Posts made by saosmash

I usually try to leave them open to players to decide who they're going to sleep with. I did deliberately sheet several to be LGBTQA, but -- A lot of the time I just don't mention a gender of lovers at all (Silvio is the first example that comes to mind) or just don't mention lovers at all and let people decide what they're gonna do themselves (most common).

What I've never done is sheet someone to be straight. Individual players can play straight if they want, but I'm never going to proscriptively say "and she doesn't like girls".

Yeah uh I've definitely heard assertions that I am playing some kind of gay fetish character and I found them pretty depressing considering I haven't even had any sex on the character in yeeaaars.

It definitely happens that players do this and that there are many awful fetish caricatures out there -- but it also happens that it is weaponized as a critique, particularly against players who aren't doing what you want, I guess.

@Auspice i... the entire internet is full of porn, what??

Optimus Prime would be a great role model to name a high school after!

@Auspice Man, I live in the pacific northwest and every single time I have tried out chicken with waffles it has had a motherfucking bone in it. This knowledge you are sharing that it is supposed to be a boneless chicken tender makes the whole thing make so much more sense.

@surreality Uggggggggh.

@mietze In my jurisdiction at least, we have ensured that if the Department respects no other wishes of the bio family, they get a voice in hair. Uhh, and religion. Hair and religion. That's about it, but they're pretty significant to people.

i hear someone wants more kitties

I think it is valid to challenge yourself by playing (respectfully) outside of what you know. I also think it is valid to not want to do that.

@reversed I can't remember if that was me or if it was the person whose character I rewrote, but I do think it's funny.

My eyes are blue. I have never found them at all exciting. This thread is telling me that I am weird in a way I did not know.

I like to play diverse characters on games in no small part because I don't like the idea that the racial/ethnic makeup of the story that my character is in will be so fricking white. Empathy is good for you.

Do agree that if everyone is white but the bad guys, problem. Also characters that are just stereotypes, gross.

sometimes rp is just fun.

@mietze Oh man this sounds scary. I hope the chest thing doesn't recur. Fingers crossed for you.

The film of Just Mercy was absolutely brilliant. I loved it. Gut punch. Haven't read the book tho.

Been rereading some Heyer. I need fluff rn. Just finished The Talisman Ring last night.

http://arx.mythicus.net/Getting_Started may be helpful - there are a number of guides to stuff on the player wiki.

https://www.verywellmind.com/best-online-therapy-4691206

I've been too chickenshit to take the plunge and get myself a therapist so I can't offer a testimonial or anything, but there do appear to be resources out there.

@A-B Don't worry. It's not your fault that Groth used this to go off on an only tangentially applicable crusade, and readers of your thread will not blame you for that.

@groth You have no idea what someone else is feeling; you don't know their trauma or their disorders. You can only interact with them according to your own capacity. Your assumptions here about the suffering of others are frustrating because many, many people on this forum struggle with various kinds of disorder.

Empathy does not require commonality of experience - it is empathy. I can respect, even understand, the feelings and emotions of someone different from me without experiencing them. Many people have great capacity for empathy and imagination. When I can't, I can recognize the limits of my own perceptions and still recognize the validity of their emotions and feelings.

I can empathize with another person whose struggle is wildly different from my own. That empathy does not require that I twist myself into a pretzel trying to subordinate my needs to theirs.

It's not anyone's job but my own to manage my mental health. And in my experience, people attempting to use MU** as their therapeutic outlet - it's as unhealthy for them as for everyone around them. It not only isn't fair to the rest of the game, it doesn't work.

This is a hobby. If you treat it as a lifeline instead, your levels of intensity are going to be uncomfortable for others.

Game staff are not therapists. Fellow players are not a support group. Boundaries are important.