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@Sunny Ditto that, in full.

@ziggurat said in RL Anger:

All the Kavanaugh discourse on FB/at work/with family has rendered me really emotionally exhausted because I feel compelled to argue about it.

We may disagree on a lot, but as someone who has also been through some profound ugliness... take a break from facebook. Trust me on this one. Doing that for the past series of political clusterfucks has absolutely helped. It doesn't solve everything, but I swear, it has absolutely helped.

(Whenever someone links me something from there, just one glance at my feed has me running like hell screaming NOPE NOPE NOPE until someone links some funny comic or whatnot directly again.)

@Auspice said in How to Escape the OOC Game:

But if all of your friends always agree with everything you do....chances are they aren't being honest with you.

For all that shit ultimately went sideways, this is something I always appreciated about you when we were talking regularly and whatnot, and I always tried to do the same.

It led to some explosions sometimes, which sucked, but it's worth noting? I wish more people were like that. The one person I go to about this stuff lately is very much a 'look at things from a zillion angles' thing.

@macha said in RL Anger:

Dr. Ford's coming forward and telling a national audience about her trauma 'inspired' a slimeball who assaulted me to post about how you just don't force yourself on a woman who says stop. That was the tipping point. I called him out on Facebook, tagged him and just let people know. He's a professor at a local college, so he came to me all apologetic, ...and then changed his name on FB to a nickname to hide himself from his work entanglements. He confessed with of course the favorite male caveat 'That's not how I remember it", and then came to me to try and manipulate me into silence. "Do you think I should lose my job over this?" "Do I need to get a lawyer?" "The more my name comes up in connection with this incident, the more likely I could lose my job. That's not your problem, per se, but it will have an impact." ... Which is all classic guilt the victim abuser crap 101. And then he wondered why I got angry. I'm still angry. I don't know how to NOT be angry about it. Part of me thinks I should send the screenshots to the college, let them decide. Part of me, the victim in me, doesn't think it should go that far. Which just winds me back up at anger.

If you are up to dealing with the... well, we all know what happens when people report, do. Please report. The college should know.

@Ganymede Y'all have done great with the situation I brought to your lap, baffling as fuck as it is. Thank you.

Can confirm, they are not fucking around with this stuff.

@ganymede Silly Gany, don't you know you're not allowed to know more than someone with a penis?

We just don't have the equipment to understand complicated things like just really liking beer, or working out with your bros, let alone the super-dong-required rocket science territories of law or politics.

@Tinuviel Well, those people are dumber than a sack of hair, and if that assessment offends them, yay.

@jinshei OMG POUNCYBUTT! <ded of cute>

@Ghost You can actually take a quirk this time that guarantees you will meet a horrible end and die.

@sunny It is still a pretty awesome thing -- even if it's a pain in the butt re: finding comfy stuff handy.

@Roz said in How to Escape the OOC Game:

I am pretty damn particular with my email/RL name because I am literally the only person with it. Both first and last name are very uncommon, so the combination is entirely unique. The idea of sharing that casually is totally unnerving to me just because of that.

This. Very much this. Same boat completely.

There is a reason that when a guest on a game paged me with my real first and last name from out of nowhere, I had one hell of a panic attack.

I am so glad I love the hell out of spinach, so I can more or less dodge kale.

@Ghost Yeah, this dude claimed to not have malicious intentions, but... no. Not only is that bullshit, people who do that shit without identifying themselves in some fashion (he did not) know exactly what they're doing.

(That was volley one in the recent round of nonsense that, thankfully, Ark and Gany are being champs at keeping from spilling onto the forum, despite the fact that the person in question keeps chasing me here. Srsly, that was just the opening shot... )

@aria Much luck!

Also, these are not my critters. I do not know whose critters these are. I just stumbled across this picture the other day and it might be one of the most adorable things on the internet, and it's in theme with 'cute fuzzy creatures in people clothes/costumes'.

The potency of cute going on there is dangerously high.

Not remotely cool in anyone's ad thread, y'all. Not even a little bit.

ETA: TY, Ark.

Legends of Tomorrow continues to be the campiest happy on television at the moment in this house.

My husband could not make it through season 1. I wasn't terribly interested, either. It got a bit better in season 2, as they started to get far less serious. They finally hit their stride on ridiculousness for season 3 -- and all it took was one episode to get him to watch from there. Season 3 is more or less a love letter to our childhood, and all the campy goofy madness we remember living through in the 80s in many ways. (In some ways, it's even funnier to him than it is to me, because he knows what else the cast has been in as a generic movie geek, and there are several wink-wink-nudge-nudges at the 4th wall in that regard.)

I did not think they could out-goofy themselves. They have, and it is a joy to watch.

I don't do comedy. There are only a handful of comedy movies or series, even, that I like, and it's always a hard sell to get me to watch one. Regardless of how people may rave, getting me to watch a sitcom is like telling me I'm really going to enjoy it as you pull all my teeth with rusty pliers -- and only the snarky ones tend to make the 'I will get through more than the pilot'. (Archer, Disenchanted, The Good Place, I'm looking at you three... the only three I'll watch.)

But I love this. I love this as comedy. Good on them for embracing it fully. The 'snarky band of screwups and misfits' dynamic will always have a warm fuzzy place in the cockles of my otherwise coal black heart, but they really didn't sell it early on, and they do now. I can't necessarily empathize with The Flash or Supergirl very often (my 'inner good person' is a lot more like The Atom, down to the love of showtunes), but grumpy reluctant screwups with good intentions (and often geek streaks a mile wide)? Yeah. I feel that one. I was not entirely optimistic that they'd be able to hold on to what worked from Season 3, but they have, and the result really is the very best kind of fun.

@BobGoblin A built in expiration date isn't going to solve that problem, though. Only the real work part -- some hardcore world building and planning -- ever will. But that's the same for something with or without an expiration date, and it's definitely something people need more of if they want a game to stick around a while. It's no guarantee that it will, but the lack of it will stall something out with a quickness.

@ganymede This just reminds me of how we have wasted like $10 trying to get the wee Starfire plush from the grip of THE CLAW at the diner. (The husband did catch us a Raven, though.)

Odds of us wasting another dinner's worth of cash on more attempts? High.

...this is how people who aren't especially into plush toys end up with a bajillion of them anyway, for real.

The cats love sleeping on them, though!

@Ghost Even with an existing IP, it'd likely be possible to tweak it some to create a space for it to exist. For instance, a Xavier School variant established in some part of Europe, etc.

@aria <happy cheering noises> Happy endings are the best.