Posts made by surreality

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Cupcake Yeaaaah. Dudes are weird. For some it's always either flirtation, pissing on territory, or both.

The problem I'm dealing with involves a married guy telling one of my female friends with ridiculously low self esteem that he'd sleep with her if she was desperate, but he's not because he doesn't find her attractive...but would totally throw her a bone.

I wish that in certain cases beating someone up wasn't so illegal.

ETA: Oh, and then the guy proceeded to tell her how fascinating she is and comment on how x and y parts of her body are really cute.

So. Predatory.

I am very much a 'smile like I sucked a lemon and hate the person and then find a reason to leave the conversation' sort of person in most cases similar to this.

Then there's that rare motherfucker that flips the switch in my brain from 'I cringe from social conflict' to 'anyone present will be cringing every time they look at this poor asshole after whatever the hell comes out of my mouth'.

It's only happened a few times in my whole damn life, but that? Holy shit would that have been one of them.

@Cobaltasaurus I am afraid to even ask what that melted thing once was, let alone what it'd probably cost to fix whatever it presently is. <wince>

@TNP I would just blow the clock to bits.

Someone still needs to be able to reach the light bulbs in this house.

@Ghost This is also me and my husband. We can't normally sleep at the same times and this is one of the reasons.

Though in his case he will smack it himself. Or just let the alarm blare away for another 20 minutes.

I often work through the night, he has days he has to get up in the morning, so he needs to get up around when I need to sleep. Normally, there's minimal overlap. Normally.

The rare times we have been trying to sleep at the same time, things like the following are heard:

• "No, really, there are knives stashed on this side of the bed, too."
• "Tess, Daddy's face is made of tuna." (This is the only English flurfcat understands. SNURFLE SNURFLE SNURFLE.)
• "IF THAT BEEPS ONE MORE TIME-" (I never get to the threat. Apparently the tone is enough that it doesn't beep again. This is good because I'm usually too addled to come up with one.)

@Auspice said in Intersectional MU* Community - Discussion:

Judgement based on personal opinion rather than fact.

I think you pretty much nailed this one, though not necessarily because it's hard to get a reasonably objective read on this.

Facts can be proven or disproven; they can be right or wrong. Opinions and feelings "can't be wrong". The inability to admit error is pretty glaring where Kestrel is concerned. Shifting focus to a metric that is more 'vibe/feeling/opinion'-based doesn't surprise me in the least here, as a result.

@Thenomain said in Intersectional MU* Community - Discussion:

I can see, like Surreality and others, that the rules of the community can stop the administration from maintaining it, but we also forget the #1 rule of any private group: My group, my rules.

Which is why Tempest got a million upvotes for questioning Kestrel's personality.

Because no matter the rules, this hobby has proven over and over and over and over again that the rules don't matter compared to the administration enforcing them.

Bingo.

I have little doubt Kestrel wants to create a positive safe space for the folks she allows into it.

I have absolutely zero doubt that the nanosecond Kestrel's ego comes into conflict with maintaining that safe space, that safe space is going to lose the battle at mind-rending speed.

Ugh, finally back this morning. First, Rinel, I wouldn't think of you as 'a guy playing a lesbian' for reasons I hope are maybe more obvious today than they may have been yesterday. My issue with the guy-pixie girls is basically what sao mentioned -- it is very much a male fantasy of womanhood that ignores a lot of the real experience of it. (It's not in an over the top way, but one that ignores a lot of things that a transwoman would unfortunately be intimately familiar with also.)

I ultimately don't care what someone plays.

I will however side-eye the shit out of someone playing something like this very badly and crowing about how it shows 'how enlightened' they are, and how 'not like all those other straight white males that play <something not that>' they are.

@insomniac7809 I made a character with the hook 'Manic Pixie Dream Dread Girl' once as a twist on the trope, so I say go for it. Please, smash the shit out of that trope; I will happily hand off the mallet.

If the old school IGU folks were running this, I would actually have given it a half-decent chance of meeting some success.

@Kestrel said in Intersectional MU* Community - Discussion:

The last discussion thread about this topic was not engaged in good faith

Glad to see you're at least admitting it now!

@Auspice I'm mostly joking since I've never actually been in any 'terrible' one. Like, unless kitten pictures that make me want kittens and recipes that make me really fucking hungry count? I hear all about these horrible clusterfucks and some part of me is torn between being overwhelmingly grateful and feeling weirdly left out.

@Pandora said in Intersectional MU* Community - Discussion:

I wanna know, will there be a rule added against unsubstantiated witch-hunts before or after someone's reputation is ruined by a scorned ex-TS partner?

Why bother even setting up the server then. I mean isn't that the actual purpose of discord servers, period?

@Prototart said in Intersectional MU* Community - Discussion:

i constructively suggest we all try to get their cringey wod fanfic published as soon as we can so they wander off rather than just hope lightning strikes twice

is that better

I really love you a lot today, just sayin'.

@Auspice Except when they're not, because nobody's perfect!

(So it's OK for them to not be perfect, but there's an eagerness to hyper-scrutinize, vet, and judge everyone else.)

I would like to think this will go well! ...but while I am a starry-eyed optimist enough to think some useful discussion could have come from the other threads in spite of everything, I'm not that huge a sucker.

@Pandora True as hell, though.

I'm just going to opt out now.

Your clique may have the thread to keep discounting my experiences as having existed in reality, as they do.

Do enjoy!

<steps out>

@Kanye-Qwest These dudes clearly think there is, and that they have it down to a science.

On some levels, it's substantially more offensive than the guys who just make the anime-inspired fetish creations that are absurd on their face, as most take some of the most insidious bullshit notions of 'what women are like' and dial them up to thirteen.

There's the 'sulky pouty-face insecure' when not the center of attention, while acting very brazenly in ways most insecure women don't as the norm. Explosive emotive outbursts are 'a girl thing'. They will get huffy at the drop of a hat over shit to the degree that none of us would have survived junior high if we were that histrionic. Being shallow as fuck about their appearance -- or conversely, hipster-style 'SEE HOW LITTLE ATTENTION I PAY TO FASHION I'M SO EDGY!' The manic pixie dream girl trope is common.

@mietze I'm not describing a guess.

I'm describing guys I have personally known who talk about their wokefulness, how they are 'not like all those other guys', and how they play a lesbian 'right'.

Spoiler alert: they don't.

@Arkandel ...I would very much like to bronze that post.

@Arkandel said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

don't play anything to support an agenda. That's not what playing games is for, and it won't go over well when things which typically happen in games affect that agenda.

This needs bronzing. It needs inscribing in elegant calligraphic script ninety feet high. The color of the sky in my world now has this as an addendum thanks to a talented skywriter.

This is so common, though.

And I will say this: this is my relax and unwind time. Yes, sometimes ugly things happen that disrupt it that fall under the *ist umbrellas, and my fun gets screwed up.

It gets a whole lore more screwed up if I feel like I'm expected to, at all times, be hyper-vigilant about what everyone is saying and doing around me as translated through the most paranoid and persecuted lens possible, reading for things to be offended by at all times. I will simply not do this to myself, or allow people to shit that hard all over my enjoyment of the hobby.

@Prototart That is such a fucking truth.

Look, straight white guys. Please, don't play lesbians to show your woke-i-tude. Wokefulness. Wokeaholism... woke-ever.

It fails spectacularly at the task.

@Thenomain @Auspice Preach.

Hell, some days I wonder if I didn't end up bi because I'm so fucking picky when it comes to people, rather than the reverse. (This is... mostly a joke. But only mostly.)

(Generic) you the person either works or doesn't for me.

'Has <genital>' could never be as important to me as 'has a sense of humor'. 'Identifies as <gender>' couldn't come within light years of 'identifies other human beings as people to treat with respect and common decency as a default setting'.

People can and will make anything out to be a bad thing by skewing it and twisting it and all the rest. I don't think thinking like I do is a bad thing in this case, and it's one of the precious few things no one could ever convince me otherwise about.