The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves)
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@auspice Most people are right-eye dominant. If you can't tell, look at that one. Every now and again look at the left just in case.
Then stop looking because staring people in the eyes is bad too.
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@auspice said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
I don't know how people can. You can't look at two eyes at once.
Wait, can people look someone in both eyes at once? Is that something other people can do?
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@greenflashlight said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
@auspice said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
I don't know how people can. You can't look at two eyes at once.
Wait, can people look someone in both eyes at once? Is that something other people can do?
that's what I assume looking someone in the eyes is?
Because it seems super weird to stare at one eye
i don't know
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In many animal species, in most primates, holding eye contact is meant to be challenging. I'm not convinced macho bullshit isn't the reason prolonged eye contact is even a thing.
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@puppybreath said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
I'm not convinced macho bullshit isn't the reason prolonged eye contact is even a thing.
It is the reason.
So?
It's macho bullshit. I know that; everyone knows that. It was never about respect; it's about engaging in that animalistic behavior known as staring someone down.
As a society, we think ourselves above it, but we aren't and we never will be.
I have learned not only to stare at people, but to stare and laugh at them.
All of the neurotypical behaviors are unfortunately red-flags when I look at a potential associate because every one of them are honest.
All warfare is deception.
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@puppybreath said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
In many animal species, in most primates, holding eye contact is meant to be challenging. I'm not convinced macho bullshit isn't the reason prolonged eye contact is even a thing.
It's largely American macho bullshit. A lot of countries don't prioritize eye contact the way we do because they understand it's aggressive.
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you look at someone in the eyes by focusing on one, or both, going back and forth (though not super fast, like a madperson.) I have never had any trouble with eye contact or addressing people, but that might be a quirk of anxiety for some people. Just not the way mine manifests.
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@kanye-qwest I either am not looking at your face or giving a hard stare/... apparently?
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I apparently either don't look at people at all, or I have a creepy dead-eye stare mixed with resting bitch face. So... y'know, I tend to go for not looking at people. Its the lesser of two evils.
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@too-old-for-this I think I have the opposite of 'Resting Bitch Face' i call it 'Resting Fucking off Face' Every job/responsibility/whatever ive ever had... i could be helping a customer, arms full of product, taking notes, and supervisors come up to me like I'm doing nothing. Same with parents. I ust genuinely give the appearance of faffing off 24/7.
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@wretched Yeah, I used to get accused of that when I worked retail. While actively holding up a display for another associate to fix into place so it will stop falling over every time a customer touches it.
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I've been told by a male coworker that I have an 'intimidating aura'. I've also been told by a female manager (I think was a compliment?) that I'm really good at blowing people off, and I think that 'intimidating' face is what she was referring to.
I'm quietly terrified of literally everything and everyone, though. I'm just bad at having facial expressions.
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@puppybreath I'm half convinced i only got my promotion because for most of the year no one has been able to see the weird as fuck faces i make at any given time.
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I finally have my ADHD assessment scheduled, after 9 random forms and a commitment to pay $900 out of pocket because it's out of network even though my insurance provider is listed on their website.
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Fail to do the laundry for all of it.
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Start a low-intensity freakout when you're down to just your stuntderwear.
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Do all the laundry ever, kick back in a giant fort of clean clothes that will sit there until your next LIF, which will probably be about clutter strangulation, though mine was about an incoming doctor call BEING TEN MINUTES LATE.
Crisis-only dopamine?
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I only seem to be able to focus on 'fun' things. Other than that, I want to sleep. ...and sleep.
