Posts made by Auspice

I will note (and I appreciate people weighing in!) that in this scenario, there was nothing OOC. No OOC commentary or anything, because I absolutely would step in or speak up in that regard (I find OOC 'PDA' type stuff to be very awkward-making). It was all RP'd, but it just set off a few alarm bells in my head and something felt off about it all.

But I didn't know the others involved well enough to, as mentioned, say anything. Nor was it directed at me, so I didn't feel in a position to report anything. It was just a weird spot all around.

Next time (if there is one) I may just say something along the lines of 'Hey, if you'd like me to come over there and RP at you...' but we'll see.

We've discussed a number of variations on this in a lot of threads.

This is specifically (though feel free to discuss other concepts) when you suspect someone is a creep, but it's not directed at you.

A specific example:
You're in a big group scene and someone's poses are making you uncomfortable. A guy is hitting on, flirting with, leering at some girl. Your thought process is 'if that were me, I would be bugging the fuck out right now.' Except she seems OK with it.

What do you do? If anything?

Because my thought process is torn:
On the one hand, she seems OK with it.
On the other hand, almost every woman has been in a scenario where she plays along until she can safely/comfortably get away. In MU terms, this is usually where she can exit the scene without causing a scene. At which point, she decides to either report him or simply never RP with him again.
On the other other hand, he's making me uncomfortable and doesn't that count for something?

Now, if I know this woman well enough, I can just page her and go 'Hey babe, is everything OK with Dude there?' But if I don't know her well enough, I can see how that could be taken the wrong way. Maybe she'll be insulted that I think her new squeeze is a creep. Maybe she'll think I'm trying to scare her off so I can get in on that. There's no graceful way to ask when you don't know the person.

So again: what would you do? If anything? when you're in a scene where a guy is posing things at a woman (or multiple women) that make you feel a little (or a lot) grody. Especially when you suspect a report to Staff of 'Hey this guy's poses at other people made me feel weird' would just get a return of 'So? It wasn't directed at you so who cares. Just don't RP with them.' (Which is, I guess, a valid reply, but I also, again, still worry that the other women involved might be staying silent themselves out of a fear of not rocking the boat.)

So I ask you MSB: have you ever been in this spot? What did you do, if anything? What would you do? Is there any real solution?

@Wretched said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Auspice Aka, A list of reasons Wretched doesn't bake, but loves to cook. If only I had someone to clean up after me.

And yet why it took me a long time to become a decent cook, but I love to bake!

@Ganymede said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

while also teaching myself how to bake.

There is a saying:
baking is a science, cooking is an art.
This is 100% true.

Precise measurements are required in baking. When you are learning, use recipes. Love recipes. Worship at the altar of recipes. Do not begin altering them or guessing at them or shrugging and going 'whatever' until you are comfortable. A couple years ago, the first recipe I ever went off the rails and made up was the orange madeira cake with orange rum glaze. And even then, I referenced a madeira cake recipe to ensure I got volumes and baking temperatures and times accurate.

Cooking you just sort of throw things together, make sure it tastes right, and that your meat is cooked through.

In baking, mise en place is even more vital because you don't wanna be halfway through and find out you're missing something. Because your recipe can and will often be ruined... as a beginner.

I recommend finding a few YT channels or websites or even books (for bread, I recommend Richard Bertinet: he's my god) that you love and working your way through them.

now I want latkes goddamn you @TNP

@Macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

Now if someone has some advice on helping a bruised rib, I'm all ears.

lie on the opposite side, try not to cry.
... ok it's not helpful but that's all I've got

@mietze said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@Arkandel I think what people are trying to get at is that, just in case you've never been fat or struggled with significant or stubborn weight loss or haven't experienced losing weight and then regaining or other things like that, those comments really aren't anything that they've not heard before, usually spoken in a very condescending or dismissive way.

As I have had to say to doctors and other people in my life during times where I am heavy (I've been all over the place as an adult), "I'm FAT not STUPID thanks."

And as others have said, and doctors who specialize in the treatment of obesity can tell you, it's actually NOT that simple. So unless you want to hurt the person, I really honestly would advise not telling anyone that. It's okay. Someone else has already told them, trust me.

This. So much of it.

I've been told 'just count calories!' so many times.

You know what I've found?

I usually don't meet the 'amount to lose weight' calories in a day. I just looked up a calorie calculator. OK. Amount to eat per day to lose weight: 1924.
Amount of calories I've eaten today: 1534.

And weekends are pretty high intake for me since I'm sitting around the house with the free time to cook. Most days would prob be closer to just 1000.

But I've gained weight over the past year. I haven't lost it.

Calorie counting, in my world, is a fucking laughable concept.

One of my issues comes from a birth defect. I go through periods of time in which most foods make me very sick (and can last anywhere from days to weeks). When those happen, all I can do is eat whatever I can manage. If that's just (grilled) chicken sandwiches and mashed potatoes? Welp. A gal's gotta eat.

@Sunny said in Holiday Recipe Exchange:

Mash all leftover potatoes together, sweet and yam and regular. Put all the marshmallows and syrup and everything right on in. Then add egg and milk and flour by sight until you have a batter that looks like pancake batter. Cook like pancakes. WIN.

(Wafflemaker.)

@Aria
Anthony Green - Dear Child (I've Been Dying to Reach You)

So I was wrong. Ha ha. I'm not doing the star bread. I'm gonna make buchteln. I've been wanting to make buchteln for a while now, but the jam is expensive and then I remembered: oh yeah I bought a number of fancy jams at the charity sale at work the other week they're even sitting on my counter still hurr durr.

@Derp Being able to gain muscle mass really easily, but struggling to lose fat (thanks thyroid condition and PCOS!) is a large part of my issue, too. The instant I start working out: boom, muscle mass. But then the other conditions make the fat take forever (if at all) to fall off.

@Snackness said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

My grandad told me I was overweight and letting myself go at Thanksgiving.

I fucking hate when family does this.
My mom does it to me regularly. This is the woman who got weightloss surgery assuming she'd just automatically lose all the weight without any effort after.....and in fact stayed the same weight because she didn't exercise, didn't improve her eating habits (she just ate less at meals, but continued eating the same garbage).

But oh, she loves to tell me how much I weigh, how I need to lose weight, etc etc.

It's bullshit. If anyone should be supportive: it's family. I'm sorry your grandfather did this to you.

For anyone who hasn't done the XBox Game Pass thing yet:

right now it's $1 for your first three months.

@JinShei said in RL things I love:

My step-dad died earlier in the year, and it has been a pretty shitty one when it comes to family stuff. But yesterday my mother gave me his desk. My daughter and I smothered it in oil today and cleaned it, and made the drawers move...

I am sorry for your loss, but I will say that is an utterly gorgeous desk. I have a deep love for secretary desks.

this is all horrifying and I never want contacts

@Rinel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Idk where else to put this

I JUST CAME OUT ON FACEBOOK. TO EVERYONE. EVERYONE KNOWS NOW. OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE

Stupid peeve:
I'm on a tight budget rn because of moving in a month, but my hair is at that length where it is driving me insane.
Unfortunately, the place I found that can cut my hair right is $80.

@Cobaltasaurus said in Help A Kitty :

@Caryatid said in Help A Kitty :

Sent a little extra because vet visits can run over total pretty easily. I hope she feels better soon!

Thank you!

And to everyone else: thank you!

Any extra will go toward any medication she may need. I'm hoping that she just has a urinary infection or something really easy to clear up.

I don't hope she's sick but she's been acting weird, so I just hope it's something small.

I couldn't send anything rn because I just paid rent and it wiped me out, but... if you need anything extra (cause kitty meds can be expensive) come Wednesday, let me know.

@JinShei
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