@Bobotron said:
This is more 'she's bitching about fairweather friends, but things like that go both ways, plus you work two jobs and don't tell other people when YOU are available, and it's OUR fault?'
Again, I don't understand what she means.
I know the term "fairweather fans" to mean "fans that like a team when they are doing well, but deserting them when they are doing poorly." So, when applied to friends, I figure a "fairweather friend" is someone who hangs around you when you're doing well, but deserts you when you're going through shitty times.
Shitty times are shitty. I understand that. However, when shitty times are happening, I don't sit around wallowing in self-pity. I do things to make my life better or more enjoyable. And that makes me a really shitty person to hang with when you're down, sad, or need someone to vent to, where you really don't want my advice or hear how you could potentially change your life for the better.
This one time my friend complained about keeping her baby weight. I suggested doing yoga and working out in the early mornings, when her kids and husband were sleeping. She said "she couldn't do that." I said "you won't because you don't want to wake up early." She asked "are you accusing me of being lazy?" I told her that I was telling her that "she is refusing to change, not unable to change."
Yeah, so, I don't hang out with people who would rather bitch and complain, rather than do something. We can hang out and crap on films, games, sports, or whatever, but most people honestly don't want to hang out with me if they want to vent without blunt commentary.