@krmbm said in What is your turning point?:
"I just met you, but now I am going to pour out my entire back-story in our first conversation together. Now your turn to do the same!"
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeah, this is such a big AVOID AVOID AVOID red flag.
The ability to let things happen slowly/organically is a big MORE RP for me.
@coin said in What is your turning point?:
@gingerlily said in What is your turning point?:
Enthusiasm. Positivity. Those are things I look for in people to play with. If someone loves their character/the setting/the game, they bring that to their rp and their ooc interactions, and its awesome.
Conversely, negativity is such a drag to be around. If a player is clearly disgruntled or burnt out, that shiz is catching. If a player is gossiping oocly about how much the game/this staff decision/the staff personally/xyz players personally are the WORST EVER then I am not at all interested in engaging with them further. Don't drag me down with you.
Now I see why you don't play with me anymore. ;_;
That's totally why. It's definitely not because we don't play on the same game 
@krmbm said in What is your turning point?:
"I just met you, but now I am going to pour out my entire back-story in our first conversation together. Now your turn to do the same!"
There was a guy like this on the train to work today. Like, dude, I have my headphones on and am barely awake. It's really nice that you're new to the country, but I have to go to work at the next stop and I kind of have to number 2, please, just stop talking.
My own "yes I will rp more" are reflected in many sentiments already stated but there is a certain blend of RP and OOC interaction. Even if someone is an amazing RP'er if they dont seem to click with me on an OOC level I find it hard to want to continue RPing with them at least 1on1.
As for "hard stop no more!" This is pretty much literary ability. Spelling errors now and then not a big deal but if it looks like a third grqders book report I might be walking away. People that put up 6 sentences only one of which is a stimuli that my character can actually respond to? That also sucks. Two sentences that have weight are fine but if thats all you can do that will bore me.
One thing to keep in mind is I will very rarely avoid public RP with anyone even with those I dont like, I just dont do 1on1 scenes with rp I dont like
@sg said in What is your turning point?:
@krmbm said in What is your turning point?:
"I just met you, but now I am going to pour out my entire back-story in our first conversation together. Now your turn to do the same!"
There was a guy like this on the train to work today. Like, dude, I have my headphones on and am barely awake. It's really nice that you're new to the country, but I have to go to work at the next stop and I kind of have to number 2, please, just stop talking.
I work at HR for a very large (national government) organization and have to speak on the phone with retired researchers who want to continue working (often ad-honorem).
They tell me their life stories. Every day. And I have to sit there and wait until they get to the fucking point.
"Excuse the hell out of you. He's a bag of dicks. I'm a carefully curated box of cocks." -- to @GirlCalledBlu upon being misrepresented.
The attorney that I worked for before this job was pretty generous with stuff like this. He wouldn't charge clients for phone calls, for instance.
Unless they pulled this kind of crap. There was a limit to his patience, and if you exceeded it, you were definitely getting invoiced for his time.
Turns out that clients stop doing that when they realize they're paying a fortune for it.
Weirdly I have a kind of hard mental cut off for scheduling RP, outside of specific events. If somebody say asks if I will be free 7pm on Tuesday to RP?
The internal response is almost immediately a kind of mental FUCK NO! NEVER!
Even if I was originally probably planning to be around and RPing at that time.
My big turn-off, I'd have to say, is people who shut stuff down rather than looking for ways to build on stuff. For whatever reason.
People who may be otherwise great, but whose insecurity is so rife that the thought of you spending any time playing with anyone else drives them up the wall and across the ceiling.
People who lack the slightest bit of curiosity about canon material, especially on a canon or semi-canon game. Yeah, I know, decades of comic stories can be overwhelming (as an example), but take a little freakin' interest. You have chances to learn about a character you purportedly like -- take them.
Untrustworthy and/or bullying storytellers, storytellers who are deaf to player discomfort, willfully or not. Miss me with that shit.
People who play Nephandi, BSDs, Infernalists or Fomori on WoD games. Hard pass.
I will want to RP with a person if:
..their poses make me feel something.
Make me laugh. Make me cry. Make me nervous. Make me anxious about what is going to happen next. Make me stare at the screen and whisper 'holy shit' under my breath. Make me scramble to think how to react. Make me excited to RP with you again.
..their RP is generous.
I love it when I find someone whose RP gives me -- and others -- stuff to build off of. If I can leave a scene with a 'next step' in mind, it's been a good scene. And those kind of RPers inspire me to be better too! They prompt me to be reciprocal in that respect.
..they are super chill OOCly.
They are fun to talk to OOCly without being pushy or over-sharing. They express a desire to RP on the regular without giving me the impression that they feel entitled to it. I can go off and do my thing without them and they won't level a guilt-trip on me; but when we do get together and scene: MAGIC. If I have game questions, I can ask them without worrying about bias or IC-OOC crossover.
..they are not afraid to fail ICly.
I have found that the people who aren't fixated on being the MOST HEROIC HERO or the PRETTIEST PRINCESS are the people I have the most fun RPing with. They are less obsessed with winning and more concerned with telling an interesting story and, often, the best stories come out of failure and how one deals with adversity. Give me a fuck up over a hero any day of the week.
I will not want to RP with a person if:
..their poses give me nothing.
My general preference is for wordy poses with a lot of flavor thrown in but quick poses can be just as sharp, entertaining and impactful. What KILLS me is when I will do a pose where I've included several things for the other person to react to, ask some questions, pass the ball to them and get:
Jane doe smiles. "Yes."
Like. What am I supposed to do with that? Not RP with you ever again, that's what.
..they consistently page me the second I log on.
For fuck's sake. Give me a second. There is nothing more annoying than having someone page me immediately. Every. Single. Time. I. Log. On. Please, give me space. Even if I like you and we are friends, just let me breathe.
..they make our romance RP the totality of their character.
I like RPing romance. I do not like making it the entire point of my characters. It's just something in their lives, you know? If they have a romantic partner, they can still exist outside of that other person. We are not one person now. We do not need to be in every scene together. We do not need to run things by each other, have the same interests, need to be in all the same plots, know all the same people, etc.
..they make me their RL therapist.
I prefer to keep a distance between myself and most of the people I RP with. Yes, general pleasantries are fine! Knowing a little bit about our respective lives is cool! But RPing is my time to relax and have fun. I do not log on to hear about internet stranger's life drama and/or insecurities. I do not log on to listen to them dissect what someone said to them and figure out if it was benign or if they were being passive-aggressive and actually hate them. I do not log on to be a shoulder. Sure, there are folks that I have gotten close to and would absolutely help them work through shit but those are close relationships built up over time. This does not apply to the majority of people so please don't put your shit on me. I have enough of my own shit to deal with and this is my funtime to decompress from that shit, not deal with yours.
..they are insecure AF.
Please. If I do not answer your page right away, please don't bombard me with worry. 'Did I do something to upset you? Are you mad at me? Please let me know if I did something to irritate you! Are you OK?' I am probably in a scene and posing. I am probably at work and idle. But constantly having to validate that things are OK is going to quickly get us to a point where things are NOT OK.
Oh my gooood the immediate page thing. This is the equivalent of being pounced the second I walk in the door. Whyyyyyyy.
@packrat said in What is your turning point?:
Weirdly I have a kind of hard mental cut off for scheduling RP, outside of specific events. If somebody say asks if I will be free 7pm on Tuesday to RP?
I am the opposite, I have no issues RPing with someone pick up style but if the conversation is about future RP, saying, "we should RP sometime." with out any sort of definition about when that time will be tends to get me to put them into the not worry about pile. I wouldn't out right avoid them but I would make zero effort to RP with them either.
The super specific scheduling of exact time and date makes me a little uneasy, too.
Talking about, "I have time this week on Day Evening, Day Evening, and Day Afternoon, and Day Before 5PM <timezone> when I have an evening event I'm signed up for, do any of those work for you?" is something that's almost essential these days, though couching it this way does make a pretty big difference to me -- less like scheduling dental surgery, more mutual respect that people have lives and some times are better than others to meet up.
I am one of those notorious schedulers. I haven't been able to do drop RP for years (probably not since my post-secondary years) due to other obligations, hobbies, etc. I wish at times I could do on-the-spot RP more, but I wouldn't be able to go into it with the time and attention requirements the other player deserves. So to ensure I do, I will dental surgery schedule that shit so hard.
And to aggravate my rampant scheduling, many of my RP circle are also schedulers, so I can end up in a position of being asked for RP and replying, 'Sure, I got time late next week.' Which I know is probably discouraging to someone who logs in to get RP right at that time and have to conceive of it way into the future, lol.
It may just be a dissonance that always comes between schedulers and non-schedulers. I've had some people make sounds at me to RP, I give them a date and time where I'd be free, and they back off or fail to commit. Then they make sounds again a few days later, and I'm like 'well... you didn't schedule with me, so I'm now not free that day, and not any days into next week.' I also know it, from the outside looking in, can make scheduling RPers look a bit cliqueish, since they're mainly scheduling privately rather than broadcasting sceneage requests aloud, which is another unfortunate consequence. But, at least in my case, it's not true. It's mainly me just trying to uphold appointments with people that I've scheduled with them or they with me.
What annoys me most of all are people who schedule and then flake out. I don't mean someone who pages me a 'sorry, can't that night/tonight, something came up', because things do come up, and that is legit. I mean people who forget altogether, or run off on a scheduled night to go do something else instead.
I get it, diarizing can be hard, but when one person manages to show up, it doesn't mean the concept is impossible. It just shows a lack of respect, and I usually write the player off after a couple instances of that and go on with my busy life.
Unless all I want to do is BarRp then scheduled RP is a must.
@wildbaboons said in What is your turning point?:
Unless all I want to do is BarRp then scheduled RP is a must.
The topic deserves its own thread maybe, schedule vs unscheduled. Not sure how I feel about it said this way, it almost sounds like its assuming all non-scheduled RP is BarRp. I don't schedule and I usually go for some story, something is or has happened to interact with/to for me. Similar to @Auspice, there needs to be some story for me. This is like if I said the inverse, I need un-scheduled RP because if I wanted to plan out my RP, I might as well just write the book? Not saying scheduled RP is planned, just that sounded like lumping all 'improv' or 'random' or 'unscheduled' rp into random, and pointless social only.
I'm just a surge protector doing my job, sir.
@lotherio said in What is your turning point?:
@wildbaboons said in What is your turning point?:
Unless all I want to do is BarRp then scheduled RP is a must.
The topic deserves its own thread maybe, schedule vs unscheduled. Not sure how I feel about it said this way, it almost sounds like its assuming all non-scheduled RP is BarRp. I don't schedule and I usually go for some story, something is or has happened to interact with/to for me. Similar to @Auspice, there needs to be some story for me. This is like if I said the inverse, I need un-scheduled RP because if I wanted to plan out my RP, I might as well just write the book? Not saying scheduled RP is planned, just that sounded like lumping all 'improv' or 'random' or 'unscheduled' rp into random, and pointless social only.
See, my read on it was that it's hard to get RP with the people you want sometimes unless you schedule it. Busy lives, and all that.
@packrat said in What is your turning point?:
Weirdly I have a kind of hard mental cut off for scheduling RP, outside of specific events. If somebody say asks if I will be free 7pm on Tuesday to RP?
The internal response is almost immediately a kind of mental FUCK NO! NEVER!
Even if I was originally probably planning to be around and RPing at that time.
I dunno why, but as soon as RP is hard scheduled with a date and time I just don't enjoy it. It carries a feeling of obligation, and it's no longer fun. I'll do it for people because some people can't RP otherwise and need me to help move their stories along, but I just think of it as work. I'm glad they enjoy it, but I often am so dialed out that when people talk up about how they loved the RP I have no idea what they are talking about since I don't remember the scene at all. It was a job that was taken care of.
some fucking idiot who people only like because he's good at taking credit for the work of everyone under him, just like every other fucking L&L headwiz.
@saosmash said in What is your turning point?:
Oh my gooood the immediate page thing. This is the equivalent of being pounced the second I walk in the door. Whyyyyyyy.
I don't understand this one unless we're saying its someone you don't care to hear from? I don't mean this in response to just @saosmash , I mean in as a thing spoken of in this topic.
I never mind a: <name> waves. or <name> salutes. or <name> pages, "Hey hey, how goes?"
Everyone else thinks this is bad?
Then when it's all over and the rest of you are ready for Dead Animal Pickup, I'm gonna go balls deep into Dahl. But only because she asked me to. Sweet-like. - Riddick (2013)
@apos said in What is your turning point?:
@packrat said in What is your turning point?:
Weirdly I have a kind of hard mental cut off for scheduling RP, outside of specific events. If somebody say asks if I will be free 7pm on Tuesday to RP?
The internal response is almost immediately a kind of mental FUCK NO! NEVER!
Even if I was originally probably planning to be around and RPing at that time.
I dunno why, but as soon as RP is hard scheduled with a date and time I just don't enjoy it. It carries a feeling of obligation, and it's no longer fun. I'll do it for people because some people can't RP otherwise and need me to help move their stories along, but I just think of it as work. I'm glad they enjoy it, but I often am so dialed out that when people talk up about how they loved the RP I have no idea what they are talking about since I don't remember the scene at all. It was a job that was taken care of.
This really bums me out, because if I never scheduled things there would just be people I'd never RP with. Or maybe RP with after weeks or months of us pinging back and forth with "Hey you free?" Which just leaves me feeling anxious for weeks.
@roz This has generally been my experience as well, when I've been playing fairly steadily somewhere.
There's nothing more maddening than near-missing someone for literally months.
@krmbm said in What is your turning point?:
"I just met you, but now I am going to pour out my entire back-story in our first conversation together. Now your turn to do the same!"
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeah, this is such a big AVOID AVOID AVOID red flag.
The ability to let things happen slowly/organically is a big MORE RP for me.
