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I started MU*ing in 1996. I remember it well!

@PuppyBreath said in RL Anger:

I had a crush on @Coin once. It was awful.

Don't ever have a crush on @Coin. It will destroy you!

Dear Bitch Co-Worker,

Next time you require special handling and re-addressing of an item for mail out, don't bury your request in a bunch of text where it won't stand out for me and the receptionist to notice. Flag your notes to my attention the way all of the other people who have your role do to insure things are processed properly. I don't have time to read novels.

Next time this happens and we confirm it didn't go where you wanted it to go in the manner your want it to go in, standing at my desk and whining about not knowing what to do is not your best course of action. But if you insist, and I actually know what to do, don't stand there and whine at me about how it's not going to work. I've been here for three years longer than you, and I know how mail out works and how to handle emergency re-ships.

And next time, don't you fucking dare go around me to have other people do MY job. I do my job, and I do it very well.

FUCK. YOU.

(I have a lot of rage right now, guys.)

@Auspice I am always a fan of watching Schmidt's Judaism run up against/meld with Cece's Hinduism.

I am very frustrated with the fact that situations and circumstances that for most people are inconvenient or just somewhat frustrating, for me are anxiety inducing events that reduce me to a ball of frayed nerves.

@Ghost Sarahah is pretty much an invitation to let people shit all over you. You offer the opportunity for people to say anything they want to you anonymous and therefore without consequence? People are by and large assholes; what did you think was going to happen?

@Gingerlily I'm actually on Zoloft, but I'm wondering if I either need to consider a dosage increase, or ask for a medication specifically for when I get an anxiety spike.

Speaking of Dick pics...

It appears that Dick Grayson has been cast for the upcoming Titans tv show, to be played by Brenton Thwaites.

I live in a house with other women and a 16 year old boy, and whenever somebody needs to do something like move furniture or open a jar, the call out is: "Let's get down to business to defeat the Huns!"

This is relevant, though it may take some figuring out.

Hey co-worker,

I like you. I actually do. And I get that at times when you have a carpool parking pass and your carpool buddies take alternate routes of transportation, you get to enjoy a little tee-hee of delight because you get to still park in the super sweet carpool parking spots.

But I see you, day after day, parking not just in the carpool section, but in THE BEST SPOT. And you never, ever have someone with you in the car.

I can even get behind being sneaky about the carpool section and not actually having a carpool (I suspect you're listed as carpooling with your supervisor mom) but taking the best spot when you don't even actually carpool? Is just a jerk-ass move. And it's worse because you are otherwise a nice guy. (Who has worked here half as long but still got promoted over me, but that's another bit of bitchery.)

@Meg, do you have access to healthcare? If so, I would strongly encourage you to make an appointment with a therapist or psychiatrist. Most places will send you to a therapist first, and then to a psychiatrist if it's determined that you need medication.

Edited to add: I am not an expert, but everything you've listed definitely hits the bullet points for signs of depression. If you don't have health insurance, I'd be happy to help you try and find something low cost or free in your area. This kind of pain isn't something you should have to live with.

@Ghost said in RL Anger:

@Cupcake said in RL Anger:

So someone - a woman - on my Facebook posted this video of a woman being held down in a chair by a handful of men while they rubbed her lips with lime and then force-fed her a shot of tequila. According to my friend this "how the family plays" and that it was because she'd agreed to do the shot but then backed out.

She could not understand why I had such a horrified and angry reaction to the video.

...was it expensive tequila?

I'm glad you can find the humor in women being physically assaulted! There's not enough of that kind of humor these days.

Edited to add: This wasn't some cutesie college game thing. These man were holding her down and prying her mouth open with their fingers. She was not enjoying herself by any stretch of the imagination.

@Ghost Two posts is not a discussion, and your reply came hastily after two other people swung in and told you that what you said was upsetting and offensive.

She's not fabricating a spat. I have seen you frame things in such a way as to imply that others (read: Me) are being completely unreasonable and YOU are the rational one before you walk away. And at that point, anything that could be said has been effectively neutralized, because it's now framed in the idea that further pursuit of the topic makes the person you're talking about full of the cray. It's been this way for months, and the frequency with which you respond to my post with a negative angle and/or upvote posts that focus on attacking me haven't escaped notice either.

With regard to apologies, there's a whole thread dedicated to the structure of a sincere apology. @reimesu is correct, one of the criteria for apologies includes not using the word if.

Believe it or not, I am genuinely not interested in fighting with you. But I've also bitten my tongue on this repeated pattern of behavior and I'm at the point where it's either address it or let it fester. So please. If I bother you so much, if you think I'm right up there with VASpider or whatever it is you think...just leave me alone, I'll leave you alone, and everything will be swell.

@mietze Don't be afraid to take advantage of your friends as a resource to help you deal with this.

@Auspice: here's the thing. You shouldn't be hopeful. Hear me out.

I spent almost four years unemployed, despite constant searching and a genuine desire to return to the workforce. And at first, whenever an interview seemed to go well, I allowed myself to become hopeful. But then I would get the inevitable letter or call informing me they made a different decision, and I would get crushed and there would be crying, and it would basically be an emotional shit show.

I don't know how good you are at managing your expectations; some people do it better than others and it's a skill I had to learn over time, and still don't entirely manage perfectly. But my advice to you is, after you've done an interview, you can certainly acknowledge that it seemed to go well...but then you have to find a way to let it go, and go to the next thing. Easier spoken then done, but if you try, you may find you will weather the process of finding employment in a much healthier way. I've literally had someone yell at me for this particular advice, only to come back to me a few months later and acknowledge that I was right.

@auspice

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Everything about Valerian was beautiful...except the chemistry between the two main characters.

The Neil DeGrasse-Tyson accusation is heart-breaking on all counts.

I console myself through the endless rotation of Christmas songs by reminding myself that if it was written in the 20th century, it was probably written by a Jew.

Bunheads is now on Hulu. It's from the lady who created Gilmore Girls and The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. I am a very pleased Cupcake.