Best posts made by Ganymede

@Ghost said in The Case Against Real PBs:

don't mince fuckin words with long paragraphs trying to act like making an insult about your opinion of my ego and stating that I seem unable to accept an addiction as some worldly statement about everyone but it just happens to include me. You're playing around with attacks on a specific person's emotional center as well as playing armchair addiction advice to a specific stranger. You really think that's appropriate and/or responsible?

If this is your takeaway, then I'll take ownership for being unclear and misleading. Let me break down what I said a little better (hopefully).

@Ganymede said in The Case Against Real PBs:

You may feel that tall and above things, but I think that's due to your pedestal of self-righteousness.

I think you're acting self-righteous. I'm not the only one. I don't think you're taking umbrage to this part, though. I could be wrong.

We've both participated actively in the hobby. And if we liken it to a vice like an addiction, the first step to actual recovery is to admit that you will always be an addict.

I said that if we are going to liken participation in this hobby to a vice, like an addiction, then admitting that one will always be an addict is an important step to recovery. I say this from personal experience as an addict: breaking addictions is damn hard to do, but the first step is reminding yourself that you will always be an addict as a reminder that you can always lose control.

I didn't say you are an addict; I have no idea if you are or ever have been. But if you are, then I apologize. It's a day-to-day struggle; I get it. Addictions suck like cancer.

If you disagree with the premise of likening participation in this hobby to a vice, then this entire comment falls apart like wet drywall.

I think you're just as much of a creepy weirdo as the rest of us, no matter how long you've spent outside of the hobby. The difference between us is that I accept this, but you apparently do not.

I still think we're all creepy weirdos, but that's a personal opinion that I'm comfortable with.

@Ghost said in The Case Against Real PBs:

Now, gross analysis of other people's mental diagnoses may be the tits on that other forum (aka the same place that talked shit about you for months for not following their mutual bargaining directives when ownership changed), but here... it's against the rules. Probably because it could be truly damaging to complete strangers; perhaps even to the point of being dangerous.

The reasons for this forum taking the stance are well-documented. As for "mutual bargaining directives," I have no idea what they may have been going on about. The only "mutual bargaining" I can recall is someone -- I can't recall if it was Tributary? -- wanting to make sure that the Hog Pit was accessible here, or that links from the Hog Pit here was linkable over there -- something like that. And it's not really "mutual bargaining" if I'm not asking for anything; to my recollection, I've asked nothing from BMD's administrators, except for having them tell me if there's some sort of creeper going around to keep an eye open for. Anyhow, if shit's not working, no one's informed me about it.

If the folks over on BMD have an issue with anything over here, they can pretty DM me here. I know a handful of them have my personal email address. I can also be reached via Discord. I mostly just keep the lights on here.

@Derp said:

It's not the vaccination itself, it's the doors to other things it opens the way to.

People like to think this way, and they are foolish.

If you're going to use a government service, then being required to follow its rules is appropriate. If you don't want to vaccinate your shit-lings, send them to a private school that doesn't require vaccinations or home-school them.

Better yet, send them to another country or planet, because I don't particularly care for your disease-ridden meatbags to get anywhere near my children.

People opposed to vaccinations will have a special place in Hell waiting for them, right after they pass away from some easily-curable disease.

I was reading a lot of Shakespeare at the time, while also studying gender identity back in the late 90s.

For PCs, I like to pick mundane names, none of which would seem unusual. I have a fondness for names with Goidelic roots.

@dontpanda said:

I do not understand not vaccinating your kids without their doctor telling you to. It makes literally (and I mean that literally) no sense.

In the same way, I do not understand why my clients dispute what I have to say about whether something is legal or illegal. I mean, do what you want, but you pay me an awful lot of money to ignore me.

@ShelBeast said:

I think that we male gamers (or us male, white, hetero gamers) need to grow the fuck up, most of the time with these attitudes.

I think you male, white, hetero gamers should start doing this by actively calling out shitheads like this.

While I realize a good number of male, white, hetero gamers are broken due to circumstances beyond their control, we expect children and young adults to behave better. Just because you elect not to use proper hygiene or socialization techniques does not relieve you of the obligation to obey social order, as dictated by law. Escaping to fantasy realms does not mean you can employ a fantasy realm's rules to reality.

I have caught wind of and seen bad behavior, and it was all I could do to not put my foot down on someone's neck for it. Thankfully, he apologized profusely after I kicked the chair out from under him.

@Arkandel said:

Gave deadlifts an honest try with rather low weight, a belt, stretching before and after and as good form as I could manage.

What the fuck, man? Do you even read?

You have hurt your lower back, and probably hurt your tendons. Tendons don't heal nearly as quickly as muscles.

You need to stop doing deadlifts. You are probably too old to be doing them without substantial risk of injury. If you want to hit the same muscles, do: (1) squats: (2) lunges; (3) mountain climbers; and (4) seated shrugs.

FFS, man, work out smart.

@Spitfire

Today's objectionable parenting seems to arise from the typical short-cut thinking that pervades all levels, from political stances to "educated" discussions on the Common Core standards.

In my opinion, when the child is acting up -- and that means he/she/it is acting like a shithead for no discernible reason -- that's when you "ignore" them. "Ignore" does not mean "let the shithead do whatever the fuck he/she/it wants"; it means "do not give the attention that the shithead desires." When that behavior escalates, more direct punishment should be employed; when it degrades, the behavior will atrophy over time.

Much like puppies, children can be trained and conditioned. In fact, that's what we are doing through parenting; we just prefer to call it "parenting". Frankly, the only difference between my little ones and the cat is that the cat's a lot smarter than they are: he knows to shit in one area.

@Kanye-Qwest said in RL Anger:

Feel free to stop paying attention to the discussion. Everyone understands your position. We've already played "spot the MRA".

I've always disliked the use of the term "MRA," if only because I find it being used as a dismissive pejorative to silence what I have personally experienced to be reasonable discourse.

I mean, I understand that "mansplaining" is a thing, and that there are ridiculous men's-rights-activists/advocates who are dead-on-wrong about a lot of things. But the instant we get onto the 'nigga-nigger' train, we're heading into a land of perdition that's as productive as fighting for peace.

@Vorpal said in RL Anger:

There is a distinctly barbed and hostile attitude in the core movement (not to mention a lot of high-grade insanity coming from the likes of Luce Irigaray), and a lot of the arguments are focused on (if you're familiar with the Three Languages Of Politics) the Oppressor---Oppressed axis, and very focused on not how to resolve the oppression (which would require a shift in axis and a re-framing of a lot of theory) but rather how to shift who is being oppressed.

Seeing as how you've invoked Irigaray, I must invoke Foucault in response and state that, no matter what you do, you will forever be caught in a binary system of oppression, if one buys into power theory. That is, you have no choice but to shift the target of the oppression.

I don't necessarily buy into that, but power theory does provide an interesting, explanatory model of history's struggles.

@Coin said in RL Anger:

You can't distill that into something as niche as your example, especially because your example lacks the social bias of privilege that one group has over the other. You're stripping that aspect from the conversation with your example and thus making your example moot.

"Moot" isn't the word your looking for here; "inapplicable" or "not analogous" are better choices.

Still, @Arkandel has a point, and it is this: it is difficult to motivate someone to engage in a serious conversation or discussion by using pejoratives or put-downs.

I think we have thoroughly discussed why "Not All Men" and "All Lives Matter" are offensive to marginalized groups.

So, back to trying to come up with solutions: how do we try and address what appears to be an ingrained mentality in our community?

@Thenomain

There are times when it makes more sense to back away from a conversation with one person to have a more productive one with another.

It seemed clear to me that you and @Lithium were missing one another in the night.

@Arkandel said in RL Anger:

Pejoratives or put-downs?

If I have to explain every ironic comment I make in each of my posts, I'm going to go gray in the hair before we get anywhere.

I suppose I could have said "hate-spewing psycho-fuck," but that would get me no further rhetorically.

@Thenomain said in RL Anger:

Request: Someone to PM me a translation of what @Ninjakitten said. I no longer know who it is people think I am, nor what I'm allowed to ask without being offensive, what is okay to disagree with without being attacked. I'm serious. Thanks.

I'll attempt a public translation.

If you're one of the marginalized, it's okay to be tired and frustrated at being asked to explain your motivations and beliefs for the umpteenth time. There are people who genuinely want to help, who, by way of privilege, known or unknown, may not entirely understand or connect with what you're saying. Being frustrated with meeting an otherwise-intelligent person with this ignorance is reasonable.

If you're one of the ones that want to help, see the above. Understand that you're asking someone who has suffered for what may be decades to explain what they have already explained to family, friends, police officers, professors, etc. countless times. Don't badger; don't deflect; and please don't expect to be treated with the utmost patience. Just realize that you're entering into TOUCHY SUBJECT land, and go in, if you want to, with that the attendant knowledge and expectations.

In a game where a single player can turn the tide, it's really stupid to trash-talk one of the best, physical, complete players in the game.

Trash Curry, and he'll shoot in your face. Trash LeBron, and he's going to run over you.

@Luna said:

Any one at any time can start a cps investigation for any reason. And it's anonymous.

Anonymity is not the same as immunity in Ohio. Under R.C. 2151.421(G)(1)(a):

" * * * [A]nyone or any hospital, institution, school, health department, or agency participating in the making of reports under division (A) of this section [which relates to statutorily-required reporters], anyone or any hospital, institution, school, health department, or agency participating in good faith in the making of reports under division (B) of this section [which relates to elective reporters], and anyone participating in good faith in a judicial proceeding resulting from the reports, shall be immune from any civil or criminal liability for injury, death, or loss to person or property that otherwise might be incurred or imposed as a result of the making of the reports or the participation in the judicial proceeding." (Emphasis added.)

Furthermore, the confidentiality of reports is codified in R.C. 2151.421(H)(1), which can be abrogated under certain circumstances:

" * * * [A] court may conduct an in camera inspection of child-abuse records or reports and also has the inherent power to order disclosure of such records or reports where (1) the records or reports are relevant to the pending action, (2) good cause for such a request has been established by the person seeking disclosure, and (3) where admission of the records or reports outweighs the confidentiality considerations set forth in * * * R.C. 2151.421(H)(1). “Good cause” is defined as that which is in the best interest of the child."

Johnson v. Johnson, 134 Ohio App. 3d 579, 585, 731 N.E.2d 1144 (3rd Dist. 1999).

So, it's not absolutely anonymous, and an elective reporter can be held liable for making a bad faith report. Since "good faith" and "bad faith" are nebulous concepts, making a report with less-than-clear facts will open you up to a potential lawsuit, regardless of your chances of a successful defense.

@Arkandel said in RL things I love:

So @Ganymede is gone?

@EmmahSue wouldn't do you such an obvious favor.

@Arkandel said in RL Anger:

You are too eager to jump down people's throats and throw sarcastic, hostile comments around when you disagree with them; it seems important to you that there are sides, that there is a conflict, and that someone is out to get you so you're hitting back as hard as possible.

This makes it hard to hold a dialogue.

Then don't.

Some people don't want to engage in a dialogue.

@Lithium said in Overwatch, anyone?:

I kill Bastion with D.Va all the time (It's all about the rocket propelled flight to the face with the defense shield up to knock him off his perch).

You can also counter Bastion really easily with Roadhog. Do the Scorpion kill, and no more turret! Also, D.Va: as stated, run up and crush. Same with Reinhardt.

Reload times are a bitch, and there are more than enough folks with shielding and healing that can outlast a barrage. Also, Bastion in turret mode is a target. My team tonight kept kicking Bastion's ass by rushing with D.Va with Widowmakers in back. And I've had great times with Soldier: 76 by tossing the healing beacon, and triple-missile the turret, and then hit it with the heavy assault rifle.

That said, I love Bastion. He's easy to use, but I wouldn't go so far to say that he unbalances the game severely. Tore through 35+ opponents without dying, but mainly because our Mercy healer was spot on.

By the by, I don't know if the game cross-platforms, and I figure you're all computer gamers, but my PS4 handle is LowVirtualMemory, in case anyone wants to go rampaging in this game, or in SW: Battlefront.

@Arkandel said in Overwatch, anyone?:

Because of course it is.

Hey.

Fuck you, that's why.

@Lithium said in Overwatch, anyone?:

If all a person does is babysit a turret with Torb they are not playing anywhere near remotely to his potential imho.

Same here.

The turret is great for a decoy. If I don't have Bastion around, I'll stick the turret atop the payload on offense or defense, modify it, and then camp out elsewhere. When the Zerg rush hits, take 'em from behind and no one will notice because everyone will be focused on taking out the turret.

Winston played well is almost impossible to stop because he is even more mobile than D.Va in many ways. The shield bubble is great, and his main attack is short range, but AoE. His ultimate is also pretty nasty if used well.

I dislike playing as Winston because he can't compare in kills with others. That said, the fun part about Winston is taking the high road and dropping behind a defensive team. Most people keep their sights on the ground troops first.

That said, I love playing as Bastion. I really do. Call me "cheap," but there are so many ways to stop me that I don't feel bad about it. I can't help it if the entire opposing team wants to rush on the ground.