Best posts made by Aria

@derp said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I never realized how different they looked and how much they had aged until I went all the way back to the beginning and it was like 'holy shit.'

I didn't start watching until about..... two years ago, at the recommendation of a co-worker? And even so, whenever I see anything from the first few seasons, I go a bit wobbly-eyed trying to process that.

But. BUT. If you like the Supernatural soundtrack, there's an entire massive playlist of it on Spotify. I was raised on classic rock, so the roadtrip soundtracks were definitely part of what generated my soft spot for this show so damned fast.

I finalized this stupid p-chart and case analysis for my process management class. It is done. Finished. Submitted.

And I swear to Christ that if anyone makes me calculate the values for a two-tailed or a null hypothesis ever again, I am going to punch them right in the junk.

Except probably not, because I'm taking statistics next semester. Please excuse me while I go cry in a corner.

I literally met my husband playing one of their games and they were both always lovely, intelligent, and kind the few times I interacted with them.

Donated and shared.

@wizz said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

My third-grade kiddo's principal just called and said he drew a bunch of naked women in his math book.

I am completely at a loss. He is really into art, draws all sorts of things, but I have been really careful as to what he's exposed to in terms of age-appropriate content in shows and movies and I have no idea where this would come from. (Just curiosity, I guess?)

I also have no idea where to go for guidance on this stuff...I know my super conservative fam would go the shame route and I really, really don't like that and won't do it.

Just sucks feeling like I am fumbling around in the dark on this one...this is a subject that seems very easy to fuck up.

I'm not a parent, so definitely take my advice with a grain of salt, but.....

I think the best approach would be talking to him about how curiosity about bodies is natural, but there are appropriate times and places for that. Not because it's bad or shameful in any way, but because bodies are very personal things belonging to the people that inhabit them, so it's important not to make other people uncomfortable with unwelcome displays or unwelcome questions.

But, like, some kind of eight year old translated version of that?

@wizz said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Aria

Very much how I want to approach it, but it's always the "coding it for an eight year old" part that is difficult, haha. It's a very complicated topic and I definitely want him to understand why without making him feel awful, so...I dunno. Maybe I'll sleep on it.

@auspice

That's a great suggestion! It's hard to know if he would appreciate the distinction yet, but it certainly couldn't hurt to look into resources.

Here's the thing that I think lots of people forget:

Kids are really smart. Like, a lot smarter than we give them credit for. Definitely the coding it for an eight year old is difficult, but... I think a lot of times, adults get way more worked up about stuff than kids do.

We used to see all this hand-wringing about "OMG, how do I explain the <whisper> gay lifestyle to my children?!?" and it's like... look, Susan. No one is asking you to explain leather daddies or something to your four year old. You can chill. The few times I've had to explain what 'gay' is to a kid, it's pretty much a case of "Well, they love each other just like your mommy and daddy do. It's just that they're both girls." And usually the kid is like, "Okay! Can we color now?"

I think the emphasis on "because we don't want to make other people uncomfortable" idea will resonate pretty well if you can word it in a way he relates to.

@wizz said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I don't intend to knock at you at all here because I think that you're right that adults generally do get more worked up than can be warranted, but like...you can't just flippantly assume that a kid understands across the board. A lot of things don't have a simple "that's just the way it is" answer, children don't have the years of context and experience that we do so a lot of distinctions we make can seem very arbitrary and hard to parse to them

Ohh, yeah, no. That is not a knock at all, dude. Not at all! In fact, that's pretty much exactly the point I was trying to make. Kids are super smart, they just don't have the context adults do. When we give them a bit of context that they can relate to, they're usually pretty good at figuring stuff out -- much moreso than we give them credit for.

@derp said in How are you coping with COVID (and other 2020 fun)?:

@aria said in How are you coping with COVID (and other 2020 fun)?:

I'm really curious how this applies in the case of medical marijuana. Is it still the same or, given some of the things that it's allowed for in my state are protected under the ADA Amendments Act of 2008, would this now be considered a discriminatory act?
I dunno, but I would like to.

Given that it's still federally criminal, it would not be protected under any of the ADA Clauses.

ETA: If it were federally decriminalized, your employer could probably still end up being fairly discriminatory, especially if you are around machines / vehicles / anything at all wherein the effects of marijuana could present a hazard to yourself or those around you, the same as they can with opiate / opioid substances currently.

This is pretty much exactly what I wanted to know. Thank you!

In my case, TL;DR, I have major trouble sleeping as a result of some things it's approved for the use of in my state and have never reacted well to prescription sleeping medication. Smoking up in college right before bed is pretty much the best sleep I have ever gotten in my entire life and I would very much like to have that back. Alas.

I don't have a problem. I can stop any time I want! >.>

(PS - Yes, the other two drawers are also full.)

For reference, for those of you who may be interested in other lines, I also recommend:

• Arcana Wildcraft
• Astrid Perfume (Note: Currently on winter break. Expected to reopen in February.)
• Nocturne Alchemy (Note: Currently on winter break. Expected to reopen in February.)
• Nui Cobalt
• Poesie
• Sixteen92
• Sucreabeille
• Whisper Sisters

If you want decants/samples of newly released collections, you can pre-order them from Angi at Ajevie and if you're into the whole luxury independent fragrance thing more than perfume oils, I recommend Perfumology. The owner, Nir, is a complete and total mensch and his mother is lovely and hilariously funny. Nir once tracked down a bottle of 4160Tuesday's Bodhi Language just for me, as well as selling my husband one of the few bottles of Buddhawood Box available in the US, and they're indescribably lovely.

@reimesu This reminds me of my review of their Jacob's Ladder release, which is one of their more common Yules.

"I was really looking forward to this one, but I have the exact problem with it that it appears everyone else is saying they didn't have -- the amber in this went straight to baby powder on my skin. Fancy baby powder for a baby with a fancy ass that needs fancy scents to keep it dry and comfy in its satin nappies, but definitely baby powder. And I don't want to smell like a fancy baby's fancy ass."

Skin chemistry is weird.

@cassite said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

Part of me hopes pandemic fashion forces people to actually standardize sizing across brands.

And all of me knows this will never happen.

The shirt sizes in my closet range from "large" to "4X".
This does not include men's clothes that I wear.

What sort of monster gives students a four hour math exam?

@surreality Nope! Craft Smart's Multi Ombre Yarn in "Orchard Mist" mixed with Lion Brand's Homespun in "Waterfall".

@silverfox said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I had no problem with the first Pfizer shot beyond hella painful arm, but I was hot garbage after the second.

^ First Pfizer shot was fine. Sore arm that was no worse than my flu shot last fall, kinda tired for a day or so. Got the second shot last night. I was fine this morning (nine hours ago), not even a sore arm, but as of about three hours ago, I have a headache, am exhausted, random muscles hurt, and I've got goosebumps and the shivers sitting in a sunny 78* room. The rest of my symptoms (cough, runny nose, sore throat) I assume are from spring allergies hitting me at the same time, 'cause all the trees and flowers are fucking and my eyes started itching last weekend.

Dealing with both at the same time is going to be.... interesting.

@ganymede said in RL things I love:

@aria said in RL things I love:

You're welcome for the solid life advice here, everyone.

A man?

I do the lawn mowing. The gardening. The furniture-making. The cooking. The plumbing. Cleaning, often. Washing and folding clothes. Putting the kids to bed.

Of course, my partner is also a lawyer-PA combo, so she be smart as fuck, but --

-- yeah, get you an anybody who will get off their ass and not be a helpless fuck. And for fuck's sake, I learned how to fix the washer and dryer through YouTube, along with changing oil, a car battery, and a flat tire on the side of the road.

THERE IS NO DAMN EXCUSE FOR ANYONE TO NOT KNOW THESE BASIC THINGS.

I mean....

I'm a woman (mostly? kind of? let's go with mostly and also "no one will ever look at me and think 'guy' or even 'non-binary no matter what I do'" because gender is complicated and society is fat-phobic and also dumb) and I also fix the shower, fix the air conditioning, self-diagnose wheel bearings crapping out in my car, manage all our finances, argue with the mechanic about why he's a wrong-face idiot who is an idiot that is also wrong (motherfucker, my car does not need power-steering fluid when I have clearly told you it's electric power-steering), and plenty of other household-slash-life maintenance things that our culture normally ascribes to dudes. On a trip to Lowe's a few years ago, I remember staring at the cashier who asked me if I was "picking up things on my husband's shopping list" right in the face and announcing "Are you kidding? He doesn't even know what a cartridge puller is. My husband is at home washing my laundry."

I said a man because we were literally talking about a guy (he) who bought a girl (the OP's sister) a wheel of cheese and their reaction to that, including our mocking the bullshit heteronormative standards of the fairytale romance narrative, which push the idea of grand gestures and, frequently, stalking or abusive behavior over the practical aspects of building a life together.

And also because my work bestie is a straight girl who is all about that dick, so. Y'know. Catering to my original audience.

@ganymede said in RL things I love:

What I meant to insinuate is not about gender; rather, it was that one should find someone resourceful enough to be useful. Because there's really no excuse not to be, in my opinion, for household tasks.

Accurate.

Though I still maintain that someone who sends you cheese instead of flowers after a date is marriage material. Unless they know you're lactose intolerant, in which case they're a monster.

@cupcake said in Good TV:

Yes, I thoroughly enjoyed Shadow and Bone, BUT...

I started a rewatch of The Nanny and I am genuinely surprised at how well it holds up. Also, Fran Fine is officially now my style icon, big hair and all.

@Cupcake

@wizz said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

"I refuse to wear a mask or get the vaccine because I have anecdotes about two or three people wearing masks or getting vaccinated and still getting COVID. Why would I take any preventative measure if it doesn't completely magically 100% work?????? I openly admit that I have done little to no research and seem kind of proud of this for some reason? You can try to provide me with even a basic understanding of medicine and scientific methodology that I very obviously lack but I will just call everything you painstakingly labor to give me 'opinion' and stand by my dumbass mouthbreather ignorance because it childishly eases my anxiety to put my fingers in my ears and go LALALA IT'S NOT REAL IT'S NOT REAL despite being a grown ass adult."

Fuuuuuuuuucking christ why is this EVERYONE IN UTAH I JUST I CAN'T ANYMORE

I really feel like the United States, as an entire culture, just needs to spend about five years or so being raised by my mom. Like, don't get me wrong, the woman has issues. She has issues, believe you me, but.....

When I was little and I threw a tantrum in public, it didn't matter where we were or what we were doing, my parents would just pack me up and leave. Halfway through dinner at a restaurant? Doggie bags. Middle of the grocery store? Full cart returned to an employee with apologies while they marched screeching toddler-me out of the store. After about half a dozen goes at it, I decided that I liked going out and doing things more than I liked having fits, so I stopped having tantrums in public.

Didn't even matter if you were someone else's kid. Didn't matter where we were or what property you were on. Drop me off at school and find a pack of kids bullying someone? She'd yell at you to knock it off and get your asses inside before she called your mother. Running around the neighborhood acting all crazy-like? She'd scream at you to get out of the damned street before you got hit by a car.

I really, really feel like we could just use a collective National Mom (tm) who is sick of everyone's shit and prepared to give anyone within earshot a piece of her mind.

@silverfox said in The Work Thread:

@aria

I hope this stays awesome and you can keep that flexibility!

We've had the opposite happen. Husband worked an hourly job and kept getting overtime because of poor hiring decisions, then took a job as a salaried position. He was still asked to work overtime, but didn't get paid any more. (It's an industry where they don't have to pay overtime, first position was.)

Yeah, I was able to claim overtime in my previous role, but they were generally a pain about approving it. The flipside of no longer being overtime-eligible at my employer is that it means you're bonus eligible at year-end, where bonuses are tied to your annual goals rather than your time spent. I think I'm going to prefer the latter. We'll see.