Posts made by surreality

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Looking at that trainwreck, I really feel like the new rule here should be, "Nope. Sorry. You don't get to judge my life choices."

^ This. Absolutely this.

This was my head voice when my husband's cousin -- who started popping out kids when she was 16, and has three now while still being barely old enough to vote and too young to drink -- looked at us in shock and horror when it was mentioned we had no plans to have kids.

(In fairness, she thought I was far younger than I actually am, and that there was a big gap in my husband's age and mine, not just 'I'm two years younger'. She apparently thought it was more like... fifteen or so. Which also speaks volumes.)

@Ganymede I am technically only 'a morning person' because I'm typically... still up by then, and it's my evening.

Admittedly, my schedule flips around and rotates slowly over weeks. Which sucks in its own right. It will conform... for a while, until it nopes the shit out of that notion and springs back to:

Working from home means 'finish task quota' a lot. I have a workaholic streak and ADD hyperfocus. These things combine very, very weirdly.

Like, the struggle is real: "Oh, hey, when did the sun go down? ...and, hey, it's back! Huh, why are my folks calling and asking if I'd like to come by for dinner because they haven't heard from me in two days and are worried I'm not eating? It's morni--oh, dinner's in fifteen minutes? Uh, yeah... food is probably a good idea... How long have I been working? Er. What's today? Oh, shit. I thought it was Tuesday."

It was so much worse when I was doing 3D stuff, too. That was dead on accurate at least twice a week rather than twice a month like it is now.

In news that should surprise precisely no one, this is also why my metabolism is spectacularly fucked. (Half the reason I lose weight on a die+t is that I set an actual timer for when to eat and make sure I do/it reminds me that my body needs something other than coffee in it.)

@Ganymede Theno pretty much nailed it. We're lifelong nightowls. 3AM to us may as well be 3PM to most folks.

Also, he's a pro at procrastination.

I am, too, but I've managed to gut cabinets of WTF IS THIS EVEN kitchen junk like a boss this week.

That moment when you wonder if your grandmother was secretly a Bond villain torturer sidekick in the off-hours, I've been having it for a while now.

<zips lips> Watch more! It doesn't get worse.

@Darinelle I don't think google will help us here. This is clearly a job for bing.

...except it isn't any more helpful, save for suggesting a pile of scat videos of women actually pooping themselves in leggings. (No thank you, bing, I'm good.)

@surreality The first few episodes have been consistently good, too. Sometimes there's a decent pilot, and then it all goes to crap. They didn't fall into that trap thus far, though, so I'm pleased. Interested to see what they do with it.

They capture the cynicism of the era brilliantly, too.

@Pandora I am loving that one. From the writeup, I did not have high hopes, and expected a complete trainwreck. I was very pleased to be wrong.

@Ganymede He's normally up and doing housework at that hour. His schedule is as weird as mine. He was up for at least three more hours puttering around rebuilding a bass after that, to give you some idea. Saturday chores start at midnight Sunday, in his universe.

<holds hands up in the air> I did not make this rule. It's just how things have played out for the 20 or so years we've been together.

@silverfox The things I have heard come out of the man's mouth over the past week about it all are what leaves me stunned there has not yet been a murder in this house.

"I can't help with the kitchen, I'm too wiped from going to see a movie and spending 3 hours at the gym."

^ Two days in a row.

Call me crazy, but maybe trim down the gym time and halp some goddammit.

This was last weekend:

3:06 AM, Me: "<name>, can I have your help with something in the kitchen?"

3:07 AM, Him: <huffs like a whiny toddler> "WHAT."

3:07 AM, Me: "I need you to pull the spidery box stuff out from under the table and throw it out."

3:07 AM, Him: "FINE."

3:07 AM, Me: <goes downstairs and starts moving and cleaning things>

3:08 AM, Him: "This is so dusty! I am going to be so mad if I have an allergy attack before sleep!"

3:08 AM, Me: <continues to gather things as he clears the way and puts them in trash or recycling>

3:08 AM, Him: "OH MY GOD I NEED A TISSUE."

3:08 AM, Me: <hands him a tissue> "Can you toss that old coffee pot?"

3:08 AM, Bri: "Which coffee pot?"

3:08 AM, Me: <points, standing several feet away from him and out of reach> "That one."

3:08 AM, Him: <makes wild backward lean as though I was just about to stab him in the eye with one of the oh so many, so many knives> "Watch it!"

3:09 AM, Me: <makes a mental note of where the oh so many, so many knives are right now>

3:09 AM, Him: "You have the worst timing, we should have done this earlier when I could have taken a Zyrtec!"

3:09 AM, Me: <exceptional success on cosmic willpower roll to not point out that this is 'his kitchen' and he has no trouble with the dust/etc. at any other time>

3:10 AM, Him: "Ew this has liquid in it. I should throw this out!"

3:10 AM, Me: <more willpower exceptionals as she refrains from pointing out that I've asked him to throw it out for two years>

3:10 AM, Him: "I NEED ANOTHER TISSUE I AM GOING TO BE MAD IF I GET SICK!" <continues to micromanage trash, removing trash from spider-filled box of trash to put in trash can>

3:11 AM, Me: "...why are you taking-"

3:11 AM, Him: "WE SHOULD SAVE THE BOX!"

3:11 AM, Me: <observes battered, beaten, dusty box covered in cat hair and spiders, MIRACULOUSLY manages to not actually laugh out loud> "It is full of living, angry spiders. That you have just further angered by fussing with it."

3:11 AM, Him: <looks in box> "OH MY GOD WHY DIDN'T YOU WARN ME?!"

3:12 AM, Me: <observes very obvious spiders being very obvious, recalls specifically saying 'I need your help getting rid of the spidery box', which we have in fact CALLED 'THE SPIDERY BOX' FOR THREE YEARS as the premise of this entire expedition, and performs second miracle in as many minutes by not actually murdering him>

3:12 AM, Him: <shudders and starts dumping things back into the spidery box with gusto>

3:12 AM, Me: <is secretly proud of him that he's willing to part with a cardboard box for once, refrains from pointing out the box he's trying to save is full of the thing he's supposedly about to have an allergy attack from>

3:13 AM, Him: <scans every shred of everything for recycling codes, tries to put things in the sink to wash before recycling them instead of throwing them in the trash>

3:14 AM, Me: <begins making mental checklist of crap to pull out of the sink to throw in the trash after he leaves for work in the morning>

3:15 AM, Him: <discovers he has been piling shit in one of the rock buckets, must remove things from rock bucket so rock buckets can go away to the rock room, more puttering ensues>

3:16 AM, Me: <removes remaining rock crap from kitchen and puts things away in the china cabinet as warranted>

3:16 AM, Him: "I am going to be really angry if I have an allergy attack, your timing really is fucking terrible, you know that?"

3:16 AM, Me: "You can dump this old apple cider vinegar, I don't need it for dye any more."

3:16 AM, Him: "Can that go down the sink? I don't think that can go down the sink!"

3:16 AM, Me: "...it's vinegar, hon. It can go down the sink."

3:16 AM, Him: "Are you sure? You know you shouldn't put chemicals down the sink."

3:17 AM, Me: <debates offering him the alternative solution of 'chug it then, motherfucker' but keeps wisely silent>

3:17 AM, Him: <dumps vinegar down the sink>

3:18 AM, Me: <continues to find shit that doesn't belong in the kitchen in the kitchen and removes it from the fucking kitchen>

3:18 AM, Him: "I am going to be pissed if I am doing massage all day tomorrow with my sinuses going crazy because you just HAD to have help in the kitchen right now. WE HAVE TO STOP, I OWE IT TO MY CLIENTS."

3:20 AM, Me: <returns to the screen, and notes that it's taken longer to recount this sequence of events in text than my husband spent actually doing any work in the kitchen all weekend>

@Pandora said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Family - can't live with them, can't kill them, either.

I feel this one so hard right now.

We are doing a hardcore declutter/cleanout of our disaster of a kitchen. By 'we', I really mean 'I'm breaking my ass to bits doing this, but my husband lives here also and therefore it is ostensibly his kitchen, too.'

I ache in wheres I didn't even know I have.

If I come across one more Chinese food takeout container lid he has saved for some reason, however, I am going to make him carry it around forever, perhaps rectally.

Fuck me. This isn't therapy?

<goes to sit in the 'doing it all wrong' corner>

(Kidding. Before anyone wonders if that was serious.)

@arkandel said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

@thenomain said in criticism not allowed in ad threads is only enforcing a false positive, prove me wrong:

Either 'ad and updates by the poster only', or make it part of the constructive forums in general.

It's already been done. I prefer the wiki route but it will need to wait until the personnel exists for it.

...need a week or so still. See also: https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Extension:UserPageEditProtection <-- handy with a plan to use user pages as the ONLY place for people to voluntarily post their own playlists/data about themselves/etc., and the rest locked down to game ads only.

@kanye-qwest I agree re: 'people may pose back' being a valid thing. There's downsides to this, too, though: if they're idling to just idle, which a lot of folks do these days, that's a grid room other people can't use without an audience, and not everybody wants one. (I find it a little creepy if I'm RPing and someone is just sitting in the room to watch and not engaging in any way.[1])

I'm more likely to grab someone from an OOC room to start a scene. In part, this is due to being burned by the approach above more times than I care to admit; approaching a totally unknown entity on grid is a crapshoot and my luck is pretty notoriously awful. I can usually get a general feel for someone if I've seen them chat a bit OOC, and let's be honest, this is also usually pretty telling re: who to avoid vs. who one's likely to get along with fairly well. Everyone has their own take on this, but I'll probably avoid someone constantly engaging in giggly-grabass, or constantly bragging about their giant stats, etc.

1. And yet, weirdly, I love the broadcast scenes on HorrorMU, as participant or observer. Thing is, you know that going in, and it's a group activity rather than a random stranger camping a room. You know there's an active crowd, and they're usually interacting over the public channel about what's going on, as well, with the participants.

@insomniac7809 At a certain point, I think teenagers were just trolling the creators of Law & Order: SVU.

@thenomain The wiki is still at weeks. But not many. Otherwise, all correct.

(ETA: I think tHM is full up at the moment, believe it or not! Wait, there are two spots open, but only two.)

Entirely variable. Speed and number of folks present are a factor. Whether there's system crunching afoot is another.

I'd say 2.5-4 hours, since I tend toward long and folks I write with tend toward long. Not always, but the random novella happens all around.

The more people in the scene, the more time it tends to take to get anywhere.

That said, that's more my metric: does it feel like there's some purpose to the scene -- and I'm defining this very loosely here, because I'd count 'an idle trade of ideas or characters sharing a joke' to be things that potentially have purpose in the context of storytelling and character building. That point may hit after less than a half an hour. It may never get there after six, eight, or twenty-four.

@coin I started You, and you are spot on. It's excellent, but because... yeah, it's a hard watch, and I keep having to pause for lighter fare in between episodes.

@arkandel I'm willing/able to do it. Can't start for about 2 weeks, though; there's another project I'm working with that gets priority and is already a bit behind.

My logic/suggestion:

• Create playlists with some basic templates on user pages.
• Only the user should edit their own page/list what they want to list on it. No color commentary, no peanut gallery; self-maintained lists only, with no praise/blame/gushing/griping.
• User name should be the same as MSB name.
• Game listings for games long lost to history can be created by anyone but should remain neutral in stance; existing games should be added by their owner/someone on staff there/whatever. Just what it was, where it was, when it was for defunct games, just what it is and where it is and how long it's been there for current ones, with any app notes or restrictions or what-have-you. KISS principle applies. It's super easy to add a 'add review' section to this for commentary/call-and-response if/as needed; the same goes for a 'looking for person from here!' section. Info from playlists can dynamically be added to list characters from that game and link to the player/user page for people to connect.

Strongly suggest keeping it that simple, and that's pretty dirt simple. Temporary or permanent write/create/edit blocks can be used if people can't behave like mature adults.

ETA: Strongly suggest no image uploads. They're not really necessary here for basic data foo, and they eat server space like crazy when they pile up.

@mietze Agreed on the 'commentary on people' part. I do think this would be a great way for people to voluntarily list themselves and make playlists similar to the 'shout in the dark' ones where things can cross-reference link between games and players, though. Again... if people are posting their own info, not someone else's.

@pandora Excellent article. It covers a lot of ground, too, re: the ways people use the same core exploitative behaviors. It's good to see it laid out that way, since a lot of folks will see no sexual creeping, and assume that means there's no exploitation or creeping going on, when the real core is manipulating someone emotionally in order to exploit them in some fashion. This doesn't magically become OK again when it's not sexual exploitation.