@too-old-for-this said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
@Deviante Yeeeeeeeeeeees. Sorta like how I watch House Hunters. I love hearing what the couples each do for a living, and what their 'budget' is. XD
"My husband is a professional dog walker, and I used to teach kindergarten, but with our first baby on the way, I've decided to give into my passion in art. We've got a real strict budget of $1,200,000, and I'm so excited to see what we can do!"
I have a playlist: http://musoapbox.net/topic/91/tributary-s-playlist
@greenflashlight yeah, neither image bothers me but finger injury is a pretty common squick for others.
@tributary said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@too-old-for-this said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
@Deviante Yeeeeeeeeeeees. Sorta like how I watch House Hunters. I love hearing what the couples each do for a living, and what their 'budget' is. XD
"My husband is a professional dog walker, and I used to teach kindergarten, but with our first baby on the way, I've decided to give into my passion in art. We've got a real strict budget of $1,200,000, and I'm so excited to see what we can do!"
"My name is Jack, and I teach the blind how to yodel. This is my wife Diane, and she sells her eco-friendly homemade mudpies on Etsy. Our budget is $750,000 and we can't wait to find our forever home!"
@tributary There's a show in the UK called 'Escape to the Country'. Standard fare for that is 'We're both retiring, and our three-storey townhouse in the middle of a city and two minutes' walk from all the shops is just too much for us to handle, so we're looking for an 6-bedroom farmhouse at least two centuries old, set in acres of land, more than a mile away from the next human, where there's no public transport.'
I don't know what planet they're on, but...
@grayson I saw a few episodes of that one too! It doesn't have quite the cutthroat nature of House Hunters (Americans, we gotta make everything weird) but it was highly fun to watch.
@grayson said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
6-bedroom farmhouse at least two centuries old, set in acres of land, more than a mile away from the next human, where there's no public transport
Sounds like they need to move to the US.
@wildbaboons said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@grayson said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
6-bedroom farmhouse at least two centuries old, set in acres of land, more than a mile away from the next human, where there's no public transport
Sounds like they need to move to the US.
The particular ones I'm thinking of ended up in Wales, half an hour from where I used to live. It's a part of the world where Londoners move to in order to drink themselves to death...
@grayson how expensive are the houses... An I get one for some pocket lint and a handful of skittles?
Today we have moved on to bandages because it is starting to scab over.
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Yesterday, I decided to see a new therapist. I wasn't gelling all that well with my previous one, and so I figured now might be as good a time as any. Got off to a good start, laid out some pretty vulnerable stuff - then we started talking about my relationships.
I bemoaned the fact that someone I'm seeing is deeply depressed and isn't getting the help they need, and the help they are getting is woefully inadequate - just someone who's punching in and not asking questions and kicking the ball down the road and 'see you again in two months'.
Talked about my dog a lot, my job a lot. Just ice-breaky stuff.
When we got to the real meat and potatoes though, she didn't seem helpful at all. Didn't interrogate much. Kept kicking the ball down the road. Suggested we see eachother again in two months. Felt utterly dismissed by a lot of the things she said to the point that after the call was over, I had to just sit in my car and cry for awhile.
...
So, I went inside and talked to the person I'm seeing, and GUESS WHO BOTH HAVE THE SAME THERAPIST APPARENTLY.
"...well, she probably didn't put it together. Unless you talked about me, your dog, or something."
"...I did. A lot."
"Oh."
This puts into perspective why she sounded frostier towards the end of the call, and now I am absolutely dying of embarrassment. Fortunately, the fact that she made me cry with how useless she was is more of a sign to switch psychiatrists anyhow. And puts into perspective the complaints I was hearing from the person I'm seeing.
The actual content of how badly she botched this is a smidge too raw to share on MSB, but I just had to share the absolute groan-fest of accidentally grousing about a bad psychiatrist... to the same psychiatrist. Cringing just thinking about it again.
@solstice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I just had to share the absolute groan-fest of accidentally grousing about a bad psychiatrist... to the same psychiatrist. Cringing just thinking about it again.
I kind of get why that makes you cringe but also kind of don't. It sounds like she's the one who should be cringing, not you.
I don't like accidentally shit-talking someone to their face and outing the fact that someone I'm seeing is unhappy with their therapist. If I want to blast someone, I will, but I don't like doing it accidentally.
That being said, she should be utterly ashamed of herself. Her only advice for anxiety:
"Have you tried using logic to overcome your panic?"
"Have you tried focusing on your breathing?"
"Eesh, yeah. Sounds like you've hit a brick wall. I don't think talking will help. Probably just see if the medication works."
"I don't think I'll be able to help you. I'm trying to think if anyone can. Yeah, no one's coming to mind."
And that's not even going into her saying, out loud, that attraction to the same gender might be obsessive compulsive anxiety reactions.
Dropped.
@solstice Oh my god. I have no words. What the...?
If you have the oomph and energy to do so (you should not feel like you're obligated), you could consider reporting her to her oversight board in your state/county. She's unlikely to face consequences from a single complaint of this sort of thing, but having a record of it on file will help, and if other people have ALSO complained--it might eventually get teeth.
Also, it's super helpful from a 'cement in my mind she was WRONG WRONG WRONG' standpoint. Because she was. So wrong. I'm really sorry you went through this.
@solstice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
And that's not even going into her saying, out loud, that attraction to the same gender might be obsessive compulsive anxiety reactions.
I mean, I guess it can be? Sexuality is a big complicated mess and none of us have figured out what makes us hard/wet, but that is such a weird thing for her to say unless you were presenting the attraction as an unwanted intrusive thought or something.
Nope. Bisexual and out. She latched on to it as soon as I mentioned that. Super uncomfortable.
What is this the 1950s?
@solstice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
Nope. Bisexual and out. She latched on to it as soon as I mentioned that. Super uncomfortable.
Breathes fire lemme at her
@Cobalt I appreciate the pictures and updates, thank you.
Woke up this morning, and trying to do anything with my hand made me cry out in pain. Hours later, ...and some pot, and it's so much better...other than my thumb.
There's been something wrong there a while. The knuckle pops with motion and it just hurts like a bitch. But trying to get time off to see anyone..
@too-old-for-this said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
@Deviante Yeeeeeeeeeeees. Sorta like how I watch House Hunters. I love hearing what the couples each do for a living, and what their 'budget' is. XD
"My husband is a professional dog walker, and I used to teach kindergarten, but with our first baby on the way, I've decided to give into my passion in art. We've got a real strict budget of $1,200,000, and I'm so excited to see what we can do!"
