@L-B-Heuschkel said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:
Don't make sexuality the only thing your character advertises in order to invite others to interact with the character.
Well, exactly.
Maybe this is why I don't think anyone's ever complained about my PCs' sexuality.
@misadventure said in The Work Thread:
how do we all work to change that dynamic?
It will take time.
But it would be real nice if men and women in leadership positions recognize that you don't need to be an authoritarian to command authority.
It would also be real nice if a company's leadership be unafraid to give exceptions and embrace diversity.
And it would be real nice if staff recognized that everyone is going through something and how important it is to empathize with one another.
That'd be nice.
@greenflashlight said in Sensitivity in gaming:
I mention this to explain why I have absolutely no patience with anyone who complains about being "canceled," because it never means what they pretend it means.
This.
Like, for real, Louis CK's last special was hot garbage. My partner and I sort of looked at each other, like we were confused as to why he stopped being funny.
But we knew why.
@23quarius said in Oh, Humanity:
@il-volpe Ohhhh. Okay. I just know Superporn is a Thai name. So Super_____ I thought "mmmaybe it's an unfortunate Thai name?"
You need to talk to Mr. Phuk Mae Dong.
Real name, yo.
Not really a bad humanity thing, but nothing beats the day I had a gentleman with the last name 'Batman' (pronounced bhat-mahn) as a client.
Because when Batman files a summary judgment motion, you listen.
I have not understood FOMO for a while.
It is inevitable you will miss something online. Unless you are around 24/7, this is an inevitability. I have accepted that I will miss out on things all the time due to my schedule. And since my only other alternative is to stop playing, and therefore always miss everything, I acknowledge that I will never be at everything.
Or even many things.
So, I suppose I don’t even engage in the fight.
I'm finally getting to watch Aggretsuko, and I am disappointed it has taken so long.
Like, it's pretty much me at work and then me at the karaoke bars.
@faraday said in Attachment to old-school MU* clients:
Ares is successful because it innovates without alienating its core playerbase. That doesn't change the fact that backwards compatibility comes with a cost.
I think you underestimate how wonderful Ares is. Your product is excellent, but backwards compatibility is an added bonus, not, in my opinion, a requirement.
I didn't want to get an iPhone7, but my wants and needs, which require me to have the ability to access cell phone towers, compelled me to get one.
I may want to cling to my Potato, but if I can't use it to get to a game I want to play on, I will get to the game one way or another. And I haven't heard anyone yet say that they would refuse to go to a game that had a web portal only.
That's pretty much how I access Arx.
I'm opening this thread so as to share recipes and food pictures, if people want to.
Also, I'm aggro to fuck by those fucking sites where you have to fucking scroll through eleventy-billion pages of "this recipe was passed down from the progenitor of my family, who inhabited a ziggurat" or some shit, I don't fucking know, so, like, put your recipes down, and don't give us a fucking story!
Well, a story is fine, but, you know, just -- talk about fucking food, okay?
@kestrel said in RL friends:
So basically, how much evidence is there of your hobby in how you connect with the real world?
You know, and I've said this before, I really enjoy political games. I love the various Vampire iterations. I love L5R. And I love the politics in Arx.
Someone said to me once that, as a player, I'm good at figuring at figuring out how everyone can benefit from a deal. That I'm clever like that.
It plays into how I practice. I settle many of my cases. I have brought enemies together as allies to make money in real estate deals.
What I do in RL and why I am good at it has everything to do with this hobby. I am a fast writer; I think well on my feet (because this hobby is essentially an improv exercise); and I communicate well via e-mail and in letters.
I tell law students constantly: the practice of law is applied Dungeons & Dragons. And those who know? Now they know.
@derp said in Movie / TV / Streaming Peeves or Whatever:
Whatever it takes to get out from under the weight of that scrutiny and get people to start accepting you. We don't get to fetishize some idealized critical path it has to take. You just have to get there. Somehow.
This is my take too.
I think commodifying homosexuality or diversity is a hollow and horrid when the aim is solely to cash in on it, but I think it has to be balanced with how important normalizing it is. We can wax philosophically about ethics, but I think the reality is that normalization leads to acceptance, if not tolerance, and this will probably save lives. I will gladly have more Shang-Chi, even if it means seeing Chinese people again fetishized as martial artists, if it means that more Chinese stars will get Hollywood roles and we normalize the idea of Chinese stars being action heroes and romantic leads.
Netflix and DreamWorks clearly cashed-in on the gay-ness of the new She-Ra series but no one can deny the impact it had, and will have, on the way alternative identities will be treated in the media, not as disabilities or flaws, but instead as strengths.
@HorrorHound said:
...The Hedge transforms PoohBear into Naughty Bear and starts hanging entrails around like Yule decorations.
That's cute and horrific, but misses the point.
If you're going to play a game based on paranoia of being whisked away to another land to be treated like a Tzimisce meat-puppet, there should never be a Pooh Bear Happy Dwelling in the first place. It's one thing to clamor about "wrong-fun" over-policing, and another to stop people from taking a shit on every part of the thematic material.
@macha said in The Work Thread:
They expect me to be able to tell them exactly what I was doing at an exact point of time in the day, a week or more ago.
Here's a fun thing to tell them:
"I can't recall what I was doing last week at the moment. I talked to an attorney, though, and they recommended I keep a diary of our communications in case we have to use it as evidence or something. Anyhow, they have that diary right now, so when I get it back I'll let you know what I was up to."
And if they ask for a copy of the diary, tell them:
"I asked my attorney about that, and they send something about it being a work product? Something about a document prepared in anticipation of litigation. I don't exactly recall what they said, but they told me not to give you a copy."
And if they ask you if you plan to file a lawsuit, tell them:
"I really don't know at this point. It's all really confusing to me. You tell me one thing, and they tell me another, but my attorney has been very good at explaining things so far, and I trust their judgment."
And if they ask to speak with your attorney, tell them:
"I talked to my attorney, and they said that they have no interest in talking to you, but when they do they will reach out in writing. They could not tell me when, but that's what they told me."
No, seriously, this will be really fun.
Work Peeve No. 34,769
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To: <Me>
From: <Colleague>
Re: Quick Question
I have a really simple, quick question. Can you call me?
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Bruh, if your question is simple and quick, then just write it out with your e-mail. Asking to confer by telephone is how I know your question is neither simple nor quick.
@surreality said in The Shame Game:
"Who should listen to you? You're just a stupid perv." <-- that kind of thing was incredibly common.
It was also stupid.
None of those people ever backed down, though. Nobody stopped admitting it. Nobody crawled off to die in a hole. None ever talked about it any differently then than is done now. People stood their ground because they were found nothing wrong with standing there, even when it wasn't comfortable.
Time passed. Shit changed. People grew up. (OK, most people grew up; there are still some folks stuck in the 90s on this one, but they're now as rare as the handful were back then.) You don't really see the hatefest toward anyone who considers TS as potentially a part of RP for whatever reason in the same way.
Sometimes the behavior being shamed is stupid. Sometimes it's the shaming itself that is the behavior that is actually stupid.
Things probably eased up because, over time, even basement-bound nerds can get a little something-something.
And shame on the idiot who decided to shame people for liking to give oral sex. YOU ARE JESUS'S PEOPLE.
TL;DR: People need to offer oral sex more often.
@sahin said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
it's super weird, in the shadow of turning a certain age, that I thought I would have my shit totally figured out -- but, nope, at 42 here I am sitting and and going -- that's right, the gender binary is bullshit and you should get a binder because why the fuck not.
I'm 42 and I've been playing around with the ol' binary construct since I deliberately picked this handle about 20 years ago.
@Miss-Demeanor said in Social Conflict via Stats:
That's the honor system, and let me know when you've had a game of more than 10 people where the honor system actually worked. There's no checks and balances in your example, no way to ensure that people are actually posing according to the results of the roll.
Precisely.
@Arkandel, I have no problem with this. That's fine, if that's the system. But I don't think that's where people are having conflict here.
I have problems because either people don't think I'm posing accordingly or I don't think other people are posing accordingly. With physical combat, you have an easy way of recording the result: usually, "+hurt <damage>', or whatever. But when I successfully intimidate someone with Presence + Intimidation, and they flat-out ignore the result, that's the functional equivalent of dealing 3L damage to another player's PC, and them refusing to use the +hurt command.
Frankly, the next time this happens, I will log the scene, along with any OOC discussion, then terminate it immediately. I will then send a complaint to staff, provide the log, and never interact with the other player again until the matter is addressed and resolved. I see this as the only way to make sure that people do what they are fucking supposed to do.
For nearly 20 years we have been making excuses for people who otherwise ignored social rolls. That's because we didn't want to lose control either, right? Prisoner's dilemma and all.
People are stupid.
The best policy: card everyone. Don't like it? Stop setting age limitations.
Just curious, as I'm pondering yet another theme on the side (I go back and forth), what sort of policies do most people expect when seeing a new place, what sort of policies would turn someone away or off a new place because they felt it necessary to define, or what sort of non-policy would be a turn off?
Don't have a policy that requires the disclosure of any player information, even an e-mail address.
@Thenomain said in RL things I love:
I am honestly confused why this needs debated.
It's the internet.
And it's not a debate: it's a show of penis-lightsaber swashbuckling.
