@ganymede said in Let's talk about TS.:
1. Set boundaries: You have limits. Declare your limits.
Absolutely agreed. I liked your earlier comment too - once you know what your limits are, don't change them. Not for anyone. Not even and especially if they push.
3. Then set expectations: How often do you want TS? Is it a garnish or the main course when you come online? (Yes, double-entendre there, har har, GTFO.)
That's a tough issue to bring up, I think. A poster here brought up in a recent thread she had someone as-a-joke-but-not-really-hah-hah complain about the regularity of TS, and I've been shared pages in the past by people who explicitly state that's what they're on the game for.
Basically this whole thing works - shockingly! - when both people involved want the same thing. What I'm wondering is how often folks are honest, either to themselves or to their partners, about how often they do want this to happen. Is it a fallback on a rainy day when not much else is happening or the, as you aptly put it, main course?
4. Then discuss what you like: Do you prefer the grinding, descriptive, purple-prose TS, or the light-hearted, fun-having TS that leads to injuries and escapades?
Another sensitive point here is that in the early stages it might seem presumptious to start the conversation at all. You meet someone you don't know too well OOC yet - maybe you're chatting in pages about video games or whatever, then RP starts heading into that kind of direction... it's a step forward to start busting out the sex questions.
1. Never give out personal information.
Agreed. Not just for TS, for anything online. For me even Facebook is reserved to very very few people.
2. Never talk about RL sex partners, past or current.
I mean, whatever works for people, but it seems like a huge red flag if anyone does. Talking about marrital issues while you're posing bumping uglies isn't just crossing the IC/OOC line, it's more like setting it on fire.
3. Never agree to chat, swap pics, or otherwise interact away from the MUSH of this forum.
Danger, danger!