Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff

Missingno · Mar 5, 2021, 5:17 AM

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Atomic · Mar 5, 2021, 12:33 PM

@cassite I'm using one through my EAP currently. It feels marginal to me, kind of like jawing at a bartender, probably because I'm not heavily investing in it.

My primary care place finally got me in to see someone, and that's where I have placed the bulk of my energy and effort because I have already done stuff through them. I didn't want to tread over the same ground with other folks again.

silverfox · Mar 5, 2021, 1:32 PM

@cassite

I use better help. It is very ymmv. I just switched counselors because the one I was with was limiting her hours. You can do phone, text, or video call. It is ~pricy~ but if you can't get care anywhere else then it is worth it.

My little sister has had 3 different counselors but I am hopeful that she will find someone she clicks with soon.

Cupcake · Mar 5, 2021, 6:35 PM

I just want to say that going through counselors/therapists isn't actually a bad thing. Just because they may all receive similar training or focus on similar therapies doesn't always mean that a particular therapist is going to be the best one for you. I've been to five different therapists/psychiatrists over the years, and only in the last few have I found a mental health team that has been able to really help me work on the really hard stuff.

Please don't be discouraged if circumstances or personalities don't align. It just means you haven't found the right person yet. Keep trying!

Pyrephox · Mar 5, 2021, 5:38 PM

As a counselor, what @Cupcake says above is absolutely true. It's worth noting that research suggests that the factor MOST associated with improvement in therapy is the quality of the relationship between therapist and client, so if someone doesn't work for you, do not hesitate to try someone new if you can (I know that our fucked up healthcare system can make that hard). Look for someone who shows you respect, who is genuinely easy to talk to, who you feel safe being vulnerable with - and who challenges you appropriately.

Ganymede · Mar 5, 2021, 6:59 PM

@pyrephox

This recommendation holds true for lawyers as well.

silverfox · Mar 7, 2021, 5:44 PM

The second shot is a bitch. 100% take the next day off in advance. You will feel like you got hit by a bus.

Cobalt · Mar 8, 2021, 11:11 PM

@tek I'm so sorry. I hope you have or will find a better doctor soon. I just had to find a new one because my previous just kept testing me for diabetes because my blood sugar was slightly elevated, but my A1C was fine.

New doctor actually listened to me.

Macha · Mar 9, 2021, 5:38 PM

I am stressed to breaking. Between trying to fix everything with the car, trying to find a new place to live (with the future roommate suddenly getting super distant, and doing all the paperwork and legwork, etc), bullshit from my current roommates, being stuck here in the house, not able to go see my doctor about this fucking sinus infection that will not go away, or my ADHD meds, my pain is ridiculously high, my monthly biologic to help that is late because of the mess with my car and I couldn't go get it, and they forgot to ship it out to me...

I'm falling apart. I can't stop crying today - breaking down into screaming sobs more than once - and this is just.. not me. It's horrible. And I feel GUILTY for it, because my work performance today is suffering. (I kicked MAJOR work ass, yesterday). I called my boss to try and tell him I was having a hard time - "Just keep doing what you do." Other people "Take it step by step" - There's no step to TAKE. I'm STUCK. I can't get in to see a therapist and I'm so lost.

Vixanic · Mar 9, 2021, 6:36 PM

@macha
Is there anything we can do to help?

I say this from a thousand miles away and with limited understanding of your situation, but still.

Macha · Mar 9, 2021, 6:43 PM

@vixanic I appreciate the thought. I really needed to get it OUT somewhere. Somewhere someone might understand the sheer breaking point of needing to literally scream.

Though if you have any energy/vibes/prayers to spare (whatever your personal mojo is) THAT would be super appreciated. I know I /can/ do it, but today is just kicking my ass some.

Cobalt · Mar 17, 2021, 6:18 AM

Okay, before your surgery you need to get covid tested and then quarantine.

"I have reactive antibodies, I was just tested..."

Before your surgery you have to get tested and then quarantine for two days. The hospital will be in contact.

Alamias · Mar 17, 2021, 2:53 PM

Just got my tax bill. I have no idea how I am going to pay what they say I owe, let alone how they expect me to also pay the same amount for next year's 'estimated' tax.

I can barely make it week to week due to the crippling debt my wife's medical condition a couple of years ago left us in, there is nothing left over to save anything after I pay all the monthlies. We take no allowances and put extra money in towards taxes each paycheck...and we still owe thousands? And I used to get money back until the glorious 'tax cuts' two years ago... And even if I find some way to pay this, and pay the 'estimated' over the next year I don't see a way to change our withholdings so this doesn't happen yet again. I don't have extra $$ to withhold from my paycheck, and certainly not an extra thousand or so it seems to want me to take out.

If I didn't have a family that needs me and/or wouldn't invalidate my life insurance I would probably just go jump off a roof at this point. I honestly see no way out of this save for some massive windfall.

Derp · Mar 20, 2021, 4:06 AM

TFW when your parent who has been absolutely vile to you for weeks gets out of the psych ward and confesses that, in their last episode, they and the hallucination of their dead ex husband had a full on plan to murder you.

I want to talk to the writers of my life. They have completely jumped the goddamn shark.

Cobalt · Mar 21, 2021, 6:36 PM

Supposed to have an outpatient surgery that should get rid of a health problem.ive had since middle school. Of course 9 days before there is a massive storm which means I have to be out in the rain for 4+ hrs. Two days later (a week until surgery), I develop a sore throat, next day can't swallow.

Doctor declares "probably strep" and gives me meds. Within twenty four hours it's moved into my chest. And I've already had covid so...

Yeah, I can't breathe. I've been to the hospital so much since the beginning of the year already. I don't want to go back.. and I don't want to have to reschedule my surgery but this rattle in my chest is scary.

Atomic · Mar 22, 2021, 2:39 AM

@derp said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

TFW when your parent who has been absolutely vile to you for weeks gets out of the psych ward and confesses that, in their last episode, they and the hallucination of their dead ex husband had a full on plan to murder you.

I want to talk to the writers of my life. They have completely jumped the goddamn shark.

My mom did some crazy shit like that also.

We should get our writing staff in a room and hand the result to the Coen brothers.

Vixanic · Mar 22, 2021, 5:50 PM

@atomic said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

We should get our writing staff in a room and hand the result to the Coen brothers.

Or Luc Besson. It would still make zero sense but it would be PRETTY nonsense.

Ganymede · Mar 22, 2021, 5:52 PM

@vixanic said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Or Luc Besson. It would still make zero sense but it would be PRETTY nonsense.

Cobalt · Mar 23, 2021, 8:01 PM

Whelp, my cat is constantly licking her lips and as of today is now missing 3-4 teeth... which is quite sudden. Excuse me while I scream into the void continuously until I can get her seen by a vet tomorrow.