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Idk where else to put this

I JUST CAME OUT ON FACEBOOK. TO EVERYONE. EVERYONE KNOWS NOW. OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE

got my name changed

sent off an email changing my name with the state bar association

gonna start changing it with everything tomorrow

happy

@RDC said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

if later I decide to delete this post and pretend this never happened because it's really fucking scary

One of the things I think a lot of us who decide to kick our assigned gender to the curb in some form or fashion (either by defecting to the other side like I did or deciding the whole thing is a spook like you did) deal with really frequently is the fear that somehow we will change our minds on some aspect of this and therefore we will be terrible and awful and invalid and dumb.

But, you know, when you live in a world that pretty much demands everyone fall relatively neatly into one of two categories, it can be really hard to even conceive of saying "no thank you" to those expectations. So if you end up moving from "okay, I'm agender and asexual" to "okay, I'm agender but not asexual," or "okay, I'm asexual but trans," or "okay, I'm actually cis and hetero," all of those things are totally okay to do.

And of course if you don't move at all that is obviously okay! But do not be upset at yourself for being unsure.

ETA: Also, if you want a trans woman to listen to you scream incoherently at the world, feel free to hit me up on here. You can scream coherently too. Or just talk. Whatever you like.

@Wizz said in TS - Danger zone:

Being ashamed or overly worried about what it means or says about you is what is very weird to me

There's something I don't like about this, but I can't really put my finger on it. I feel like it's okay to view sex as a private thing, and that it's therefore okay to be nervous or even embarrassed or ashamed to be engaging in TS with someone.

I'm not saying that it's wrong not to be ashamed. I just don't like the implication that people who are are weird. Humans have a lot of hangups. Frequently about sex!

@tek said in The Work Thread:

I feel useless and worthless.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

You are a funny, kind, and creative person who has improved my life simply because I have communicated with you over an extended make-believe session. As my therapist once told me: who the hell do you think you are to pass that sort of judgment on yourself?

@Pandora said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

@Rinel said in Diversity Representation in MU*ing:

My point is that "male socialized" people playing lesbians isn't necessarily a cause of poor lesbian representation, since lesbians with that alleged quality exist. It's like saying "a lot of redheads play lesbians; lesbian representation isn't great."

I'm not going to lie and start saying that men playing lesbians hasn't been terrible for lesbian representation because it's now not PC to say something that's been true forever and will continue to be true forever. If it doesn't apply to you/someone you know/someone you've heard of, that's great and I'm not debating it.

1. not a man
2. the phrase "male socialization" is frequently used by TERFs to claim that trans women aren't women because we presented as male growing up
3. trans women are women
4. some trans women are lesbians
5. trans lesbians playing lesbians is not bad for lesbian representation

This isn't about men; it's about you using a phrase in a particular way and continuing to be really shifty about it. The fact that you seem to think "male socialization" makes someone a man is pretty worrying, as is your random protestation about eternal truths no longer being "PC."

ETA: ty @Roz that was it precisely

@Ghost said in RL things I love:

I dont understand a word that you just wrote, but I salute your victory.

A prosecutor said "I can do X." I said "no, you can't." A judge listened to us and said "you can't do X." The prosecutor said "I WANT TO SEE YOUR SUPERVISOR" and wrote a big long letter to the appellate court saying "I can do X." I wrote a big long response to his letter saying "no, you can't do X." The appellate court listened to us and said "you can't do X." The prosecutor said "I WANT TO SEE YOUR SUPERVISOR" and asked the Louisiana Supreme Court to grant him a hearing so that he could argue that he can do X. I wrote a response to the Louisiana Supreme Court saying "this jabroni can't do X--you know it, I know it, he knows it--and he doesn't deserve a hearing on the matter." The Louisiana Supreme Court didn't grant him a hearing.

tl;dr I won and there's literally nothing he can do about it.

In the other case not much has happened yet. I just said "hey you should do X for my client" and the state said "no and you shouldn't even give them a hearing" and I said "yes huh you should" and the court said "we're giving them a hearing."

LAW

@secretfire said in A (Mildly Complete) List of Current Games:

This is almost depressing. This is it for mushes? ...thats sad. Its like watching the last few dinosaurs meander around the rats scurrying at their feet. Remember when the number of active, real mu* seemed almost endless?

I got to do a super cool thing and also be a prickly cactus of a doctor

Ty herja and crawfish for doing so much and putting up with so much from all of us! It was an incredible event, and I'm looking forward to seeing the results unfold

As well as finding out what cardians were doing on our side

When your bosses pull you in because you left early on Tuesday due to panic and tell you not to... because they have panic attacks too and that if you're going to be panicking, you should just come into their office and cry with them.

Which of course you promptly start to do, and they rush to give you a big hug and tell you that they won't give up on you but you can't give up on yourself.

Y'ALL

@Tyche

The fact that the conditions asylum seekers are fleeing are worse than detention is not an excuse. Do you know why my asylum client came to the US with her kids? Because a gang had come to their church during service and murdered her husband in front of his children, his wife, and his congregation. During this assassination, they also murdered a mother and her toddler, two men, and a young girl.

If you're trying to be sarcastic, it's because you know fuck-all about the world outside your comfortable life. Grow a sense of moral courage.

@Auspice said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:

(And I am using men/women here tho I have flirted with, interacted with, etc. those who are trans- or flexible or... but this is a 'for sake of argument' conversation so.)

Generally speaking, those of us who are trans and still operating within the binary actively prefer to be included in the group "men/women."

@Ghost said in Why We Don't Make New Friends Anymore (Or Creepers Do Creepy Things):

In my estimation you can probably trust people at ACTUAL sex/swinger/bdsm clubs more than some of these people.

You almost certainly can. Kink communities tend to take consent very seriously and proactively warn new members about predatory people in the area.

Yeah, I think pretty much everyone who has unusual triggers is aware that their triggers are unusual. "Content Warning: Drowning" is likely going to be something someone with a problem brings up beforehand or does what @Pyrephox described above. They aren't going to get mad about it.

Now, if you casually drop sexual assault on your players without explicitly asking how they feel about such things? Yeah, you're a shitty person.

Despite how the "anti-SJW" crowd likes to portray folks, people who request trigger warnings are for the most part extremely reasonable people who happen to have experienced something really upsetting and would like to avoid experiencing it again.

ETA: gotta say @Derp I was surprised at your response, because

@greenflashlight said in Sensitivity in gaming:

because compassion is a resource you limit to immediate friends and family.

is definitely how I also took it. I hope I'm wrong.

This doesn't work for MU*s, but every ttrpg I've been in has had a session 0 where we discuss the tone of the upcoming game, what we can reasonably expect to see, and what people are not okay with. With the option to send a private message to the DM if you want to nix something without airing it publicly.

This, to me, is a basic courtesy to everyone involved.

This should go in politics but I don't care.

We've got concentration camps being set up in the States, and I feel so angry and so helpless because I can't do anything to stop it. You can't just storm the Bastille these days--they've got machine guns. And a friend pointed out that as a lawyer I can help people, and yeah, I can, but while my cases wind their way through courts children are literally dying of government neglect in these facilities.