Posts made by Tinuviel

@shincashay Well yeah, I'm just laying out potential issues is all. I don't actually give a fig, but others might.

Double-post because I can.

One of my concerns about a 'these are my preferences' system is the potential for drama whingy bullshit if, say, I'm rated as 'non-TS' and then I find someone that everything just clicks with and we get it oooooooon, and then the pages of "what makes him so special" etc etc.

@cobaltasaurus Just leave it as is and it'd probably fit.

@surreality Sure, the idea is sound. The example execution leaves me iffy, is all.

@thenomain said in Let's talk about TS.:

matchmaker systems do arbitrate

I'm apparently having trouble articulating my thoughts correctly.

What I think I mean is that matchmaker-type-situations are those that I'd much rather see totally handled by roleplay and player-to-player contact, rather than have a list of people a bit of code says I'm compatible with. Obviously YMMV.

@surreality said in Let's talk about TS.:

focused more on being an explainer/place for limits and goals

Yeah, I think that's where my qualm is coming from. Naturally, I'm not the same as anyone else, but my character's goal(s) are things I keep very much to myself.

@surreality These are all things that... I dunno. They're like hooks, but they seem somewhat more like things I'd want to find out IC - if at all. Perhaps I'm overthinking it, though.

@thenomain said in Let's talk about TS.:

sounds like you're looking for a matchmaker system

Good lord no.

I'm totally against any 'system' that takes away the human connection. Systems should arbitrate or mediate, not decide.

@thenomain You're absolutely right, of course. Though I feel that, given recent discussions on a few predatory people, TS and adult content of this nature are especially fraught with not only "well staff won't do anything" pitfalls that every other policy has, but with "They won't believe me" or "it's my own fault" or even the dreaded "I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing."

Sort of like real cases of 'sexual misconduct' and the reporting thereof.

There also needs to be clearly articulated "you can talk to us (staff) if people violate your OOC consent" statements. People need to feel that their complaints will be taken seriously and privately if you ever want to have a hope of eliminating predatory behaviour in this arena.

@arkandel said in Let's talk about TS.:

have interacted - OOC - in the past with someone you didn't already know well enough[...]

Sure can!
The best time for it was when our characters were beginning with flirtatious and florid language. You state, clearly and directly, what your intentions and desires are as it relates to both the present scene and any future engagements of similar kind.

IF your RP partner(s) is/are not open to such dialogue, fade to black until they are. All participants absolutely have to be comfortable enough to discuss these things for any hope of mature conduct relating to adult content.

ETA: This isn't one particular occasion, this is all occasions. I am, however, incredibly picky about my long-term RP partners. If they don't have my back, in the improv/performing sense, then things don't tend to flow well enough for me to enjoy it.

@sunny Thank you.

@sunny That's plenty detailed! Just not intimate, because I FTB on policy talk.

@sunny Code, yes. Policy? Eh. "TS is OOC-consent required. Ignoring the OOC requests of persons regarding this content will result in a permanent ban."

@kanye-qwest My interests are everything not on your list.

Everything.

@sincerely It probably helped that I was playing a character that would innately DO all of those things. At least how I played him. So it wasn't an immersion break, like some may find, to set out those things from the beginning in such a direct way.

Though it may also come down to having to set standards and guidelines for people as part of my job, it's just second nature I guess.

@kay Eh, I don't want to RP the same as my actual life.

The difference being that Wilde thought. And usually listened to conversations before butting in.

@pondscum No, it's social interaction. Which is just as hard to navigate.

@pondscum It's almost like discussion threads are opt-in or something.

@cobaltasaurus No, I meant that action/adventure/casual/etc are all decent TS categories.