Except for that one time he went on Twitter and started fighting with his fanbase because they criticized Texas and his wife's from there so obviously he needed to go out into the world and #NotAllTexans.
I am willing to bank his philanthropy, talent, kindness, care for his wife and daughter, physique/looks, etc. against that.
"If you stand for nothing Burr, what will you fall for?"
-- Hamilton: An American Musical
That isn't the kind of usage I'm talking about though. I'm talking more about the people who say things like "well, I'm an asshole, but at least I admit it" or "well, I'm an asshole, but at least I know I'm one". As if knowingly being an asshole mitigates.
I guess that's better than being a hypocrite about it? "I'm not an asshole, I just tell it like it is".
That would depend. If they honestly believe the "tell it like it is" thing, that's a stupid asshole. If they are saying "tell it like it is" knowing that it's a lie, that's a dishonest asshole. Dishonest asshole is worse than stupid asshole.
@Kanye-Qwest said in RL Anger:
@WTFE said in RL Anger:
ver understood why this was considered a virtue instead of an exacerbating condition.If someone doesn't realize they're being an asshole, it's not really quite their fault (except insofar as not knowing you're being an asshole is often fucking stupid).
Wrong.
How cogent and coherent! Your rebuttal has me rethinking the very foundations of my beliefs, it has shaken me so deeply.
Fake apologies are kind of like fake tits, they look nice but they feel fake. Who has the time?
Have you tried a genuine apology?
Oh, right. I forget who I'm talking with. (Hint: I didn't forget.) Of fucking course the thought that you might make a genuine apology never crossed your mind.
I am lucky to have friends who are willing to tell me when I'm being an asshole, without being assholes about it.
In return for their kindness, I try to make up for it. Not just to them, but to everyone involved, even if it's at a level they'll not be aware of. Sometimes an apology isn't enough. Sometimes an apology is the wrong thing to do, because too many people stop there when they need to fix the damn problem.
Some day I will learn, somewhere deep down, how to simply not be an asshole, but I suspect this will require some help that I can't yet afford.
“If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe.”
― Carl Sagan, Cosmos
@Thenomain said in RL Anger:
Sometimes an apology isn't enough. Sometimes an apology is the wrong thing to do, because too many people stop there when they need to fix the damn problem.
^ This. Not in regard to you in any way, but in regard to that being a very broad, if not universal, truism.
Too many people have a habit of treating an apology like a 'get out of jail (almost) free' card, and there are absolutely certain circumstances in which actions have to back up the words for the words to have any meaning at all.
Oh fucking well.
@surreality said in RL Anger:
@Thenomain said in RL Anger:
Sometimes an apology isn't enough. Sometimes an apology is the wrong thing to do, because too many people stop there when they need to fix the damn problem.
^ This. Not in regard to you in any way, but in regard to that being a very broad, if not universal, truism.
Too many people have a habit of treating an apology like a 'get out of jail (almost) free' card, and there are absolutely certain circumstances in which actions have to back up the words for the words to have any meaning at all.
Smart people view the apology as the first step toward making good.
MUSHing isn't full of smart people (present company not excepted). 
Speaking of apologies, I've come to realize I've been responding to them entirely wrong my entire life. I always have responded with 'it's okay', which it wasn't, otherwise there wouldn't have been anything to apologize for to begin with, when I should have just been saying 'thank you'.
@Apu shows wisdom. Listen to @Apu.
Except for that one time he went on Twitter and started fighting with his fanbase because they criticized Texas and his wife's from there so obviously he needed to go out into the world and #NotAllTexans.
I am willing to bank his philanthropy, talent, kindness, care for his wife and daughter, physique/looks, etc. against that.
And that's great, but it's also the #1 problem with 'perfection'. Something is either perfect, or it's not.
"Excuse the hell out of you. He's a bag of dicks. I'm a carefully curated box of cocks." -- to @GirlCalledBlu upon being misrepresented.
@Coin Kinda just more proof that 'perfect' is not a thing that's going to happen, but 'is not an asshat substantially less often than one is an asshat' is the best we really have any business expecting of anyone.
Can I respect someone based on their actions? Why/why not?
Can someone respect me based on my actions? Why/why not?
@Cupcake was being silly in hyperbole. @Coin was being silly in pedanticism. (Probably. Let's just say he was not serious because it's better that way.)
I think I can speak for all of us, however, when I say: Fuck cancer.
“If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe.”
― Carl Sagan, Cosmos
@Thenomain said in RL Anger:
Can I respect someone based on their actions? Why/why not?
Can someone respect me based on my actions? Why/why not?
@Cupcake was being silly in hyperbole. @Coin was being silly in pedanticism. (Probably. Let's just say he was not serious because it's better that way.)
I think I can speak for all of us, however, when I say: Fuck cancer.
I was mostly being silly, yes, but also because I find the concept of perfection to be insulting on a fundamental level.
But yes. Fuck cancer.
So edgy. I will take a stance -against- cancer. That will show people that I am on the right side!
Not like those people who -like- cancer.
@Admiral said in RL Anger:
I will take a stance -against- cancer.
I have a newfound respect and feelings of camaraderie and friendship towards you. Whoever you are.
I have a waggish sense of humor.
@Admiral said in RL Anger:
Not like those people who -like- cancer.
Hell, back on WORA people were wishing someone had another heart attack and 'that this one will be fatal'. Wishing cancer on someone is not something I'd put past more than a few folks lurking around the fringes of the board for a hot second, as we've already seen wishing death and rape on people here.
It's not much of a stretch to think that some people like cancer well enough, provided 'the right person' gets it. Which is more than a little sad, when you think about it.
@WTFE Read words. I said I didn't feel contrite, so I didn't apologize. No, it did not occur to me to offer a real apology for something I wasn't feeling apologetic about.
Tinuviel about 9 hours ago
I hate you with the power of a thousand Pandoras.
@Misadventure said in RL Anger:
@Admiral said in RL Anger:
I will take a stance -against- cancer.
I have a newfound respect and feelings of camaraderie and friendship towards you. Whoever you are.
And awareness brings us to action, without which it takes billions of years of hoping for the right accident to take place in order get anything done.
@Pandora I'd rather someone not fauxpologize, so... yeah, that. If somebody doesn't mean it, I'd rather they not.
There's a few people I've been intentionally snarky as fuckall at. Some, I feel a little bad about. Others, not at all.
@Kanye-Qwest said in RL Anger:
@WTFE said in RL Anger:
ver understood why this was considered a virtue instead of an exacerbating condition.If someone doesn't realize they're being an asshole, it's not really quite their fault (except insofar as not knowing you're being an asshole is often fucking stupid).
Wrong.
How cogent and coherent! Your rebuttal has me rethinking the very foundations of my beliefs, it has shaken me so deeply.
