When I got married, that's how it was.
Number of friend complaints: 0
Number of family complaints: fucking. endless.
Friends make it great. Friends are who are there to help you through it and make it worthwhile. But I swear to god family decides to make it all about them. Esp. extended family. His aunt practically managed to single-handedly ruin the entire thing........and I never even met her UNTIL THAT DAY.
So yeah. I wish you all the luck in the world surviving them.
@krmbm said in Wheel of Time:
@Rucket said in Wheel of Time:
- Time-frame wise, would probably be best to center it towards the books, but take out feature characters. Give PCs a time to shine as this is 'their time around the wheel', so to speak.
This has always been my preference for WoT settings. AU, so the world remains familiar and easy to play, but the heroes from the books aren't around.
The only hard part of not setting it after the books is how you allow for male channelers.
This would likely be where an AU (as referenced above) comes in.
Ugh. You need a new doctor. 
Or check if your insurance does teledoc.
Thankfully, my doctor will do refills over the phone when I'm low and I can do teledoc for just $5 a visit and they will gladly do all my meds for me.
Reports are why I always played indie if I played Trek.
fuck reports.
play an indie company.
get rich.
@Livia said in Rucket's Playlist:
Oh hey Rourke and Holden. I was Lisa on Reno
He's pretty much the best.
I'm sad there wasn't more Holden RP.
The Zuckerburg of the Vampire world. 
@Ganymede said in Heroes & Villains MUX:
I swear, I will come back and finish off my PC one of these days.
I do suggest at least checking in if you haven't in a week (if you didn't go into CG) or two (if you did). There are activity checks.
PCs who never went into CG get recycled and freed up after a week. PCs who did start CG get freed up after two weeks of not logging in. It's to prevent people from sitting on popular bits when they can get actively played. (This doesn't apply if you finished CG. It's just for people who are languishing without ever getting approved.)
Now! If you know you'll get RL'd, Staff will give allowances if you let them know ahead of time. But yeah, if you showed up, grabbed a char, then disappeared (within the windows above)? They prob got freed up.
I wanted to stop in and say that H&V has been pretty active with regular RP and has had a couple +event scenes with some longer-term plots soon to come up. There's plenty of 'big name' characters still available, too!
Off the top of my head (from both Marvel & DC sides):
Rogue
Black Panther
Wonder Woman
Spiderman
Poison Ivy
The Flash
and that's just to name a few. In the case of the Flash, we're talking ANY iteration. re: Spiderman, a couple lady-Spiders have been nabbed, I do believe. Gwen def. has. But, c'mon, where's the speedster love?!
Also, @ZombieGenesis has been fine-tuning some great code and a big part of my posting this is to give the man kudos for it. 
@Arkandel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
My father passed away this morning.
I need to fly overseas so I won't be around here much for a few days. I should still check in once in a while. If you need anything please PM me.
You have my sympathies.
Take all the time away you need, yo. We'll bombard Gany if shit is needed and really, nothing is all that important in comparison.
A friend gave me one of his friend codes for Anthem. I tried to play this past weekend.
Emphasis on tried. It'd take repeated attempts to even login. And then I never actually loaded into anything. Ever. Try to load into a scenario: endless loading screen. Try to load into a freeplay area: endless loading screen.
So all I could do was run around that little town area and my opinion on that area is a big ol' "meh."
I really want a game in this setting. I'd prefer just to PLAY, but I could sit around forever and never see a game. So... I should be the change I want to see, right?
But it's such a big undertaking I want to see if there are people willing to work on it with me.
As for codebase, I can think of a few that would hit the mark, so I'd leave that decision to whoever would be willing to code with me. Yes, I do mean with. I am not a great coder, but I can do some code. I can get by without breaking the world in MUSH/MUX and I've been learning Python so I could even make faces at Evennia over time. I've also got an Ares playground up and running on a server that I dabble in from time to time (though I am not ready to make any MAJOR modules, by far).
I would want to set the game in Ketterdam. I think Six of Crows did a better job of introducing a setting. Kaz's story was much more "in a world" while Alina's was very "in her head." I also love Ketterdam and how it's very "gangs vs merchants." I think you could have a lot of fun there while still letting people play Grisha (and they wouldn't be as 'powerful' since they'd have to be attached to a gang, club, or even under a merchant's 'control' as it were). It'd also be more distant from the wars, giving people a bit more freedom to roam and do as they please.
...all the above might be confusing to anyone who hasn't read the books yet.
I also think this would be a great time to begin work on a game since Netflix has begun work on a series. Once that series airs, there will probably be a rapid increase in interest, so even if it takes a while to really get a game ready... there's the chance to have something amazing ready to go once the show is out there, y'know?
I'm just not up to doing this solo. I'd want help, again, with code. With fleshing out a grid (I can build/desc, but I'm not so good with spatially reasoning it out). With making sure I balance everything once a system is settled on.
Things like this. I want to try to assemble (even if it takes a while!) a small, but dedicated team. And again... I don't mind if it takes time. I want to play on this, too, and I know anyone who works on it with me would also! So this would be something that is zero rush and 'take your time.'
@Insomnia said in General Video Game Thread:
@Auspice First game, in terms of controls, is a shitty KH game to have only played. 2 is so much better. The remakes are... weird for controls, but have story. But they were spread out over different consoles so it makes sense you only played the first one. But those controls, man!
I mean, it was interesting, conceptually, but I guess it didn't really grab me like it did other people!
I do recall it feeling really clunky and kind of annoying to play. Maybe that was why it didn't grab me. I just remember getting to one boss fight and never being able to get past it.
@Alamias said in General Video Game Thread:
Confession...
I have never played a Kingdom Hearts game.
I've played.... most of the very first Kingdom Hearts game.
@Packrat said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
People who piss on toilet seats then do not have the courtesy to wipe them dry with toilet paper.
Why would you do this? Why would you walk out of a toilet cubicle at work leaving piss all over the seat? Somebody is going to have to deal with that and it will be altogether more disgusting for them.
I remember once being in a public restroom and hearing a woman tell her daughter: "Don't clean that up, just leave it. That's what they have people for."
@skew said in Mage 2e game - The Golden Road:
@Derp said in Mage 2e game - The Golden Road:
Paradox is meant to be a boogeyman, but it's also meant to be pretty rare...
Is it? It is very difficult to do much anything at low level gnosis/arcana rating without reaching. It becomes nigh impossible to do much of your high level magic without reaching. Unless you're continually casting spells 2+ levels below where you're at, you're risking paradox.
Really, the big things are that Paradox and Essence aren't tracked/enforced so you get people that just roll spells over... and over... until they 'get what they want' in ST'd scenes.
As someone who really likes Mage, those tend to be the two things that irk me the most. I mean, a vampire tracks their BP. But for some reason, I don't see that sort of thing enforced with Mages so you get the ones who just go 'woop, spell failed, okay lemme roll again.' and they just keep doing it until they get their intended result.
So yeah, if you're Reaching and risking Paradox (which a lot of people do so they get them extra dice!), it oughta be tracked. You're doing stuff that is at odds with the universe, forcing it to your will. This isn't the 'disbelief' factor (tho that's fun to play with, too!), but you're fighting the universe itself more or less.
Honestly I think it's part of why I dye my hair.
It's a lot more fun to have the little girl in the drug store go '<gasp> Mommy, look, a mermaid!'
Srsly, one of the best moments in my life. I absolutely loved when that happened. 
@admiral said in RL things I love:
@auspice You aren't uglyfatgross.
I just feel like I am sometimes. ![😕](http://musoapbox.net/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f615.png?v=4vfms5ns7sl ":\")
Years of doctors ignoring health issues and doing the '<handwave> just lose weight and you'll be fine' + the usual media of 'if you aren't thin you're ugly/undesirable/unwanted' + my own anxieties ... so I spend a lot of time just seeing only this... really gross, hideously fat person in the mirror and feeling convinced that if I could just lose a ton of weight everything would be okay.
So when I hit these sort of small milestones, it can help a lot.
About a decade ago, I got a pair of Gap jeans free. Size 16 bastards. They've never fit but they've been my goal because they're soft. And they were a reasonable goal.
I was a size 10/12 when I was 17-20. I can get back there, right? Come on, self!
Once or twice I got them but they just weren't "could wear through the course of a day" wearable. I can't have pressure on my abdomen or I get ill. So there's gotta be some give which means jeans are sometimes a size too large for me to wear them (in certain brands).
The past few weeks I've been in this spiral of feeling like all the weight I'd list in the months before was back on and then some. I'd look in the mirror and feel convinced my face was fat and hideous and no it didn't matter if my clothes fit the same. I must have stretched them. Look at how ugly and splotchy and fat my face was.
Today my 'usual' jeans kept falling off me in the morning. To where I couldn't deny it. I tried the Gap jeans. They fit to the point of being comfortable. For the first time ever.
I'm still struggling to look at my face and not think how uglyfatgross I am, but I also feel this major victory to finally fit my Goal Jeans because it means I didn't gain all the weight back and even lost more. Maybe it's just allergies making my face swell because I have been fighting those for the past couple months.
@paris said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
but looking back it'd always happen when my family life was at its worst and I'd be internalizing a lot of stress. I'd end up awake 24-48 hours straight just cleaning, organizing, rearranging furniture, itemizing everything... because since I had no control over THAT part of my life, I was taking control of THIS part of my life.
Every time we're starting to struggle financially, I have to do a grocery. I am not at ease unless there's enough food in the house for at least four meals. And not like just annoyed, either, terrified. I feel like if I can just feed us that night, the next day will be okay. If I don't, calamity!
Growing up we always had enough food, I will say. We were never badly off (even if my dad liked to act like we were because beyond food and a roof, he never wanted to provide for us kids; we had to wear holes through our clothes, we only got taken to the doctor for emergencies, etc....... he had a really, really healthy retirement fund cuz he wanted money for him and my mother). It was the fighting. They fought. He was abusive to her. Abusive to us.
But I understand THAT because of how my twenties were. I was poor. Then my marriage was a mess. So oh man do I understand that. I keep my kitchen hella well stocked now. Every paycheck my routine is: pay bills, get groceries. Even if I probably have enough to last until the next paycheck, I get more. And not just the routine milk+bread+eggs, I make sure to pick up stuff for a couple meals, too. I went way too long while married with bare pantry and an empty 'fridge. The security of a stocked kitchen keeps this part of me calm.
@tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@packrat said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
'I was made redundant once and I was so depressed for a few weeks!' or 'I was so depressed when my mother died!'
One must remember that 'simply' being depressed and having depression are very different. When bad or unfortunate things happen, people become depressed, without suffering from a depression disorder. So, they're right.
It's like how I mentioned being a 'major depressive' earlier in the discussion.
People get depressed. It is a Thing That Happens. But some of us have it as a function of mental disease where no matter what's happening in life, we are depressed. Everything can be going well! ...and we're depressed.
I've learned to identify when I'm depressed as a result of depressing things or when I'm depressed as a result of the illness. It's helped me know when I have to adjust my medications or when I need to just reach out to friends for a pick-me-up (close friends are probably familiar with my 'hey talk to me and tell me stories' days).
And yeah, @Paris has familiar stories there. The OCD worsens when I'm stressed. I don't have those horrifying 'must clean/organize in the middle of the night' times often, but they happen when I'm really stressed out and I didn't identify that for a very long time. When I was younger (a teenager), I thought it was just... oh! I need a change of pace! It's time to clean! when I'd end up reorganizing my entire room and cleaning it from top to bottom in the middle of the night, but looking back it'd always happen when my family life was at its worst and I'd be internalizing a lot of stress. I'd end up awake 24-48 hours straight just cleaning, organizing, rearranging furniture, itemizing everything... because since I had no control over THAT part of my life, I was taking control of THIS part of my life.
I've not been able to fully break a lot of those habits, but I've gotten out of some of them. I don't always need the volume on multiples of 5 anymore (2s, 8s, and things like '23' since 2+3 adds up to 5 are okay now). That's been a big one since I know it actually bothers a lot of people for me to adjust the volume. Or... if it didn't bother them, they liked to tease me with it a lot. So flexibility has been ... really, really important to learn.
I really like that parent component because that has potential to just lead into a repeating system of positivity. The parent gets to hear that from you (the teacher) about their kid and then that probably leads into an awesome weekend overall because they'll then turn around to their kid to praise them... which is probably going to lead into the following week being good, too with the kid coming off that high.