Jun 19, 2015, 2:52 PM

@Ganymede This whole thing was always a bit contentious. I didn't want a divorce even though I hated him (and at one point threw him out at gunpoint) because I didn't want to share my baby. I just didn't trust him. Luckily I had a good lawyer and he had a step up plan where he had to meet all these visitation requirements on this whole ladder plan. He was in Iraq her first year, we didn't make it to court until she was over 2 and he didn't meet overnight requirements until she was over 3. I'm not required to take her to him ever. I do now and then because I need to do something and he's too lazy to get up or several times his car was unsafe and I sent him home and would take her. His various rotating door of live in girlfriends have caused problems, he never lives on his own, he bounces from girls apartments to his parents house.

In short, it sucks but it could be worse. He thinks we're friends because I'm nice to him for the baby's sake. (I know, she's 6, but she's always my baby)