Posts made by Ganymede

@Kestrel said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:

If you're exclusively active in the kinds of WoD games that get circulated and advertised on MSB, maybe you can't fathom why it can kind of seem like a big deal to reach out to someone, or to staff, and let them know there's a problem.

I think this is an unfair generalization. I know plenty of the people that have chimed in here have played on WoD games, have a lot of friends to play with, and yet still suffer from the same anxiety you do. Let's just presume that this is a problem across all genres, regardless; I know I am, even if I don't suffer from the problem because I am actually a complicated algorithm invented by a feline practitioner of law.

@Ghost said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:

Because who wants to explain to strangers personal past traumatic experiences or personal fears?

This is kind of why I like +warn.

I mean, yes, the point of the command is to tell people "please stop or I will kill you". Some people may be anxious to say this to another player. But if I recall correctly, the point of Pandora's discussion is to conceive of a command that will discourage another player from ICly engaging in conduct which would make another player uncomfortable. What better way to discourage this than by saying "keep this up and you'll be a grease spot"?

Creeps and predators online are generally cowards (there are a few exceptions).

@Kanye-Qwest said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:

Isn't any coded tool you give them to use in the moment, in scene/conversation essentially the same as saying 'hey could we not'? If the aversion is fear or wariness of conflict or insulting the other party, would throwing a card on the scene not trigger the same anxiety?

Maybe if the script is flipped a little.

Back on Tartarus, there was a command called "+warn <target>" by which an OOC message was emitted to the target stating that there may be substantial IC consequences, including death, if the target continued proceeding as RP may imply. That usually prompted players to talk about what is going on in the scene, and to seek a resolution if desired, without admitting that they may be uncomfortable RL with what is happening.

The anxiety with using commands that might suggest an RL discomfort with proceeding may be connected with the fear that the target might sense a weakness of some kind. I'm not sure. But if the command displayed a neutral warning of some sort, maybe people would be more apt to use it?

@deathbird

“Children.”

Ha.

@Carex said in The Dark Side of online Role-Playing:

As a boy, I was allowed to run all over the place, play with whomever I wanted to, go hiking in the woods, exploring caves, break into old abandoned houses, whatever I wanted and no one batted an eyelash and you know what? None of us ever died or got kidnapped or had anything bad happens to us just because we were outside in the world.

You are familiar with the concept of privilege, I presume.

Parents should be there for their children but let children develop at their own pace because the worst thing that can happen probably won't happen, but if you act like it will you're probably doing almost as much harm.

And what about children who are mentally or emotionally less-developed? Is it wise to let them wander freely in a world which expects them to be different than they are?

Parents live in a world wholly different from people who have not had the same responsibility thrust upon them by an uncaring society that finds it permissible to disseminate the most ignorant advice as sagely. I'd rather this conversation of past traumas and philosophical hypotheses die a sudden death.

@Derp said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

If we are all considered to be such experts on the law that we can obey every premise of it at all times, then we are also expert enough to discuss it with others. Full stop.

The difference between discussing the law among peers and advising someone about the same is the difference between knowing you breathe with lungs and advising someone about the health of the same.

People ought to know damn well to be careful of sounding authoritative on a subject that can have grave consequences away from this forum.

Suffice to say that I have dealt with ignorance of the law and the consequences of that ignorance to say without hyperbole that lay people relying on hearsay without access or experience with interpreting the law should leave it alone.

@RightMeow said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I might start hating people.

That you don’t already speaks volumes of your good nature or naïveté.

@Macha said in The Dark Side of online Role-Playing:

I was not trying to imply anyone was abusive. Just how privacy is important, etc, off what I had.

I don’t think anyone had any ill-intent by offering their thoughts. I am simply advising not to share them unless a parent asks for them, for the reasons stated by Rightmeow.

We could discuss why or why not until we are blue in the face, but none of that matters. Just don’t.

@GreenFlashlight

We do have CPS. If you suspect abuse, report it.

This ain’t CPS.

@Derp said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

holds up his favorite 'UPL is utter bullshit' sign

But otherwise I agree.

Sure, sure.

When you seen what I’ve seen, friend, you will burn that sign.

No one has any damn business telling a parent about what is appropriate or not regarding their child-rearing choices without a request for input. Mind your fucking business.

We all may have opinions on what is acceptable and what is not, but keep it to yourself if someone isn’t looking for your thoughts. And I don’t recall buttercup asking for them.

I may have missed something in topic drift, but I thought that the red card was to prevent a scene moving forward due to a player feeling uncomfortable about the direction that RP is going based on how it may affect their PC.

Then we started talking about FTB policies, which are slightly different. I always looked at an FTB as saying “what happens happens, but I’m not playing out what happens, even if I might roll with it happening to my PC.”

Am I having another senior moment?

@Rinel

I concur. Do not give out legal advice unless you are a lawyer.

Sincerely, someone who prosecutes the unauthorized practice of law.

@Carex

This would explain why my curmudgeonly old men seemed to get so much attention.

I should just play Carl Frederickson.

@Auspice

I know you don’t mean any disrespect, but you’re kind of poking at a button.

I love my PCs. I spend a great deal of time crafting them. I don’t like saying good-bye to them. Even though I did not get to play Magma as much as I wanted to — I really wanted to — I had to let her go.

I am a full-time partner, business owner, lawyer, mentor, and parent, but don’t think for a moment that I am not sometimes tempted to shirk a responsibility to play pretend with my friends.

Life’s tough enough without pointing out how my toys sometimes collect dust.

@Auspice said in Empire State Heroes Mush:

Did you play or did you RP all of twice before disappearing into the sunset.

For a couple of months, thank you.

I did have a good time, though.

@Auspice said in Empire State Heroes Mush:

Superhero games, playing a female char is basically like walking onto Shang with kink flags of 'ANYTHING GOES' it feels like.

When I played a female superhero, I didn't get propositioned once.

But when I play a murderous psychopath or grumpy-ass curmudgeon, bitches be all like:

@Tinuviel

@Derp

Objection, your Honor: opposing counsel is making me look stupid with facts.

@Alamias

Ironic choice of picture?

Pretty sure that was Tony-face one night with May.

@Ghost said in The Hockey Thread:

How the EFF did my Coyotes end up leading the Pacific division? Wow.

It's pretty simple, actually.

1. Darcy Kuemper and Antti Raanta are a good goaltending tandem. As the Islanders proved last year, you can do well with two marginal starters, and even better with two really good starters, as the Bruins are showing this year.

2. The 'Yotes defense is playing up to its capability. Ekman-Larsson is still one of the best d-men out there and Goligoski is playing at the level he should. The combination of Goligoski and Chychrun is putting up mad points.

3. Depth. If you look at the forward lines, you'll notice that the 'Yotes top 2 lines rank in the bottom of the League (30th and 26th), whereas their 3rd and 4th lines are in the upper half (16th and 11th).

4. Weak West. The Western Conference has been pretty weak so far, and easy to feed on.

For more analysis, feel free to continue.

@Lotherio

I swear I'm going to get to reviewing that Google docs file this weekend, my friend. I will follow up with my thoughts then.

Would love to have you on-board too, @Lisse24, if that's okay with Lotherio and his crew.