Aug 18, 2021, 12:56 AM
I'm so sorry. 
RL Sads
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I'm so sorry.
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@mietze So I know that we don't really know each other or anything but....
Pretty much my entire family in Ohio got COVID just a few short months after losing my aunt unexpectedly. Adults, teenagers, even the kiddos -- including the 18 month old. It was terrible and frightening and I'm sorry you're going through this.
If there's anything some internet rando on the other side of the country can do, let me know.
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Word. Same here. I live in Ohio. Ohio sucks.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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Word. Same here. I live in Ohio. Ohio sucks.
shouts across the border
Girl, same.
Racism isn't Tinkerbell. It doesn't need you to believe in it for it to exist.
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I have been to Ohio a few times, and hated it!
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@mietze I'm so sorry. Texas family did the same, so I know how it feels. They went to church the whole time saying Jesus cures covid.
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fuck Ohio.
(Says the NY girl who hates Buckeye staties)
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As someone who used to date a Nittany Lion, and has a love of the Wolverines... FUCK THE BIG RED O. (Said with love, of course)
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Received a diagnosis of PTSD today, and I have mixed feelings. Embarrassment, because I feel like my trauma isn't as bad as other peoples' trauma to fall into this category, grudging relief that when talking about my trauma, my psychiatrist seemed to take my problems seriously for the first time ever, and... honestly, just emotionally through the ringer for having to dredge up some decades-old wounds I haven't had to touch in years.
I know it's not the trauma olympics, and this might lead to better evaluation and care, but part of me feels reduced to that trauma by this diagnosis. Just a weird, shitty feeling.
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@solstice I recently received a diagnosis that included PTSD as well, and I agree, it's strange. We always think of PTSD being something that's for soldiers alone. But trauma can affect anyone. I'm still terrible at this, but please know that you aren't alone in your feelings and know that you are NOT your trauma, even if it feels like it right now. You are a whole person and you are valid.
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@too-old-for-this said in RL Sads:
You are a whole person and you are valid.
Just gonna quote that.
It definitely takes a whole complicated real person to carry trauma, and its just one part of your life and self. To me, you're as complete as everyone else here. Pretty sure everyone else will agree. -
PTSD is not just for soldiers, although they develop it more due to the things they see. If you have PTSD, don't feel embarassed or bad about it, even if it seems to pale by comparison.
You are a person and mental health is as important as physical health, or even more so. And PTSD is not a joke, not to mention it can be quite crippling. I'll have you in prayers.
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The noob is out of PICU. Unfortunately my cousins husband is on a ventilator and not looking good (he probably should have been in hospital earlier but they tried to treat at home with pepsid instead). My cousin is also bedridden and my guess she will be going to the hospital soon. (Their little boy called 911 for his dad, he was transported by ambulence). My aunt caught it as well though since she has chronic leukemia and other issues she qualified for the infusion treatment and is now doing better. Right now the 10 year old is mostly caring for siblings and mom with drop ins by my uncle (my aunt is still too sick to go be with them). Other family members are turning up ill but they're just in a lot of pain and miserable, not hospital bound, yet.
I dont know what to feel. Other than all the Jesus saves just pray, stay strong against the vax bullshit that is spewed in the comments is too much for me to deal with, so I am muting them and asked one of my other cousins to ping me if they actually needed something or if there was a significant update.
I feel like a bitch for just not having more emotion to give but, I guess that's just where I am at.
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I guess I look at it as dealing with addicts. Some are addicted to drugs, some to drama, some to emotional pain, some to conspiracy.
It's painful to watch, and you may want to help them, but you also have to be careful to protect yourself and others from them.
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The noob is out of PICU. Unfortunately my cousins husband is on a ventilator and not looking good (he probably should have been in hospital earlier but they tried to treat at home with pepsid instead). My cousin is also bedridden and my guess she will be going to the hospital soon. (Their little boy called 911 for his dad, he was transported by ambulence). My aunt caught it as well though since she has chronic leukemia and other issues she qualified for the infusion treatment and is now doing better. Right now the 10 year old is mostly caring for siblings and mom with drop ins by my uncle (my aunt is still too sick to go be with them). Other family members are turning up ill but they're just in a lot of pain and miserable, not hospital bound, yet.
I dont know what to feel. Other than all the Jesus saves just pray, stay strong against the vax bullshit that is spewed in the comments is too much for me to deal with, so I am muting them and asked one of my other cousins to ping me if they actually needed something or if there was a significant update.
I feel like a bitch for just not having more emotion to give but, I guess that's just where I am at.
Wow. I... I don't know what to say to a situation like this. Specially when things look ... well from your picture, it looks bleak. And I am certain no amount of ... well words... can help. But I still feel I should try.
2020 has been pretty brutal, now with the Delta things are getting, admittedly, worse. There comes a point where everything feels like it falls on you, as if you are Atlas attempting to save or salvage or -anything- similar to carrying a huge burden. Thus I feel you should take some time for yourself. Things emotionally drain us, more so if they are people you strongly care about.
Now Im not suggesting you leave everything and let the dices decide. But if you are emotionally drained, you cannot be much help either. You must be well to be able to deal with these things as they come. Family will always be first. And when they hurt or get depressed, we tend to follow suit. Whether because one feels useless or any millenia of reasons, such as not feeling able to do more.
Thus first take care of yourself. You can't aid others if you aren't at one hundred capacity, but at the same time realize we, as humans, can only do so much, even when its family. I hope things get better for you. But I do understand as we have lost people, even neighbors... let us hope for the best. But always prepared for the worst. That's all I can say.
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@mietze I guess my problem is that the 10 year old is doing the child care, with his mother bedridden and 'drop ins' by another adult.
This... for some reason it made me twitch.
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I cannot aid anyone in this situation, tbh. Even if I was closer geographically I'm not part of their religion, even worse a walkaway. I keep in cordial social media communication primarily for the kids esp the teens and near teens in case they want to leave or come out and need a safe place.
The kids are culturally very used to childcare and housework (my cousin pushes the line in having her sons help out with that too). So stepping in to help when people are sick/mom is having her latest baby, ect isn't unusual. Not ideal and not what I would choose for my kids, but the reality is that it's not unusual for them.
However having to call 911 to possibly save your dad's life in a family that woukld rather guzzle essential oils and go see a chiropractor for anything other than like an amputation or whatever rather than see a real doctor must be an extra level of trauma to what is already experienced in having to do that anyway.
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@mietze Oh no! I wasn't trying to put anything on you.
My thing was just.. Dad's in the hospital. Mom's super sick. What happens if he gets super sick, or hurt, or... Who's going to help him?
ETA: I think the whole being expected to take care of myself/others at stupidly young age (5, for myself AND an 18 month old baby), is probably part of my 'But but..." here.