@Coin I'm not calling you a cheater. I just didn't win that time. :<
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@Coin I'm not calling you a cheater. I just didn't win that time. :<
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See, what I get out of that story is that adults are shit, not children.
The thief is also shit. It wasn't enough that it stole a cellphone, which is worth a substantial amount of money; it also had to go ahead and be a tremendous dick about it.
I'd press charges if I were the victim's parents. And then inform the school board of the principal's failure to act.
Not anger... but a bunch of mixed feelings.
I've decided to take an offer for a different job, and it's not something I'm good at doing. It feels disloyal somehow to jump ship even if rationally I realize it's just business, or that I've seen my boss lay people off without any warning several times over the last few years.
It feels awkward, and the excitement of being at a new place with cool new things to do is mixed with the knowledge I'm not going to be seeing some of the people I've been interacting with everyday and have come to quite like.
I just hope all that - and a nice salary bump - make all this worth it.
See, what I get out of that story is that adults are shit, not children.
The thief is also shit. It wasn't enough that it stole a cellphone, which is worth a substantial amount of money; it also had to go ahead and be a tremendous dick about it.
I addressed that. The child in question is a shit, no doubt. But very rarely is shit just there. Shit doesn't just happen:
Shit takes systematic effort to make most times. And in this case the shit was made by parents who aren't monitoring and who likely even helped protect the shit from consequences multiple times in the past.
It feels disloyal somehow to jump ship even if rationally I realize it's just business, or that I've seen my boss lay people off without any warning several times over the last few years.
Businesses can expect upward loyalty iff they exhibit downward loyalty. I've not seen (nor even really heard of!) a business that consistently exhibited downward loyalty at any point in my life. Downward loyalty only happens when economic times are good and workers are rarer than positions. As soon as there's even a momentary turn in that relationship businesses show their true colours.
Don't feel "disloyal". Feel "smart".
I just hope all that - and a nice salary bump - make all this worth it.
It is. And it isn't. Unless you're a sociopath you will miss your former colleagues. You might remain in touch with the ones you were closest too, but likely not once the main reason for your getting together is removed from your relationship.
Just make new friends in the new place. Then it's worth it.
Businesses can expect upward loyalty iff they exhibit downward loyalty. I've not seen (nor even really heard of!) a business that consistently exhibited downward loyalty at any point in my life.
I have—notably where I work right now, which is no small part of why I'm here—but you're right that it is vanishingly rare; I've encountered it three times, and only three, and one of those was "a company of six people all of whom had been friends before making said company".
Couple months ago, a coworker and I built out a sort of 'database' of replies for the CS/Tier 1 team to use. I say 'database' because it was just a notebook in OneNote they could reference for these macros. Responses for standard/common tickets they could copy and paste and edit rather than type up from scratch every single time.
We did this as a volunteer thing, in between our own tickets. We never got thanks. We never expected it. We mostly did it because we got sick of being asked the same things over and over by people ("What do I tell people who want to change their username?" "What do we tell people who want spoilers on upcoming card releases?") .
Today, management drops the bomb on us: "We don't like that you used OneNote, so we need you to rebuild it in a GoogleDoc using this layout we designed. ASAP."
Thanks, guys. Really. Just great. Super awesome. Thanks for the reminder why I never, ever do anything nice for a job anymore.
@Auspice The sense of entitlement many employers (most?) have is sometimes truly shocking, or would be if it weren't so comical. Some highlights from my past:
Health.
Just in general.
My mother is going through chemotherapy. A friend was just diagnosed with a degenerative nerve disease probably caused by their chemo medication of a few years ago. Another friend's father just passed away from cancer a couple of hours ago.
Oh, and just for the cancer combo-breaker, my father is staring at a likely diagnosis of Parkinson's. My chronic migraines/cluster headaches seem actually pretty damn minor in comparison.
American health care: we're #1. Or something.
I hate this audit. I hate this job. I don't hate my boss but he's a banker and refuses to let us take a loss ever. The company would have been actually profitable months ago, but since we were turning profit on paper only, we still have to shuffle things in order to make a 'profit', when we actually make a profit, but are still trying to drag revenues to cover old losses. There's also no health insurance.
Every word in the thesaurus is not created equal.
'Asiatic' is kind of offensive when describing a person. Why can't your character just be Asian?
'Florid-cheeked young woman' over there, rosy cheeks would have worked just fine. Whenever I see you, I will think that you're angry or drunk.
'iconoclast' is a cool word, and it might even describe your character, but it is not a physical descriptor, I didn't walk into this bar and think 'This poorly-dressed iconoclast drinking the cheapest beer on the menu gives zero fucks about tradition, clearly!'.
@Arkandel Good luck with the new job! Remember, if someone offered your boss a better job with a better salary, he probably wouldn't hesitate to leave you all behind, either.
'iconoclast' is a cool word, and it might even describe your character, but it is not a physical descriptor
I remember asking someone what "a bespoke gentleman" was supposed to mean, and got snarked at for being pedantic. I really had no idea how someone could look "bespoke"! None of us are made to order; you kind of end up with whatever you get!
@Thenomain You should have just discreetly inquired around town about who did his cosmetic work.
@Thenomain Patchwork person, clearly, built to order as a sexbot. Totally has to be the thing.
Really, web store, I'm there to shop. Popping up a request for me to sign up for your newsletter and then getting cutesy but snarky about the "no" option is not going to endear me to you. I am thinking about spending money with you; why are you trying to get in my way?
People cancelling D&D to do stupid yardwork they could do any night of the week. FFS taking a 3 day weekend to do six hours of work. UGH!
Every word in the thesaurus is not created equal.
'Asiatic' is kind of offensive when describing a person. Why can't your character just be Asian?
While I get your peeve here (Asiatic vs. Asian), Asian is still a horrible word for a description, since there are several varieties of Asian, some of which differ greatly from each other (Indian vs. Chinese, for example).
Just as a minor peeve of my own.
Also, this is the RL Anger thread; this seems like a MU/RP related peeve and should have gone in the Random Bitching thread for MU-related stuff!
@Coin I used MU-examples but the gripe is very general - people that use alternative-words to make themselves sound more worldly, but wind up just sounding like they've raped a dictionary. I cringe every time someone at work says 'Let's get some verbage on that'.
As for the use of 'Asian' as a descriptor - fair enough. Though in general many people (not all, I am definitely making a generalization here) aren't good at telling the difference between a Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Thai/Viet person, especially at a first glance. So a descriptor of 'A middle-aged Asian man with poor posture' would be fine to me, with bonus points if their look-desc goes into more detail about what specific nation they seem to hail from, and extra bonus points if they're ultimately Middle Eastern.
Bonus points for people who make Anglo-appearing Russians from east of Moscow and refer to themselves as Asian