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Things that make me want to RP more with a person: their RP is fun and they are nice OOC. RP being fun can be pretty subjective, but -- picking up what I'm dropping, giving stuff in return, etc. Being attentive and responsive. Having a sense of specificity to their PC, which is what makes PCs really seem alive to me instead of kind of generic. Being generally considerate and a good sport.

Things that turn me off? In actual RP terms, I really hate a sense of IC gaslighting. Even when it's totally legit IC, it just gets under my skin and I don't like playing with it, so I'm likely to avoid that character or player in the future. By this I mean that sense of, like -- PC A does something super rude or whatever, my PC reacts like it's rude, and then I get a whole bunch of "omg you're so unreasonable/I wasn't being rude" back IC. I think this is more likely just a level of OOC unawareness, but it super bugs me, so I avoid it when I encounter it.

OOC clingyness, rudeness, etc. I don't have a problem with RPing with a person a bunch if we're both really feeling it, so long as we're both also chill with the other being like "Okay gonna go RP with some other folks!" I've had RP partners like that and it's totally great.

I'll say disrespecting my time rather than wasting. If we have plans and RL happens, it happens! But please don't then leave it on me to follow up when you come back around the game. If I get suddenly held up and miss someone, I'll be paging or mailing them as soon as I'm back to the game for a quick apology. The whole "miss a planned thing and then don't even bother to say anything" drives me a bit nuts.

I tend to be on channels a lot, so just -- idk man, sometimes I find someone generally aggravating in how they talk on channel, and then I don't particularly want to RP with them. If you are OOCly rude, patronizing, etc., where I can see, I probably don't want to play with you.

Being demanding/entitled about RP or in RP. Being inconsiderate.

I WILL ADD MORE IF I THINK OF MORE.

New glasses!

@ominous Yeah I'm aware. Well, I'm aware that Darren tried to abstain because he decided that the months everyone had had to look into matters was inadequate but the vote had already been put off for way too long so people had to vote and so he had to pick a side and thus picked not doing it. The only person who really emphatically voted against it was Edain.

Berenice

When you get to have scenes so full of emotion and history, that are full of hard choices and built on several RL years of relationship history and continuity between two PCs, that are just -- so rich and layered and have so much unspoken between the lines but that so much is clear because of all the time that was spent building the dynamic...guh. So good.

@kk said in Goodbye.:

While we have historically not got along, have clashing personalities, I am confident that many players found your games to be wonderful fun and remember them fondly and don't find your replaceable, far from it.

You and I have not historically gotten along either, but I just wanted to say that your post was really, really lovely and really gracious.

@sparks I think that uncoupling -- or reducing -- the connection between house prestige and house income would go a long way as a stopgap. I think that's a really huge area where it kind of comes down to people feeling a lot of pressure, and I think it's a really big area in which the "prestige is a minigame" intent can fail. (Then again, the potential pitfall of that is then it becomes -- what value is social stuff bringing the house at all to encourage houses to support their social PC projects?)

@macha said in The Work Thread:

I mean, I will probably offer to stay at current job, if they will match the small amount more for the job I pee in a cup for tomorrow (as soon as things are set in stone with a new job, I will let you all know. Without you guys, I think last month would have... been very, very bad.

I know they won't do it, but then I can say I offered in good faith, and well.. money is money

Don't do it. Don't do that even for a job you otherwise like decently, because 1) it tells them that you're looking for other opportunities meaning they'll invest in you less, and 2) you don't want to stay at a place that will only give you a raise if you're about to leave.

DEFINITELY don't do it for a job you don't want to stay at. There's no expectation -- no reasonable expectation by actual sane people, at least -- that employees are expected to give their employers room the counteroffer. It's not included in the professional norm of leaving a job. Just put in your notice and GET THE HELL OUT OF DODGE.

@kanye-qwest i made FORMULAS and it AUTOMATICALLY MARKED WHO WAS IN FIRST AND LAST PLACE and i just had to iNPUT ROLLS and it was GREAT

@Derp Witness testimony is, in fact, evidence in a trial. And multiple witnesses all corroborating the same story is pretty strong evidence.

Are you saying that if a woman you were personally close to came to you and said, "I've gotten groped and harassed at multiple geek gatherings," your response would be, "Okay, prove it?" This isn't a freaking legal trial. If people were being charged with crimes, then yeah, let the court and its requirements for proving beyond a reasonable doubt rule. Do guys just think there's a massive conspiracy women are running to -- what, even? Take away the boobs in their video games? Just have guys notice when someone in their vicinity is being harassed and support her in shutting it down? Just being more aware to the experience of people outside themselves?

No, I don't have evidence of every instance of my daily life. I haven't happened to be recording my whole day to catch the times I've been sexually harassed.

If something shitty happened to you on a regular basis, and happened to the majority of your friends, and you all spoke up to say, "This shitty thing keeps happening," wouldn't you feel fucking shitty to get laughed at and said, "Okay, I know a huge group of you is saying this, but prove it?"

Yeah, it is fucking shitty.

There's no real way to win on that for staff tbh. People get unhappy if a game is too big for the staff vision to be able to handle and accommodate, but people also get unhappy when staff starts capping numbers. No easy answer. In the end it amounted mostly to "first come, first serve" that they kept open into the evening to try and let people get home from work to slip on, even though they were pretty much over double what they were expecting. I guess by definition it's exclusionary in that there are people being excluded! Like, I can't actually argue with the word. Anything that isn't open is exclusionary. The reasoning of "this is the number of players we can comfortably handle with our number of staffers" is a common enough idea in the MU* community, though. Idk!

Accepted a job offer for a position I'm really excited about after negotiating up the initial offer an additional $8k and one week's vacation. Pretty happy!

@TiredEwok said in How To Treat Your Players Right:

I am all for reporting people for shit behavior. I totally am. But there are ways to deal with it on the player's end that can, and in my opinion, should be done first. Outside of extreme cases, reporting a person to staff should only be done as a last resort, in my opinion. So-in-so is doing something you consider harassment? Block them via client after telling them to leave you alone and that you'll be blocking them, logging you doing so. If they circumvent it or find other ways to bother you... then report them. Provide the log of you asking them to leave you alone and notifying you'll be blocking them along with the other evidence.

ETA: Staff usually has enough on their plates as it is. FFS, please stop adding to their work load. Do what you can on your end first before involving them.

STRONGLY disagree. If someone literally can't respect a person's direct request not to engage with them OOCly, I absolutely want to know immediately. I think that methods of page-blocking just -- end up directing people to harass others. Like, if someone just annoys you/hits your buttons but not in a harmful sort of way and you want to gag their OOC chatter or whatnot, that's fine, that's not reportable, that's just a peeve. But I absolutely want to know if someone can't respect a simple boundary of "please don't page me." Because people who can't respect simple boundaries inevitably can't respect even more important ones. I want to deal with that early, not after a number of people have all page-blocked someone without saying anything so that that person can just continue to fester on the game bothering people.

@Meg said in Forum Factions:

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The problem with equating TSing with someone as having an OOC sexual relationship with them is that it's pretty much the foundation for a lot of OOC abuse and manipulation wherein actual problems occur from people assuming their IC relationship with someone extends to OOC and then you've got people behaving with aggressive entitlement, jealousy, etc. in a super inappropriate way. Or literally using the presumed relationship as a tool to be an actual predator. Like, the idea that TS = an OOC relationship of some sort is the cause of huge problems. Thus, when you use the justifications some players use to abuse or misbehave and spread it as an inherent fact of any IC sexytimes -- well. I am honestly surprised at the people who don't understand why several people are super skeeved out right now. Because it seems like such a dangerous statement to make that literally supports the viewpoints of people who want to use TS as a means to control and manipulate others.

I do really wish everyone could just get in the habit of not tagging people if they're not actually addressing them to have a conversation.

ETA: If I tag you, I'm THROWING DOWN.

I've never peeked into Horror MU* but I just want to say I always kind of delight in hearing about each of your new seasons. It's really cool to see something totally different from the typical styles continue to find fun and success. I HOPE EVERYONE KEEPS ENJOYING

@auspice said in Visit Fallcoast, sponsored by the Fallcoast Chamber of Commerce:

@wretched said in Visit Fallcoast, sponsored by the Fallcoast Chamber of Commerce:

yeah people can 'use their imagination'

Using your imagination on a text based game.

How novel.

That's kind of unnecessary. @Wretched isn't alone in being a player who uses grids to get a sense of space and geography for a MU*'s setting. I mean, yeah we can all use our imaginations, but we still use character sheets and have files about setting and theme to give structure to a game. A grid's size and structure informs how players understand the setting. Yes, grids can totally be too big. They can also be too small, and temprooms aren't a viable replacement for an actual grid for a large number of players.

I am pretty damn particular with my email/RL name because I am literally the only person with it. Both first and last name are very uncommon, so the combination is entirely unique. The idea of sharing that casually is totally unnerving to me just because of that.

@Kireek said in Arx- Gareth:

3. Did not ask to see that players stats. If saying I'm curious about the rest of a players sheet now once I learned they had freely offered 100 xp into another bit of stats is asking.. and then they offer it, I didn't technically ask, did I, I never demanded they tell me either.

I don't know anyone involved with this, but honestly this is all I really need. "I didn't ask to see his stats, I just happened to say I was curious about them in a manner that clearly expressed I would like to know! That's not technically asking!!"