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    Posts made by GangOfDolls

    • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

      I dunno I guess generally speaking, an admin level position on a game would imply a level of trust being placed in their ability to keep something going and functional. When they stop doing so, they're asked to leave. Breaking written rules is important but so is being able to conduct yourself with a certain amount of integrity.

      It seems like a lot of viciously spread rumors isn't really checking boxes where integrity is concerned? That seems to be what's alleged here?

      This board half exists in order to internally communicate about badly behaving members of staff and games that create conditions for badly behaving members of staff to bless or excuse their behavior. I guess I'm seeing the contradiction of a staff member not being excused from their position here for the behaviors we sort of commonly find problematic or offensive on games...

      I feel like there's a blind spot here.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: When Staff No Longer Cares

      At the risk of possibly starting a shit hurricane, it would help to know this game for context.

      Having experience with staffing where headstaff are checked out or pouting or some combination of the two, it's a bullet train to burnout. You can't make significant decisions without the input of headstaff which means you can't respond to any major crisis or semi-crisis, plot actions, PVP actions, any action really that isn't an XP spend or a rules check. It's sort of like working for the DMV but on an unpaid basis where players take their extreme displeasure at absent headstaff out on you, while you stamp widgets on their sheets.

      Don't do it.
      Save yourself.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Buying Shit

      I use these: https://www.amazon.com/Audio-Technica-ATH-M50x-Professional-Monitor-Headphones/dp/B00HVLUR86

      Spendy but worth it. I inherited my first pair from a DJ friend who replaced theirs and gifted me their slightly older model. I replaced them recently and didn't even consider another brand. I dragged my gifted pair to Singapore and back 6 times and they went around the world with me and they held up well. They were finally looking long in the tooth and it was time to replace them.

      I've never had a better audio experience and I got a pair of fancy, shmancy Bose noise cancelling headphones as a thank gift at work for a product release and I don't think Bose even compares (and Bose's pricetag is stupid anyway).

      Game Chairs: I'm not sure the price tag really often justifies buying it a lot of the time. Really, you just want a chair that won't be hard on your back and enable you to sit for long hours while supporting your spine and keeping your blood circulating. Some game chairs are cool looking but they're not any nicer for your back or your ability to sit for a long, long time than a cheap ass office chair from Target.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Social Stats in the World of Darkness

      Maybe social stat rolls and roll offs require a staff judge present to work? That way the staffer can present the 'yes/no/maybe' of what the roll does, doesn't do, and what the options are in between.

      It's a resource demand on a staffer yes but it will also make players think harder about if they really need social dice for this thing they're trying to do or not. Like, if you're trying to make someone sleep with you in character based on social dice, you're less likely to abuse that option if it requires a staffer present to watch you be a weirdo perv.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Dead Celebrities 2018

      @shincashay This one makes me so sadmad. Addiction is fucking terrible.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Potential Buffy Game

      How much of the game would wander into what happened at the end of Angel? A lot of really interesting stuff happened in the last season that Angel was on the air that ties into the Buffyverse with cliffhangers that didn't resolve until they started up the comics.

      Have you thought about how you'd handle this part?

      posted in Game Development
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      Yeah, just to be clear active is defined as people logged in and the idle times listed aren't hours or days. If people are using idle timers vs. actually doing something, I wasn't going to go that deep with it.

      For one because that's kind of invasive and a little creepy, I feel-- I don't want to micromanage what counts for activity beyond that level. And for another, 98% of the games on this list I do not play so I cannot substantiate what passes for actual activity on the culture of the game in question. ETA: If players of a particular game let me know that 'this place is a ghost ship with nothing going on' then I'll take it down unless there's some reason to believe that publicity of its existence my re-invigorate life back into it. Most of the time, though; when things are that far gone-- the game is over, even if the lights are technically on still.

      I have been a little neglectful of updates lately. I'll have another edit done by the end of the weekend.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Mushing and Dating/Relationships

      I've met a few people through MU* over the years. Some of the people I'm still friends with (and in some cases very close to) to this day are people I met on Cybersphere in the late 1990s.

      I've had a few hookups with MU* people but I was pretty specific about not having things advance beyond that. I was also pretty young (late teens/early 20s) and didn't want a relationship with nobody no how no way.

      I've had one serious relationship with another member of the MU* community. The relationship's end was for horrifying and fucked up reasons, but unrelated to gaming. We didn't have to figure out how to co-exist in MU* space because in addition to that ending, there was a rapid succession of 4 people dying in one year (3 in less than 6 months) and a serious family illness-- I was barely functional outside of work and couldn't hang with anything outside of staring at shitty TV. I don't remember most of that year. So I stopped doing everything.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      @thenomain

      I probably also read this when tired so the subtlety sort of whiffed by me like a slow walk at a 4 year old's teeball game.

      I actually kind of like the idea of a block chain of these lists just because there lots of games out there that aren't visible to us, but they're visible to someone.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      @thenomain

      Probably so, yes.

      I'm not unopposed. I'm just looking to avoid from this going from a 'oh look they updated things!' community resource to a 'omg you're the worst and you never update this fast enough and I have a lot of expectations about what you owe me for the low, low price of free!' in terms of formalization.

      Though admittedly, the minute I made this list formalization done did the thing.

      So if people can basically be cool, then I'm fine with putting this on a wiki.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      @lyanna

      Oh, it's there. It's the second one down under IPs.

      @Ostheim

      Added to the list

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: Why did you pick your username?

      A bad transliteration of вори матришока which is vory (plural of thief/criminals) and matryoshka dolls.

      And I wanted to use Bitch Pudding as my icon.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: oWoD - Is there such thing as a good one?

      No?

      But I think that's an inherent flaw of the system. I think nWoD gets better at dichotomous conflict but oWoD is pretty lousy with it. Conflict is basically level set at 'nothing or nuclear' and so couple that with a lot of reductive world building, things are pretty easily shitty from the jump. For that reason, it will always attract a certain element that is socialized poorly and/or is hyper aggressive about story conflict.

      But. I do also think that time has been good for oWoD in that with more distance and the benefit of some of the material being really dated, it makes it easier to see pretty easily what has aged poorly and what is just kind fucked up, shitty, and otherwise crazily racist. It helps when a lot of gamers who cut their teeth on oWoD material have also aged and have leveled-up on their abilities to think critically and understand nuance in general.

      I think that creating a community around better stories and better standards is something that's maybe better positioned now. I do wish something like that did exist, currently.

      posted in MU Questions & Requests
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      Updated with all corrections and additional games noted from posts above this one in the thread

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      I did not do the breakdown because honestly, I don't have a lot of time to tease out what each game's level of mechanic mix and match is? Some games are pretty explicit others are not about what they do and don't except and how much they pull from GMC, 1e and 2e and so on.

      It took me a bit to just get this going because I wanted to and said I would.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games

      WoD Games (nWod unless otherwise noted)
      San Francisco: Paris of the West -- sfmux.com:1337 // http://www.sfmux.com/index.php/Main_Page
      Reno -- reno.kydance.net:2018 // http: http://reno.kydance.net/index.php/Main_Page
      Fallcoast -- fallcoast.net 2009 // http://fallcoast.net/wiki/Main_Page
      Fate's Harvest -- fatesharvest.com:6464 // http://fatesharvest.com/w/Main_Page
      Garou MUSH -- 205.138.63.222 // garoumush.org (oWoD)
      Temptest -- game.tempestmux.com 5555 // website unknown (oWoD)
      Sheltering Sky: Colorado by Night -- mush.shelteringcolorado.com 2601 (oWoD)
      City of Hope MUSH -- cityofhopemush.net port 8888 // http://coh.spork.com/index.php?title=Main_Page
      From the Ashes: Detroit by Night -- fta.darcness.net 2860 (v20/w20/m20)
      Let Freedom Ring -- - portent.genesismuds.com 8020 // http://letfreedomring.wikidot.com/ (20th Anniv Ed)
      Dark Communion -- Dark Communion (Dark Ages)
      Descent -- thedescentmux.com:2860 // thedescentmux.com

      Anime
      MahouMUSH -- MahouMUSH.com 7342 // http://www.mahoumush.com

      Horror/Urban Fantasy/Urban Horror/Sci-Fi (Non IP)
      Multiverse Crisis -- multiversemush.com 5001 // http://multiversemush.com/mw/index.php?title=Main_Page (mixed genres)
      Dream Chasers MUSH -- dreamchasers.space 4767 (mixed genres)
      Mythara: At the Crossroads -- mythara.com 9900
      Cybersphere -- cs.netsville.com 7777
      Sindome -- moo.sindome.org 5555
      HellMOO -- hellmoo.org 7777 // http://hellmoo.org/
      Star Conquest -- squidsoft.net 7777
      Lost Dominion: lostdominion.org:600 // https://lostdominion.org (Rifts Based Setting)
      Neon Moo -- neon-moo.space, port 7777 // https://neon-moo.space/?date=2018-06-22

      IPs (Television, Movies, Comics, Etc.)
      Blood of Dragons -- bod.westeros.org: 3000 // http://www.westeros.org/BoD/ (based on Game of Thrones/Song of Ice and Fire series)
      Marsilikos - Under the Wings of Angels -- marsilikos.silvertree.org, port 1310 // http://marsilikos.wikidot.com (Kushiel's Legacy book series)
      Welcome to Lovecraft -- LovecraftMa.com: 1880 // http://lovecraftma.com/index.php/Main_Page (inspired by the Locke and Key comic series)
      Road to Amber -- roadtoamber.com 6250 // http://roadtoamber.com/ (Amber book series)
      Babylon 5: The Last Best Hope -- babylon.monolithwebsystems.com 2259 // website unknown (Babylon 5 series)
      Shadowrun: Denver -- aelfhame.net 1999 // http://denver.wikidot.com/ (Shadowrun)
      United Heroes Mush -- unitedheroesmush.com 1999 // https://www.unitedheroesmush.com/index.php?title=Main_Page (Marvel Universe)
      Star Trek: Among The Stars -- ats.trekmush.org 1701 // http://www.trekmush.org/index.php/Main_Page (Star Trek)
      Equestrian Dawn -- mush.equestriandawn.com 8789 (MLP)
      Star Wars: Rebirth Mush -- game.starwarsrebirth.com 9999 (Star Wars)
      Tenebrae - the Emblem of Ea -- tenebraemush.net 4001 ((Pathfinder/D&D))
      Pernworld -- paper.mudmagic.com 2211 (Pern series)
      CoMuX: NuGenesis -- nugenesismux.com 6006 (Marvel Universe)
      Inheritance Gambit: inheritancegambit.com:2099 // https://inheritancegambit.com (Marvel Universe)
      Super Robot Wars -- srwmush.com 2015 // https://www.srwmush.com/index.php?title=Main_Page (Video Game)
      Tenebrous Isles - tenebrousisles.com port 9001 // Website: http://www.tenebrousisles.com/wiki/Main_Page (Dresden Files)
      Mutant Genesis MUX: mutantgenesismux.com:2017 // mutantgenesismux.com (Marvel Universe, mutant-focused)
      Gods and Monsters MUX: mutantgenesismux.com:2017 // godsandmonstersmux.com (DC Universe, Justice League focused)

      Fantasy/Medieval Settings (Non IP)
      Arx -- play.arxmush.org port 3000 // Website: play.arxmush.org
      Valorous Dominion -- 71.171.93.80:1510 // http://valorous.wikidot.com
      The Enternal Crusade - mushhaven.com port 1220 Website: eternalcrusade.wikidot.com

      Other
      Match of the Millenium -- motm.kicks-ass.net port 2002 // http://motm.kicks-ass.net/ (Arena/Fight Tournament Theme)
      License to Kill -- portent.genesismuds.com:2077 (Espionage/Spy Themes)

      Adult Themes
      NaughtyMuffin MUSH -- muffinmush.club 2469
      Penultimate Destination -- penultimatemush.com 9500
      Shoujo-Ai MUSH -- yuriba.com 4201
      Shangrila MUSH -- shangrilamux.com 9999
      Terminus Faire -- terminus.mushpark.com 9999

      Some Guidelines:

      • Completeness: This is by no means an exhaustive list, if I've overlooked a game it wasn't intentional and please reach out so I can update.

      • Game Quality/Content: I cannot vouch for any of these games in terms of content, staff quality, activity levels, plot quality, player behavior, etc. Good luck and put on your helmet.

      • Websites: Some were not available in all cases or I couldn't find them, if I missed yours my apologies and let me know so I can correct.

      • Notes: I may have gotten some genre notes wrong or connection addresses wrong - please reach out in PM or correct on this thread

      • Sources: I pulled from Mud Connector, the MSB threads, and Mud Stats - 2 of the 3 of these sources are not always reliable in terms of refresh data but I did attempt to connect to most of these places to verify that they are up and there are people logged in and active -- i.e. no 3 people connected and idle for 6 days, etc.

      • Cadence: I plan to periodically update this list with new games/removing closed games as time allows.

      posted in Mildly Constructive
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: RL Anger

      @ganymede

      Thank you. There are moments when I think I do, too? I mean, not in any real actual way and its just me at the end of my rope and three seconds from wanting to actually slap her a little.

      I don't. I've raised my voice a couple times, but largely to be heard while she's just spiraling out.

      I love my nephews and nieces and I believe really firmly that they need examples of responsible adulting. They're not really getting it because my sister is the way she is and my brother-in-law is working all the time and gone. I don't have a lot of hope that their marriage is going to make it. It's better in a lot of ways but worse for the kids.

      The whole thing just makes me... my blood pressure gets going just thinking about it sometimes. If I were able, I sometimes fantasize about having her kids live with me but reasonable enough to know better from a moment of cathartic fantasy.

      So, thanks. I appreciate the validation.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: RL Anger

      My step-sister has a long history of uh, bad choices. Some of these things are related to being relatively young, entitled, and being born to a teenaged mother, who went full Gilmore Girls and raised her child like a friend. I know people love that show but the real life products of the Gilmore Girls parenting method are often a codependent, boundary optional dumpster fire rolling down a hill.

      My step-sister is married and made some choices about when to have kid that were not, uh, ideal. Specifically, they couldn't really afford to have them but decided to go forth and multiply immediately after getting married. This has happened a couple times now.

      For the most part, I've just said nothing because its her life, you literally can't put multiple toddlers back in the bottle, and I do enjoy my nephews and nieces. However, she's decided that she wants to be a stay at home mom instead of going back to work. And really, this has been her dream for a long time. And I get that, I have no issue with people who really want to dedicate their lives to raising up some little people.

      I get frustrated though that she feels that this is a good idea when they're on public assistance, struggling, and aren't in any real position to do this. I think my brother-in-law is too stressed out working 2 jobs (3 in the winter) to try and keep things from totally derailing financially to fight with his wife about it. So that leaves the rest of us to get into argument after argument with her about how this is really a bad plan and if something significant happens to them financially, they're literally dollars away from homelessness constantly.

      My parents are dealing with a health crisis. I live 1,700 miles away. My brother is in and out of the hospital with his own medical issues. None of us are in a position to help them if something really bad happens.

      I'd be totally for them figuring out how to have this kind of lifestyle when they're financially set-up for it but they're just not and my sister reacts to the suggestion that she even get a part time job (their church will provide free child care) that we're betraying her on some fundamental level.

      This is exhausting.

      posted in Tastes Less Game'y
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: San Francisco: Paris of the West

      @arkandel I definitely think that's some of it. I'm kind of an outsider in that my ties to the community aren't very extensive and I'm not great at spotting people from game to game unless they're transferring or re-amalgamating the same PC from that game or just openly saying who they are.

      I also think there's just a certain amount of fatigue that sets in. There's a certain amount of new game energy that hits and people are psyched and ready to go. But we're primates who get easily entrenched into routine and familiarity and over time, the collective 'maximum effort' wanes as well. But like you, I have a lot of ideas about why but can't really explain this either.

      posted in Adver-tis-ments
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
    • RE: San Francisco: Paris of the West

      @auspice said in San Francisco: Paris of the West:

      @gangofdolls said in San Francisco: Paris of the West:

      but I'm not sure that feeling like Mage PC #431-9 in a sea of other PCs all clamoring to get involved in the same IG opportunities is fun, either.

      The question is:

      What will they provide for the people that get walled off for X weeks? Everyone's gonna get established, settled, grab spots, roll up on any plots running....

      Are they factoring in the need to help new people get/feel involved once those spheres reopen? The perk to rolling 'enrollment' as it were is there's a sort of steady stream of new people. But if you're the only ones for the foreseeable future, I can see people (esp. the bad Mage players and the ultra-cliquey Changeling players) making sure they grab up any and everything they can and hoarding.

      Tbh, my general experience is the first 'wave' of players in a newly open game generally gets this kind of unfettered access to building ties, getting established, etc. so cap or no cap, there's just a certain amount of this sort of thing that I think is unavoidable. I don't confuse that with necessarily being good but I think of it as a cost of doing business in terms of coming into a game later.

      My attempt on Fallen World, for example, had stripes off this problem. Granted, I wasn't aware of any resource hoarding or the usual kind of channel clique fuckery that you may see on other games. Instead, what I did experienced was that most PCs were hugely siloed into their situation. Many of them didn't leave their builds, except for plot participation. There was very little public RP and while some players were open to new PCs, many people seemed to be satisfied with their IC networks as they existed.

      I generally pride myself on being a proactive player in most game environments but I had a very hard time getting into things there in part because the blush was off the rose and the honeymoon period had passed and the game phase was definitely set to 'coast'. I think if I had been not quite so burned out on MU* at that point, I may have hung on longer but I just couldn't do it. I just happened to get lucky on the timing where SF is concerned, in terms of being around at opening.

      I think, though, that small caps do make for better spotting where your concerns are related when staff is solid. I so far believe the SF staff fits this bill. They seem more inclined to squash a problem like you're describing because they have a better sense of what is happening in their own game sphere. There's just no way that 100+ mage PCs even has that kind of visibility because its just not humanly possible.

      And its still possible that bad actors and broken stairs will be in these spheres, the statistics generally reflect that you'll get a percentage of that no matter what. But at least staff has a better chance at preserving resources, ensuring continuity, and controlling for quality so that its easier to bring the next wave in. If people are unfriendly or closed off if you're in that second wave, that's their loss and I mean that as a compliment to you.

      posted in Adver-tis-ments
      GangOfDolls
      GangOfDolls
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