May 6, 2015, 12:46 AM

@Misadventure said:

But does that emotional investment mean that you are in a romantic relationship with your PCs romantic interest, or their player? Cuz that's the thing that I see as destructive.

This is such a basic question that I'm uncertain why it's even being asked. No? Of course not. Anyone with even the slightest amount of IC/OOC separation knows that's not the case. Even the crazy crazy crazy people, when asked this question, do actually know that they are not in a relationship with the player.

Psycho isn't in emotional investment / the amount or intensity or specifics of the emotions involved, whatsoever. It is in the behavior in relation to those emotions, the understanding that this isn't real.

I bawled at the ending of Big Hero 6, occasionally cry at cartoons, won't watch most horror movies because I get genuinely afraid (Signs had me spooked for weeks). I know these things aren't real. They still get an emotional reaction -- occasionally, a really intense emotional reaction. I will not read / watch GoT, even though it's generally up my alley, because it caused me emotional distress when one of my favorite characters died when I was first reading the books once upon a time. Is this normal? Probably not, I'm an incredibly sensitive and emotional person and everyone knows this. One can probably relate my current medical condition somehow to the fact that fucking Titan AE makes me cry.

Even so, I'm only a little crazy in terms of roleplayers. I'm self-aware, I know I get emotionally involved, but I don't behave in a way that makes other people uncomfortable (and I check myself and my boundaries alllll the time to ensure this is the case).

Feelings are not bad. Regardless, period. It's the behaviors associated with those feelings that some people think are OK that are the problem.