt doesn't help (hi, raised in Iowa), but that's not the only part of it. I moved away from the BB when I was 18 and quickly found that it doesn't really matter where you go, poor understanding of how the female body works (even to the degree of the similarities between men and women, like shaving) is still rampant.
Based on my experiences, men from all backgrounds really suck at understanding how the female body works.
@sunny said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
There's a first time for everything.
A public orgy it is, then.
It doesn't sound like there's a way to avoid making a choice between eating the bad food and hurting her feelings.
She knows how I feel about her cooking.
If it helps, I always ate the bad food, and it never killed me.
There's a first time for everything.
(Note: I know there is no good solution, but I'm mostly grousing and laughing at this point.)
@greenflashlight said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Sometimes you just gotta smile through the meal your loved one makes you.
I have sacrificed much in this relationship, but sacrificing a meal is yet to be one.
Yeah, see, she knows I like cooking. I think she just wants to cook for me. Which is sweet, but what she’ll make will probably taste like sadness.
Partner: I was thinking of cooking tonight. You deserve a break.
I do love to cook, but I also cook because I like to eat and I learned very early on in our relationship that, as smart and wonderful as she is, she'd make Anne Burrell cry.
How do I gently tell her that I'd rather cook for myself without making it obvious that I fear for my life?
