@Arkandel said in TS - Danger zone:
How do these conversations take place? How do you make sure the other person is okay OOC?
Talking about it, mostly.
I wish there were a more precise answer than that, but there isn’t.
It’s pretty simple, I’ve found.
@tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
The easiest way to solve unemployment is pay everyone a UBI, everyone works two or three days a week. Everyone would work three days, if they're able. Productivity stays the same, wages stay the same (though they should be higher in general anyway) and everyone has time to be creative, see their family, engage in hobbies.
"Let us then do honor to revolutions by justice, and give currency to their principles by blessings.
"Having thus in a few words, opened the merits of the case, I shall now proceed to the plan I have to propose, which is,
"To create a national fund, out of which there shall be paid to every person, when arrived at the age of twenty-one years, the sum of fifteen pounds sterling, as a compensation in part, for the loss of his or her natural inheritance, by the introduction of the system of landed property:
"And also, the sum of ten pounds per annum, during life, to every person now living, of the age of fifty years, and to all others as they shall arrive at that age."
-- Thomas Paine, Agrarian Justice
Yes, the proposal of a UBI is as American as apple pie.
@L-B-Heuschkel said in The ethics of IC romance, TS, etc:
And therein lies the problem with canon. You can't. Even if you somehow convince the entire current playerbase that Batman is a girl named Sue, new players won't know or recognise this canon.
And yet we see this sort of revisionism with comics today, and fans are just fine with it.
My thoughts are simple: let go of canon. It's not difficult. Superhero games are ultimately exercises in fan-fiction, nothing more. If my Magma is an insecure Allison Crestmere, so be it. If she's afraid of using her powers because of their destructive power, so be it. If she finds herself attracted to Barbara Gordon, so be it. And if my Magma switches hands, it's really no different than Chris Claremont coming in and fucking up everyone's shit.
@greenflashlight said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I believe you are within every right to do so.
I would fully support your choice to do so, and would even prepare the eviction documentation, if necessary, au gratis.
@Auspice said in How to Approach (nor not) a Suspected Creep:
There is always, always some level of OOC involved.
My brain hurts from the blurred lines.
If I were to witness your scenario IC, I would have my PC act accordingly IC. If I were to witness your scenario OOC or RL, I would act as I would act. I do not see how or why anyone should expect any differently.
Here's the thing: even when I play an IC creep, I communicate with my RP partners about such behavior.
So, I don't think anyone cared if Wes was being a lunatic because in those scenes I made it abundantly clear beforehand that his insanity was a little overwhelming at times. If someone white-knighted my RP partner, I would like to think they would say: "nah things cool." As I have never had anyone complain on me, I can only presume I'm doing something right or everyone else around me is wrong.
But knowing what I do? Yes, I am hesitant to leap in and intervene if I see some creepy stuff happening IC, unless it is IC for my PC to step in and end the creepiness. These days, most of my PCs are happy to beat someone to death for leering at a victim. (In one case, it's part of her madness.) So, I guess I don't really have much of a problem intervening.
But it's IC, totally.
You're making a lot of people happy. This is a good thing.
You need a scanner to do this.
I'm not often a bringer of good things, but I can try.
Little body. After taste lingers. Not a distinct, rich flavor.
I like my reds like I like my women: firm, full-bodied, and able to punch the shit out of you.
I know you don’t mean any disrespect, but you’re kind of poking at a button.
I love my PCs. I spend a great deal of time crafting them. I don’t like saying good-bye to them. Even though I did not get to play Magma as much as I wanted to — I really wanted to — I had to let her go.
I am a full-time partner, business owner, lawyer, mentor, and parent, but don’t think for a moment that I am not sometimes tempted to shirk a responsibility to play pretend with my friends.
Life’s tough enough without pointing out how my toys sometimes collect dust.
@Derp said in What game system would you prefer for a big-tent nWoD project?:
Arx has custom built everything. There are no books you have to go out and read. Everything is on the website, and it is literally learn-as-you-go. WoD is not those things, and people cannot be bothered to even so much as read their books, much less the website -- because it's not learn as you go. They expect to be taught the relevant parts.
This always bugged the hell out of me.
I mean, you can learn as you go too, right? You can fake it until you make it. (It worked for my RL relationships, at least.) That's how I learned Mage 2E, which I'm still not proficient at: I made a PC that was magic-lite and learned more and more as I went ... which is kind of how the game is calculated to play out too.
I say the same things about Conditions, Aspirations, Anchors, and Touchstones. They are not difficult concepts. And, frankly, I don't know how you can actually play the game as designed without them. Which is why taking them out of a game is a hard-no for me: you're pretty much crippling the shit out of a large number of powers (especially Conditions).
I also want to add: WoD 2E is best-suited for the learn-as-you-go approach because of the linear advancement model.
Hilda is what every Changeling: the Dreaming campaign wished it was.
@Ghost said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:
I worry more about how people are treating each other at the dinner table than I do whether or not they think my casserole is amazing.
Yes, but getting people to treat each other better at the table takes more than adding an extra fork or spoon to each setting. People may tolerate the lack of napkins if your casserole is damn good, but good guests are hard to come by.
That tortured analogy aside, I surmise that many players aren't going to fully understand the +xcard function or motivations initially, so there will be belittling and there will be teasing because: (1) this happens in social settings, regardless; (2) this happens often where people are relatively anonymous; and (3) this happens more often where people have social issues.
I wish I knew of a panacea to make people feel more comfortable on games, but at this moment I don't. I support tools to report bad players, but I'm not so sure I support tools which are calculated to terminate forms of role-play due to a player's personal experiences. It's impossible to predict with any efficacy what will set anyone off, and even more so on games which are clearly by design meant to cater to "darker" topics.
WoD games used to have things like +rpprefs which would alert others to what RP you want your PC to engage in. Maybe that's all we can do insofar as "personal agency" in setting your personal boundaries for others not to cross. If there were a clear policy along the lines of "set your prefs and respect others' prefs" I would certainly get behind it. And since we have done it before, we aren't re-inventing the wheel.
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Client E-mail: I need to ask you a few questions; can I call?
My response: I'm not available for a phone call.
Client E-mail: But I need to ask you about <X> and <Y>.
My response: Here are the answers: <answers>.
Client E-mail: I have other questions; can I call?
@krmbm said in Faraday Appreciation Thread:
She never even was like "omg just stop touching things, you are obviously not competent." Which I deserve many times over.
To be fair, when women say this to me I don’t take offense.
@faraday said in Pandemic Era Issues:
But I'm not in favor of doctors deciding who lives and who dies based on their own moral judgment of someone's behavior. That is a horrific idea.
Or who is insured. Not that it has ever been an issue, no.
I have zero sympathy for folks, though.
I mean, folks in general.
Fuck people.
I know this is an important matter of public interest, but please be careful about accidentally releasing RL info about someone on the board.
I cannot be afraid to show anger.
That repressive shit led to two suicides in my family.
Nope. I get angry when I want and how I want.
@Tinuviel said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:
I don't know if it's less blatant, but less... offensive? As in the stereotyping has been around for so long that we understand it not to be hurtful a lot more. The Norwegians are rich, the Irish are drunks, the Danes can't speak without sounding like they've got a mouth full of potatoes, the Germans are humourless drones, etc.
@surreality said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:
They are just not lethally dangerous, like the visual stereotyping so often is.
I get what you both are saying here, but let me say the following: the "non-lethal" stereotyping described can still be deadly.
Think of your average Chinese stereotype. Think of them in childhood. Think of them in adolescence. And think of them, the children of immigrants, as adults. What do you think of? Let me suggest the following stereotypes: quiet; high achieving; good at math; and successful.
Sound about right for the stereotype? I agree.
Now, here's a study regarding suicide among Chinese-born Americans versus their China-born counterparts. Particularly, look at the startling difference in the rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide. The numbers? A rate that is between 2 to 3 times greater.
Why do you suppose that is?
Being a model minority can be deadly. It took one of my cousins from me. So, let's just be aware that "non-lethal" or "good" stereotypes can have deadly ramifications among minorities..
Speaking of which:
Not all Asians are smart, okay?
I’m my profession, DK is not as much of an issue as impostor syndrome. Your positions are challenged constantly and exhaustively.
