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My issue with cancel culture is what it prevents.

Yes, well-established people haven't seen themselves made destitute, cool.

What about the authors who can't find a publisher because something is considered 'risky' (we listed a few authors earlier in the thread whose work got pulled and was only later found to not be remotely what the naysayers said it was)?

The scriptwriters and directors who can't find a studio to take their project? If Taika Waititi wasn't really popular rn, JoJo would not have happened. If the same exact film had been proposed by a 'no name,' it'd have never happened. And JoJo almost didn't because even before it was out, Taika was weathering accusations of being anti-Semitic just based on the material of the film.

My worry of cancel culture isn't 'oh no someone I like might be ruined.' It's 'oh no, we're seeing fewer new artists.' Publishers and studios won't touch something that might be 'risky' (this is why it took so long for LGBT material to be more common place for YA: traditionally it got boycotted and didn't sell... THANKFULLY that has changed).

Art is about being able to present your view of the world. And yes, sometimes it is a shitty view and someone is a shitty person.

Other times it's stuff like JoJo Rabbit where difficult material is taken and shown through a different lens, but might in its elevator pitch not be seen as being as rich as it truly is.

@Wretched said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

I have routines.
I survive on routines.

Except the instant one little thing breaks the routine, it throws off that day... at bare minimum.

I've been fucked up all week because I couldn't do my laundry on Sunday because the card readers on the machines were offline.

If you're outside the US, Studio Ghibli films are coming to Netflix in February.

If you're in the US, ha ha fuck you HBO got the rights instead.

Every company should send a rejection notice if they aren't gonna proceed after they interview you. Even if it's a form letter they just hit a button and have auto-emailed.

But if you take a test (coding test, writing test, whatever) for them? Then they abso-fucking-lutely should do this. It should not be a week after I interviewed and then spent a weekend on what was probably about ten hours of work on a writing assignment without hearing word.

This is bullshit.
You can spend two minutes to either acknowledge receipt, let me know you won't proceed, or scheduling the next interview.

I told myself I wasn't gonna cry today because I'm not a crier but omg.

Emails from people I've not even (by my estimation) interacted with much thanking me for my work, praising it.

And then I found out that the guide I developed is now being used as a formula (the layout, design, etc) for the documentation of tools going forward. Totally teared up when I read that.

stupid tv show making me cry
should be ashamed of itself

I need to convince myself that it's OK that I don't have a job yet. It's only been a week.
I need to convince myself that I shouldn't define my self-worth by having a job and the quality of that job.

I am completely failing to convince myself of that and I just spent all night watching TV because going to bed is depressing and once I do go to bed I'll spend all day in it and hoo boy I am depressed. Welp. Time to sleep and set an alarm and probably disregard it anyway.

@Rinel said in Buying Shit:

men's clothing sucks thing.

Men get pockets.
Tuxes are sexy on almost everyone (I say almost because finding a button-down shirt that fits a busty woman without going custom tailored is like, impossible) whereas finding a formal gown that fits and looks right is lol.

Also, men's pant sizing is far superior. Waist and inseam? My world for jeans that don't have to be folded up so I'm not walking on them all day.

I need some of y'all's luck to rub off on me plzkthx

I was talking to someone about shyness. How it can manifest different in different people.
And I was reminded of a really frustrating experience I had recently...

In that dreaded RL group's Discord, one girl was venting about how she wishes she could do more on her own but she tends to just go places, stand or sit around alone, then leave after a while. That no one ever approaches her and she can't approach anyone. I commiserated with her because I'm the same way when I don't know anyone and that it's hard being really shy and having a lot of anxiety.

Someone broke in and began going off at me about how I'm not shy. I'm always engaged at the group's events and chatting with people and and... I pointed out that I know everyone. That we all have gotten to know each other on Discord, which helps immensely. And she just kept insisting that I'm not shy and to stop lying.

It's just yet another reason why I've felt closed out of that group. I talk to one or two people in PMs and one of them told me last night that she's only still in it because she likes most of the people outside the central clique that's formed and the hobby itself. I realized it's pretty much the same for me.

But the core of this is: goddamnit, personalities and mental health issues manifest in different ways. Don't denigrate mine because it doesn't manifest in the way you approve of, you anal wart.

I was considering suggesting that those of us with Tabletop Simulator could start doing virtual game nights.

@L-B-Heuschkel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Grabbing a moment to vent about the person who just in all seriousness told me that I don't understand what it's like at all for someone to be quarantined for weeks and not able to leave their house. Because I have lived like this for years and hence I am used to it, and it's not hard for me.

Yeah, sure. I mean, I don't mind at all not being able to walk, no worries, it's permanent, that makes it cool.

The conversation I keep having is the 'this proves that we should have people work and school from home all the time! It's so easy!'
usually said by people who are on furlough / still working because their job literally cannot be done from home.

Like, yes, if working from home works for you: great. It doesn't for everyone. And it requires a certain level of discipline that not everyone has.

And schooling online is a whole other bag. Part of why it took me so long to pursue my degree is while I can work from home, I don't learn great without a structured environment. Online school is basically audio/visual learning only and a relatively small number of people benefit from that style of instruction. I'm very much someone who is hands-on, who needs to be able to see things done and then mimic so that I can see myself go through the process. Video calls help this, but they're also not as feasible. There's no replacement for a teacher moving around the classroom to see people at their work and spot where help is needed.

And 'but what about their parents' is not valid, either. As someone who had to homeschool (my parents wouldn't enroll me in a school for HS: I asked, often)....my mother barely graduated herself and would stare blankly at my work. My father's style of teaching was 'yell until I got it or left in tears' (usually the latter). Or worse: kids with bad home environments?

I think the unfortunate thing is that quarantine is still 'novel' to a lot of people and seen as a fun-thing-to-do (which, I guess is OK if it means they're staying home).

fuck migraines

everyone should watch Avatar. And then watch Korra because it is awesome and is p much the first blatantly bi cartoon character Nickelodeon has allowed.

All the ways to watch Springsteen play with Dropkick Murphys tonight. Starts in an hour.

This is FREE, but they are asking for donations! (Proceeds to Boston Resiliency Fund, Feeding America, and Habitat for Humanity)

@Rinel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

You need the anxiety of an impending deadline to kickstart your executive function

aka lay in bed all morning until it's 15 minutes until you have to be at the place that's 10 minutes away and you can totally make it except it takes 20 minutes to even get out the door and why am I always late to things except the things I want to do

oh right

@Ninjakitten said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

@Auspice Wait, you mean you're somehow not late to the things you do want to do?

It's like 50/50.
If it's something I wanna do and I'm driving myself: yes. I am there early! Sometimes too early! You invite me over to, say, a party and I'm excited? I AM THE FIRST PERSON THERE. I do not understand the meaning of 'it's okay to show up 15 minutes late to a casual gathering.' We will awkwardly stand around for the first hour until everyone shows up.

If it's something I wanna do and someone else is driving: I am ready an hour early. Then I sit around bored. Then I get distracted and find something to do. Then my ride shows up and I'm in the middle of what I did to distract myself 'why aren't you ready' WELL I WAS READY.......an hour ago.