This doesn't work for MU*s, but every ttrpg I've been in has had a session 0 where we discuss the tone of the upcoming game, what we can reasonably expect to see, and what people are not okay with. With the option to send a private message to the DM if you want to nix something without airing it publicly.
This, to me, is a basic courtesy to everyone involved.
Yeah, I think pretty much everyone who has unusual triggers is aware that their triggers are unusual. "Content Warning: Drowning" is likely going to be something someone with a problem brings up beforehand or does what @Pyrephox described above. They aren't going to get mad about it.
Now, if you casually drop sexual assault on your players without explicitly asking how they feel about such things? Yeah, you're a shitty person.
Despite how the "anti-SJW" crowd likes to portray folks, people who request trigger warnings are for the most part extremely reasonable people who happen to have experienced something really upsetting and would like to avoid experiencing it again.
ETA: gotta say @Derp I was surprised at your response, because
@greenflashlight said in Sensitivity in gaming:
because compassion is a resource you limit to immediate friends and family.
is definitely how I also took it. I hope I'm wrong.
@derp said in Sensitivity in gaming:
This thread comes from a place of like -- gushing empathy, but there is an entire other side of the population that learn to professionally disconnect from emotional reactions and making decisions based on how people feel.
Right, but here's the thing--if you come home from the courthouse or the hospital or whereever and you can't reconnect? You're in serious shit, mental health wise. Yes, I've looked at autopsies and talked about dead people and examined detailed reports of sexual abuse of toddlers, and yes, I was able to leave that at the office and come home and sleep at night just fine.
But holy shit I did not adopt that as my primary way of living! You can't look at life like a courtroom or an operating theater. You just can't. It will wither your soul.
@nyctophiliac said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
I pull a lawn chair up to the wall and get my kid over, who's panicked and running up and down the length of the wall screaming.
He immediately gets, fully dressed, into the pool.
...what
Our reporting is required yearly, but it's only 12.5 hours and it doesn't have to have anything to do with what we practice, which is why I spent a day three weeks ago listening to 4 hours of how to set up business entities in such a way as to reduce tax liability.
And thank you for your kind words. It was a combination of the work and the workplace. Once I'm better, I'll return to the fight in some manner or other. My character comes by her ornery stubbornness honestly.
Ugh. It's a nightmare in Louisiana particularly. We'll see how this sensitivity training works out, first.
Thanks, robocat. 
At the end of the day, law school just doesn't prep you to know whether or not you're built for litigation. I still like policy work, and when I'm healthier I intend to get back into it. But the relentless pace combined with my mental health combined with my transition combined with, you know...
gestures at 2020
It burnt me out. But like I said: keeping the license. Still paying dues, doing CLEs. Just in case.
@ganymede said in How are you coping with COVID (and other 2020 fun)?:
I'm a lawyer. We're supposed to be essential. But not all of us have to deal with criminal stuff.
And those of us who do can't always handle it. I quit my job and have been unemployed since August, though I'm keeping up my license. It was too much. Still living with my parents, helping around the house, trying to fix my mental state. Hopefully going to start up a joint venture with my mother educating lawyers about trans issues, but everything is in flux right now.
So, like... I've been talking to friends, playing video games, and trying to ignore the crushing sense of failure.
In the large scheme of things I know this is a shitty thing to feel so sad about, but.
In the large scheme of things, loving and being loved is all that really matters.
I took a 3 year long leave of absence from my undergraduate university and ended up becoming an attorney. Take care of yourself. My poor care of my own mental health throughout my twenties has robbed me more than any extended leave of absence ever could. Nobody will judge you for having taken a break in 2020.
At least it seems that it was private for him and his family. What the fuck. That's horrible.
Not good if you have TMJ, like I do, but then again neither is chewing ice and taking abominable care of your teeth because of depression and never going to see a dentist because they'll hate you and judge you for being a terrible garbage person who doesn't take care of her teeth or even FLOSS
like I also do
Yeah I mean I think it's useful to say here that there are relative limitations to how "hippy" a church can be and stay within the bounds of Nicene Christianity (which the Unitarian Universalists and various sects of Quakers, laudable though they may be, do not).
@Tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Rinel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
super hippie Presbyterian church
... how in the fuck does that happen?
PCUSA was the first major denomination to have gay marriage in the US. Not hard at all.
Those two things are totally not the same thing, at all.
shrug
The PCUSA pastor I know best is into punk gardening and bees.
@Tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
super hippie Presbyterian church
... how in the fuck does that happen?
PCUSA was the first major denomination to have gay marriage in the US. Not hard at all.
When people have the temerity to be walking around and doing things
I never minded being an agoraphobe until I had to deal with living with two other humans who also never leave the house.