So the stitching group I was a part of sort of blew up.
Well, it didn't, but I left it. I wasn't the only one. A sort of core group (a clique, as you may say) had formed. And the leader of the group was a part of it. This clique was allowed to behave in terrible ways. They treated me poorly. They treated others poorly. And no one was allowed to speak out against them.
The clique type behavior we sometimes complain about here? It was in full display, so I walked. The final straw for me was when one of the members made a transphobic joke (to someone who is openly genderfluid) and when called out, pulled the 'lol it's okay I'm gay' card. But he's part of the clique. And the woman running the group just shrugged and went 'He is LGBT so it's cool.' NEWP. Transphobic jokes are NEVER OK.
So I left. I just stopped interacting.
But, Auspice, you might be wondering: this is the RL Things I love thread.
Why yes, it is!
Today, someone from that group reached out to me. Someone I still liked, but I wasn't sure WHO? was still OK and who wasn't. I usually just (such as with games) cut my ties and go. But she reached out to say she'd missed me, asked how I was doing. Come to find out the same issues (including that particular 'joke') had bothered her and she was planning to start her own group, particularly for steotch (which is starting early this year to specifically be a low-key, more casual event), and she'd really like me to be a part of it.
It was something really nice, uplifting, and encouraging to hear. Not only am I glad other people see and are aware of that toxic behavior for what it is... it felt nice to have someone reach out to me and want to involve me in something that's going to be better.