@surreality said in RL Anger:
I think the whole idea of 'selling oneself' in that way is just... meh on its face, I guess. If people like you, they're going to like you with or without the job, with or without the looks, with or without the pog collection, etc.
This is a nice sentiment, but I find it is wholly false. In my experience, the way people think about you changes fast. The whole thread of discussion is absolutely stupid, but I've tried not to comment on it. (In my opinion, there's no such thing as involuntary celibacy.)
I may be a cynic, but I believe that whether or not people like you has little or nothing to do with whether they will date or fuck you. And, frankly, whether that will happen will depend not on how you sell yourself, but how you set yourself up to be sellable. Pearls on swine apply here in the short-term.
I've got a friend. I love him to death. We met as actors. At the time, he was 23, finishing up college, had no car, and lived with his parents. Now, he's 26, he lives with a roommate, has a car and a job, and a degree. His problem of not having a meaningful, healthy relationship has not changed, but he has, at the very least, set himself up to be sellable when the time comes.
Amateur masseuse? Who gives a fuck. No one seeking a serious relationship is going to give a shit.
Professional massage therapist? Very different.