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@Arkandel said in RL Anger:

If I waited to hang out either here or iRL only with perfect human beings I'd be one lonely son of a bitch.

I am aware of only one perfect human being on this planet:

@Tyche said in RL Anger:

@Cupcake said in RL Anger:

Discovering that at least one of my co-workers is a pro-Trump, anti-immigration, men's rights activist means I'm not even sure I'm going to be able to look at him, much less talk to him.

Whatever happened to "love trumps hate"? You should date him.

I wish I had something constructive to add, but instead all I can offer is encouragement. This looks like an incredibly cool setting and I'm looking forward to when it gets going.

A lot of my co-workers are lovely, friendly people with interesting lives and I'm perfectly happy to have them friended on Facebook. There are people I don't friend, mainly because I'm petty sure that proof of their dumbassery is not going to improve my impression o f them.

Discovering that at least one of my co-workers is a pro-Trump, anti-immigration, men's rights activist means I'm not even sure I'm going to be able to look at him, much less talk to him.

@Coin I bet you like Dutch.

I don't like Dutch!

So I've started watching The Strain and am pleasantly surprised by how good it is.

While I've always found Kevin Durand oddly attractive, I have to say, darken his hair and give him a Russian accent? Suddenly he's smokin' hot.

@Kanye-Qwest said in Lords and Ladies Game:

because frankly you are kind of a boring nemesis.

@icanbeyourmuse said in Lords and Ladies Game:

I've expressed multiple times that what I do is little things like 'waves' or 'smiles' and not force engagement on people.

I think a lot of people these days look for something a little more meaty than just a simple wave or smile. Even if that's all your character is doing, a more thorough acknowledgement of the other person's presence indicates one is welcome. I know how hard it is to get past anxiety, but if someone doesn't want to rp with you, its their responsibility to extricate themselves from your approach, not yours to worry about it.

(In other words, fuck 'em.)

The thing I like about Arx is that you can do as little or as much as you want. There are lots of external stimuli on Arx that can inspire rp, but like any game, there is a certain degree of "make your own fun". If you don't come up with ideas and implement them, you're going to have to hitch your star onto someone's wagon. But there's a thriving event calendar, multiple societies to join, and plenty of niches that don't feel like they've been overdone.

I don't have a problem with paying for these services. If I had the means to take in more greyhounds I would, but I don't, and so as a result, I'm happy to give that money I spend to to take care of him and see it used to help other greyhounds. The point of my post was not abut complaining about spending the money or where it goes, but about the way that I've been treated by people who are part of the local greyhound rescue community.

As a side note, I emailed the lady who I had the nails exchange with, and she actually apologized sincerely.

@Tyche: I have a 68 lb greyhound. It makes bathing him myself difficult. As for why take care of his nails, greyhound nails require a dremel, and I don't feel comfortable risking hurting my dog when I'm notoriously clumsy with power tools.

Also, that money isn't just going to a store, but to the rescue for its kennel upkeep and so they can rescue more dogs.

@RnMissionRun said in RL Anger:

They use these sales tactics because they are effective. They make you feel bad for not getting the service for your pet, then you feel compelled to "prove" what a good and responsible pet owner you are by getting it even though you might not want it or might not be able to afford it. Works every time.

It's a bit more pervasive than that. I really believe in what the kennel is trying to do for these dogs, but I am constantly made to feel like I am an ineffective owner,

So everybody under the sun knows I have this greyhound, I love him to bits, I talk about him constantly. I got him from a local rescue, and their rather sizeable kennel is only about 20-30 minutes from my house. I got to their quarterly Spa Day events (a bath and nail trim for greyhounds, $25 and it goes to funding the rescue), I volunteer at their booth during a local annual festival, and have on occasion shown up to volunteer at booths at various pet stores.

With that in mind, I have had a hard time shaking the feeling that those involved in the group look down on me. I am in a lower financial bracket than most of the other owners, I have to count my pennies and that means I can't give my dog all of the things that apparently they feel he should be entitled to, and I've had to learn the way to interact with him and understand him properly over time.

Here's an example: the most recent Spa Day came up, and because money was tight and Rock really needed a bath, I decided to go and just get the bath done, and then later in the week when I got paid I could take him to the local PetSmart and get his nails trimmed for only $4 more than I would have paid at the kennel. The nail folks at the kennel were going through dogs quickly, and the lady coordinating it - I'll call her Y - asks me if Rock is getting his nails.

"No, just the bath today." I tell her, and she looks at Rock and starts insisting that his nails are getting quite long and he really needs it done. There are other people sitting there, in earshot, and I don't want to explain to her that the extra $10 I'd need to fork over needs to go into my gas tank. I insist again that we'll get it done later, and she cuts the price in half, which...is more viable, but will still make things a bit more difficult for me. But she keeps pushing, and I feel ashamed, so I say yes.

These people constantly make me feel awkward and incompetent, and I try very hard to determine whether this is just me projecting my own insecurities or if this is actually snobbery. I also have no idea how to communicate with people and explain how this makes me feel without coming off like a drama queen. I want to work with the group, but it's hard to do when I'm made to feel like the grubby cousin who never should have gotten a dog in the first place.

@DownWithOPP I'm kind of over-saturated with BSG right now, but maybe if I get the urge again. Not sure I'd play LipWobble though, she's very entranched in a specific game 'verse. But it's nice to know people recognize the Importance Of ECO's! Love your ECOs, kids. They keep you alive.

There actually was a Matrix mush for a while, but I think it may have gotten shut down on a copyright infringement.

I love the idea of a tattoo.

But then I imagine my mother rising out of her grave and beating the snot out of me. Judaism isn't really big on tats.

@HelloProject It may not be healthy, but it's certainly understandable. I am not a hugger, but if I was, and we were in realspace, I'd probably try to hug you.

@Lithium A good way to deal with plateauing is to shift your perspective. A lot of times if you're holding steady in your weight loss, the thing to do is to start looking at inch loss rather than pounds. It's a tip I picked up from Weight Watchers, and I lost around 30 lbs with their program back in the day. They also suggested switching some elements of any diet plan you might have if you start to plateau as well.

Take it with a grain of salt, I'm still a fatty!

I live my life on a budget. I budgeted money for my dog to have a bath and I usually get it from the rescue organization which has a kennel about a half hour's drive from me. It gets the job done and gives back to the rescue and it's actually a lot less expensive.

I was able to afford a bath this time around, instead of the bath and nail dremmeling. When I got there, one of the ladies made noises about how Rock's nails were getting a little long with this air that made me feel like she thought I was an incompetent dog owner. She basically shamed me into the extra $5 bucks I hadn't intended to spend and when ou're budgeting, that's like, a meal.