Posts made by Auspice

The issue I take with some of the noted 'cutesy' people is that... they don't have any compulsion. They aren't negatively impacted in any way.

It's just someone who likes to have their bathroom color coordinated. It's just someone who enjoys a bookshelf organized by authors. It's just someone who happens to ... also really like attention and has found that the 'hee I'm so OCD!' nets them that attention. I mean, a lot of people like those things! They just have that added 'I want attention from this' component.

So for those of us that aren't those 'some people' and have a legitimate disorder (because OCD goes way beyond 'likes to be organized' and some people with OCD aren't organized whatsoever because their compulsions manifest differently), it's a problem.

People who pull the cutesy shit and do things like that or call their mood swings 'bipolar' or treat any other number of mental health issues as what is, essentially, a joke just for attention... are hurting those who have actual mental health issues. Because it's almost a mockery for us, because it pulls attention to them. Remember: a lot of people who do have mental health issues tend to hide and to put people who are making a mockery of things in the limelight makes the rest of us look bad because look at the kind of people who are getting that attention.

Someone who is negatively impacted in some way... probably isn't out there giggling about it in the fashion I'm referencing (the 'hehe look at me being such a dork/airhead/so fun'). Which is why I'm disinclined to believe those that do.

@tinuviel

I've had people in the past want to jokingly call my 'good' moods 'Oh feeling a little bipolar today?' and it's like no. No. I am a major depressive. I am not bipolar. I am not manic depressive. Sometimes it will clear and I will have good days and just because you don't see them that often or it drops off and I go back into depression doesn't mean it's bipolar.

It does mean it's a dumb shit thing to joke about.

@Sparks - I think some people might feel it to a degree? Just like a lot of people have fabric sensitivities. Or are bothered when they realize 'oh shit I wore mismatched socks this one has one stripe and this one has two.'

But I legitimately can't go 'Oh man I need a different shirt on' and even if the shirt was the last item in the 'stack' just change shirts. It's not a discomfort throughout the day. It's a complete debilitating panic attack. I've tried. I make it a few steps from my room before I'm totally frozen. I have to completely undress and go back to the beginning: wash face, do hair, put on clothes... This is why I don't wear makeup often and when I do, I go through test runs of the chosen outfit for whatever engagement it is to be absolutely certain it's one I can and want to wear. And why makeup and hair is my very last step (women who can do makeup before they put their outfit on, I salute you... I know you do it for fear of glitter and foundation and all on said outfit, but I can't risk it).

@arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@alamias said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@arkandel This is why I don't live in a place that gets that white stuff all over the ground during winter.

White is nothing. It's the black stuff you care about - black ice. Black ice is a fucking supervillain.

I once dated someone from the south who admitted to me that until he lived for a couple years in a northern state, he thought black ice was something bad drivers made up.

And then he encountered it.

Until I came to Canada I thought black ice was a cool Shadowrun term. So.

Well, I mean, it is that too!

@moth

No, man, I get it.

When people giggle and teehee over the 'I know, I'm just so OCD' because of things like that, I want to strangle them sometimes. Because I don't think they've been awake at 4 in the morning, exhausted and sobbing because they want to be in bed but no, the entire kitchen must be cleaned and organized right now or else. Or late to work because you accidentally got dressed in the wrong order because you're wearing a slightly different outfit and you fucked up the stack so you have to start all over again and redo your whole routine... and no, you can't just remove the last item. You have to redo everything.

And I know for that person, maybe organizing books by color is their OCD, but at the same time maybe... just maybe... they could act like it doesn't make them cute. Because I, on the other hand, have had people mock me and torment me for my need to have things like volume in increments of 5 until I'm in tears and begging them to please stop and just let it be and wouldn't it be nice if I got to be cute for my 'quirk'?

So yeah, no, I hear you. As for the automated interview: I type up a script to read from as I go through it to help me not forget and skip questions because boy oh boy have I been there.

@arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@alamias said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@arkandel This is why I don't live in a place that gets that white stuff all over the ground during winter.

White is nothing. It's the black stuff you care about - black ice. Black ice is a fucking supervillain.

I once dated someone from the south who admitted to me that until he lived for a couple years in a northern state, he thought black ice was something bad drivers made up.

And then he encountered it.

@theonceler said in Good TV:

Oh, I know! That show should never have been on NBC in the first place, really. So CW owes us a new show! With the same cast. I loved his buddy.

Last I'd heard, the DC streaming service was gonna do a season 2 as an animated series, but that may have been nixed with him going to Legends.

@theonceler said in Good TV:

Also, also, also CW I love Matt Ryan as Constantine please make him a regular part of the crew next season and then give him his own show

He already got his own show. It only had one season and then got cancelled because everything sucks and is terrible and people aren't ready for a show like it and the universe hates us

I'd like to think a company run by a woman wouldn't be really sexist, but I learned at one of my very first jobs (17 years old) that this is not always the case.

Sometimes, you work with other women who are really freaking awesome (I have a few at work). Other times, you get women who are very very paranoid that other women are competition so they surround themselves with men and wall out any/all other women (who aren't their own bffs) and lean hard into the sexism as a means to protect their own position in the framework of the company. Unfortunately, I think the upper echelons of my company are just that.

It's why the report I made was so fucking disheartening because when I sat down with HR and a manager, the manager was a woman and she just sat there looking at unrelated paperwork like the whole thing was nbd and a waste of her time.

I've treated her politely and openly with respect since, but privately I have absolutely none for her.

@paris said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@auspice It's a shame that your HR is just not dealing with him, because he's exactly the kind of person they're there to deal with.

Well, considering when the answer to my reporting a project manager exhibiting sexist behavior was 'Are you sure they were being sexist?' (Considering I've never reported such behavior before and I was utterly flabbergasted? Yes. Yes I'm fucking sure.) and said HR manager the other day made a joke of 'Well, much as it pains me to say it, <Auspice> is right.' and then a moment later looked at me to go: 'Just so you know, I only said that because it's you, not because you're a woman.'

...... I think our office's HR guy has problems.

And it puts me into a bind because anything I submit to HR goes into a queue and he can see it (and thus grab it and work it himself). I don't actually know if I have a way to individually direct it over his head.

@cupcake said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Have any other folks tried Dia & Co? They're offering to waive the styling fee in addition to free shipping for the first box with cancellation any time.

I want to try it, but I'm always a bit leery of tossing my money into the ether.

I've wanted to try it, but my budget hasn't allowed for it. It LOOKS nice.

My coworker is really talking up StyleFix right now. I'm just so scared that even WITH the styling help and all, I'll STILL get shit that doesn't fit me or look good AT ALL.

My boss fucking abuses power.

He's a slob as I've mentioned before. He's made our newest hire clean up after him.
Now he's going to have the person working Saturday put down the carpet tiles that we got in for the new room we moved into.

None of this is shit we should be doing. The first is shit he should do himself. We clean up after ourselves and as a team in general (we get pizza for the team? we clean as a team) and the second is something the office should hire someone to do, not add on to someone's tasks. But he will laugh and joke all 'Hey, it'll be slow anyway, so you might as well have something to do.'

No, that's not how shit works.

And when I approached him again about my need to move to full-time on this project (since my other one is ending at the end of this month), his answer was 'You said you didn't want to.' No I fucking didn't. We had a long talk about how I NEED the hours and PLEASE talk to R (client manager) about getting me those hours.

I made fucking sure I confronted him while a Sr. Project Manager was present so that he couldn't pull his bullshit 'No you never said that' shit. This man lies. And lies. And lies. And never takes responsibility. (Every time we confront him on something -- "You didn't tell me about..." "You keep forgetting to check the team chat..." etc -- it's "No I didn't." "No I don't." "I told you last week!" even if other teammates back us up.)

He's started trying to turn the team against each other because we have all been united against him.

Me and the other woman on the team get along great and because our shifts almost never overlap, we rarely see each other.

He began a rumor that she doesn't like me and constantly complains about me, which completely blindsided me because before our schedules were more divided, we had gotten along fantastic! We both love to bake, we knit, we're kinda nerdy, etc... so it was sort of painful to hear! I was a little anxious the next I saw her, but she was completely cool and we now (office got shuffled around a bit) have desks next to each other and we're getting along great (when we see each other)...

...and I realize he was just trying to get us ("cuz women") to snipe at each other.

I'm getting fucking sick of it. I'm about to go into full plotting gear to walk him into a trap with the client so the client wants to fire him because I know my company is hesitant af to fire anyone. Ever. But if a client says they want someone gone? That person is gone in a heartbeat.

Lazy staffing and storytelling is one issue.

Another is that Paradox is never enforced. And lack of Paradox allows Mages vastly more freedom than they should have. Paradox is part of what keeps Mages balanced. Without it, they can do far more than they're written to be able to do.

But what works, storytelling wise (see above, storytellers being lazy) for other spheres isn't going to work for mage. Just like you have to adapt a bit (though not always as much) between vampire, werewolf, changing breeds, etc for little quirks... you have to adjust for mage. Just more. You have to be aware of their capabilities and what they can do.

It means getting creative and branching out. On a multi-sphere game, this may mean putting your foot down when a mage wants to join and either telling them: no, you cannot join my plot, it hasn't been rated for mage... or telling them if you join, you have to be willing to hold yourself back because I didn't rate it for mage.

The joy of running plot for mage is you can think way, way outside the box. You can go wild. It's not just 'bad guys did bad things go fix it.' It's 'the space-time continuum broke and the elves are loose in atlantis let's go party.'

@skew

It reads like demanding if you want an argument or you want to feel attacked, I guess.

To me it reads like someone making a request just in a throwaway style. I mean, do we really nitpick over every little thing people say to that extent now? I know I have trouble reading tone and inflection sometimes, but I didn't know we'd gotten to that point.

Often when I read insult or anger in things people 'say,' I get told I'm reading too much into it and that it wasn't meant that way. That I put 'too much stock' into what was said. In this case, I am fairly certain that @Zaroot didn't sit there thinking 'I am going to demand they put Mage on their game just for me. I think it was instead a different way of saying 'Hey if you guys ever include...'

@skew said in Echoes in the Mists - Discussion:

@roz said in Echoes in the Mists - Discussion:

@auspice I mean, I think that hopping onto someone's ad thread and being like "but why don't you have the sphere I want!" is also kind of shitting on someone's thing. It boggles me every time it happens on every new WoD game thread.

What Roz said. I don't see "Eugh, but Mage sucks on a MU" as less valid than "Eugh, why didn't you put Mage in your MU".

Oh, I don't disagree with that.

But before threads got cleaned up someone asked if Hunter was still on the game and that discussion didn't devolve rapidly into 'why this is so terrible' etc etc it was just a simple 'No, we removed it.' over and done.

Some people just enjoy playing Mage.

From the day to day to the street level solutions to the great cosmic power......

And yes. Some of those people are shit lords about it. But there are people in every sphere who ruin it for the rest of the class.

Let people enjoy things ffs.

I think that's the worst part of this ongoing discussion. That whenever "I would like to play mage" comes up, someone comes in and goes "ugh mage is terrible and ruins everything"

Well aren't you a bundle of sunshine shitting on someone's day.

Yes. Mage can be an 'insta solve' to mundane problems. The issue is when STs for Mage try to write plot as if it's Hunters or Vampires or... You gotta wrote Mage problems for Mage solutions. That's all. I've seen it done. And man oh man I've got some plots rattling around in my head. Shit. I even have a metaplot in my head for a Mage game (only problem with it is that any Mortal or M+ PCs would be short-term......).

@sparks said in What's your favorite MU* client?:

@auspice said in What's your favorite MU* client?:

@thenomain said in What's your favorite MU* client?:

@auspice said in What's your favorite MU* client?:

POTATO Y U BREAK IN OSX?!?!

Because it wants you to use Atlantis like a proper client.

I want my double input windows gdi.

Atlantis 2 allows arbitrary numbers of input windows.

Y'know, if I ever finish it.

You know I would gladly provide proper testing services in an arranged and commented spreadsheet.

@tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Ugh, I have a mild peeve today.

In the culinary world, there are only one set of 'stars' that actually count for everyone. Michelin stars. And the maximum number awarded is three.

So if you say your restaurant has five stars, you're being intentionally disingenuous. It may even be true, that some magazine or tabloid awarded your restaurant that many stars in a review - but you know perfectly well what a star-rated restaurant means. Stop that.

But my mommy gave then to me!

I actually really enjoy Microsoft's OneNote, but it's not a website.

It's very similar to Evernote, but I just prefer OneNote's interface.

@arkandel said in Random links:

https://www.manrepeller.com/2019/01/there-are-two-kinds-of-people-sorry-people-and-thank-you-people.html

I feel like, however, you can switch those things around sometimes.

What if the person thanks everyone first?

"I'm so sorry but my friend is joining us last minute"
becomes
"Thank you for letting me bring my friend." and yet all before anyone had even heard of this addition to the party.

"Thanks for taking this seat, Haley." as the initiation to that interaction would be controlling, expecting. Demanding.

I think it's less that it was used in that scenario as referenced and more that the person over-used it.

This sounds more like a matter of: show people you appreciate what they've done rather than make the situation about you.

Not: say thank you instead of sorry. Because the simple syntax switch can make you sound like a maniac.

@thenomain said in Good TV:

@auspice said in Good TV:

The only real problem w/The Good Place is that either:
a) It will have to end at some point, which, boo: no more Good Place

I did not catch the recent twist. They need to end it, yes, because this is clearly a story about four...no, six...well a lot of people, but specifically one. I believe that their challenge is how to end it in a way that's satisfactory, that's not so saccharine and maybe not too clean. I don't think I have to worry about the second one; if anything The Good Place does over and over is how complex even simple things are.

But in the meantime: Let it continue this streak.

I love it.
I love it because it's a linear, self-contained story about the journey these people are on and how they've grown.

I'd hate if it's forced to continue past the point it should.