MUSH Marriages (IC)

Lyanna · Mar 23, 2018, 5:54 PM

Some marriages that were to happen, I never got to RP, as the games often died prior to that particular phase. Others happened but sort of idled out.

I think a danger is there sometimes, to have all RP focus on marriage and little else which can sometimes cut down on the variety of RP to be had.

My most memorable ones were two very unhappy marriages, though, on two different games. Which also brought all kinds of intense RP. Sometimes painful to play out, but yeah, in the end there were some great scenes. Pushing my characters to extremes.

Edit: The two games were both L&L genre, Tales of Daeren and Eternal Crusade.

Hella · Mar 23, 2018, 6:36 PM

@crysta said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

Longest marriage I had was on Firan I think. Never got divorced and I haven't had any character die yet. Never actually had a break up, come to think of it.

But I think the average time it takes for my character to get into romantic RP is about a year. Not so much because I'm picky so much as it's never my focus and it just kind of happens. I rarely -pursue- it.

I enjoyed having my character married to yours, though it's a shame it outlasted the game.

We were married? Which game was this? I'm trying to remember! Jacen? Elias?

wahoo · Mar 23, 2018, 8:54 PM

On Firan, I got really lucky with the majority of my character's IC romances and marriages. I had a great story on one alt full of angsty drama that culminated in a nice romantic ending that went on until I left the game. The player and I were also great friends, a relationship that developed as we RP'd together. I came off roster married to a character who had a player who was a friend and when he rostered, the next player became a pal. Then I had a character who was involved with ANOTHER OOC friend - we were lucky enough to app both at once. Had a blast.

Then fucking Ana approved Custodious for him and I rostered immediately.

Thenomain · Mar 23, 2018, 9:12 PM

@vulgarkitten

I've never had a character get married IC.

I've had situations where you might as well call it married, and as far as I and the other player know, they still are some 20 years later. So: A long time?

peasoupling · Mar 23, 2018, 9:23 PM

I've had a few. A couple of times I actually started the characters married, or in on-off relationships. The latest was over a RL year, but the characters couldn't actually get formally married for IC Lords & Ladies reasons, but it was a marriage as far as my character was concerned.

In non-roster games, which is the majority of games I've ever played, the main issue can be if the other player stops playing or idles out without closure. A couple of my IC marriages may have technically lasted RL years, but hardly count for that reason. In one case, it made my character pretty much unplayable, but that was a very specific situation. I still don't regret it, though. The RP and the character arc leading there wouldn't have been possible without it.

kitteh · Mar 24, 2018, 1:46 AM

It's a little embarrassing with how many Lords and Ladies games and assorted marriage simulators I play, I've had very few actual marriages. A good handful of courtships and betrothals but so often the games fall through or players lose interest etc etc.

Maybe I have cooties. Or my hookers are just more popular <.<

Lithium · Mar 24, 2018, 6:01 AM

My characters are always cursed and never actually make it to the marriage part, in any game, ever.

Crysta · Mar 24, 2018, 8:03 AM

@vulgarkitten said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

@crysta said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

Longest marriage I had was on Firan I think. Never got divorced and I haven't had any character die yet. Never actually had a break up, come to think of it.

But I think the average time it takes for my character to get into romantic RP is about a year. Not so much because I'm picky so much as it's never my focus and it just kind of happens. I rarely -pursue- it.

I enjoyed having my character married to yours, though it's a shame it outlasted the game.

We were married? Which game was this? I'm trying to remember! Jacen? Elias?

Rowan!

rebekahse · Mar 24, 2018, 9:12 AM

I've only done it on Firan, where my experiences were universally negative - either the guy was a truly uninspiring RPer, or else he lived in Australia and was only available every other Tuesday from 9AM to 10AM.

I've wanted to play a totally dysfunctional marriage somewhere since forever, but either the game shuts down before the potentially dysfunctional boyfriend has a chance to become the dysfunctional husband, or else the person who's willing to app in as a married couple doesn't want to play on Game X because he prefers Setting Y.

Doozer · Mar 24, 2018, 10:04 AM

@rebekahse that would probably be fun.

Zz · Mar 24, 2018, 3:31 PM

I have had three.

One my husband died the morning after in a dramatic duel to the death? It was also a secret and and the ensuing baby drama was interesting and a massive dramatic train wreck. But married for the possibility of owning a town - was not a bad gamble on a L&L game. My sworn knights were super awesome afterwards too @Meg

Another I apped in already married with a very good friend and often rp buddy. It was really interesting to play out that long term relationship and gave them a very different sort of rapport since they were still crazy about each other. They got remarried in space after fighting aliens. Obnoxiously.

The third was actually also played with the same friend, but they apped in as my NPC hubs after a plotted kidnapping. It was a total arranged marriage and a mix of chilly and mutual respect. So my experience has been that it you like and trust the other player it can be loads of fun! But also don't get hitched the night before a duel. (Or do. Idk)

Meg · Mar 24, 2018, 3:38 PM

@zz said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

But also don't get hitched the night before a duel. (Or do. Idk)

Do, if it is gonna make a great story. That was one of the best storylines I've played, and I have played a lot of really great, tense, dramatic, silly, fun storylines. Made only a little frustrating that we couldn't see it to its ultimate conclusion.

ETA: Also, even in the L&L type games, I couldn't quite ever make it to the marriage part. Could never drag someone down the aisle. I did get close to a marriage once, in that my guy bought an engagement ring before dying. That was fun to inflict on people. @Rainsodden

Zz · Mar 24, 2018, 3:37 PM

@meg That is true. The through line of it made for a lot of really fantastic rp that I had a ton of fun playing. It would have been nice to get a conclusion on it.

I amend my statement to - do get married the night before the duel to the death if you are game for some intense rp.

Hella · Mar 24, 2018, 4:27 PM

@crysta said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

@vulgarkitten said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

@crysta said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

Longest marriage I had was on Firan I think. Never got divorced and I haven't had any character die yet. Never actually had a break up, come to think of it.

But I think the average time it takes for my character to get into romantic RP is about a year. Not so much because I'm picky so much as it's never my focus and it just kind of happens. I rarely -pursue- it.

I enjoyed having my character married to yours, though it's a shame it outlasted the game.

We were married? Which game was this? I'm trying to remember! Jacen? Elias?

Rowan!

Awww Rowan! That game closed so fast! Twas sad!

Faceless · Mar 24, 2018, 8:25 PM

Longest? About five or six years.
Shortest? Hopefully the one I'll get to play some day when I make my married-couple Sin-Eater concept.

Crawfish · Mar 24, 2018, 8:33 PM

@peasoupling said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

I've had a few. A couple of times I actually started the characters married, or in on-off relationships. The latest was over a RL year, but the characters couldn't actually get formally married for IC Lords & Ladies reasons, but it was a marriage as far as my character was concerned.

In non-roster games, which is the majority of games I've ever played, the main issue can be if the other player stops playing or idles out without closure. A couple of my IC marriages may have technically lasted RL years, but hardly count for that reason. In one case, it made my character pretty much unplayable, but that was a very specific situation. I still don't regret it, though. The RP and the character arc leading there wouldn't have been possible without it.

Serafine and Leta were my longest IC relationship and only 'marriage' in my RP history of ever. And yes, it counts.

Goldfish · Mar 25, 2018, 6:14 AM

Relationship RP is my jam, yo. I love getting swept up in a story of personal drama with high emotional stakes. Best time you can have for free, if you ask me. I've been married several times of varying lengths. They all ended mostly because of idles or burnouts...or game closures.

From my recollection, I've been a husband more often than a bride. I think I give good groom. I have written vows, picked rings, researched proper attire and been a part of some lovely ceremonies, both private and public.

I just love it. No matter how many times it turns tits up, I go back for more.

Testament · Mar 25, 2018, 10:27 AM

I'm sort of a stickler when it comes to this. I don't mind that kind of RP when it presents itself, but most times there's usually a particular group of friends who I do those kind of storylines with. In part because those friends are good players with creative storylines that don't allow the relationship to really go stale, but they're very stable and very sane. Which at times, I think trumps anything else.

At the same time, that very restriction might be the one thing preventing me from trying to do so with someone else, even to the point that it came about wholly organically, and there's nothing more pleasant than something developing when you least expected it. And it doesn't even have to be a relationship. Could be a friendship or even rivalry. But the chance of the other player being a couple screws loose makes a bit cautious on the whole thing.

So suffice to say, they're great when it works out and proverbial nightmare of OOC nastiness when it doesn't. Better to be picky than be miserable.

DeadEmpire · Mar 25, 2018, 2:24 PM

@darinelle said in MUSH Marriages (IC):

The other player was exceptionally sane, and so our RP was full of drama and emotion and fun but there was nothing OOC but a good friendship with mutual respect.

Where do you find these people? Teach me your ways! I've gotten chastised for... Rping on my alt while with my partner, for TSing on my alt while me partner was in a GMed scene, for my character being sightly rude to her character for in character reasons, FOR HAVING A RELATIONSHIP ON MY ALT...

How long did this relationship continue? Too long. Just. Too long. Didn't get married. Glad I didn't.

Wretched · Mar 25, 2018, 9:31 PM

@deadempire Yeah, run away from that person fast. There are a few of those people out there, toxic AF. I h ad one time where i was RPing with a person, and her IC boyfriend kept paging us both while we were in the scene trying to figure out what was going on. Paranoia and possession run deep with some people. It's mucho creepy.