@Shayd said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
I was involved in a duel over the idea of polyamory where my character was portrayed as less than honorable because of a publically-expressed (non-sexual) musing about it. I'm willing to fully own the idea that I portrayed myself poorly, or that I was wrong.
eeeeeh, you were involved in a duel involving bi-erasure. (And polyamory).
@Ominous said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
@Cupcake
I am one of the individuals who has seen the log. Now, I have no idea about the circumstances discussed in the log, so I can't say whether she lied about what was going or not and I don't know if the log was doctored or not or even if that log was the impetus for the ban. That aside, what I did read seemed reasonable and looked to be what I would tell a new player too. It was a lot of 'this is what has happened thus far, here is the situation and facts around it, and you might want to be aware of these potential pitfalls and dangers that are looming.'
I have not. But as it is, a lot of people have made their feelings known and it's worth reviewing. Like I said, I understand "best intention, bad outcome".
@Clarity said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
I've shown several people the log of the conversation, including a couple of independent people who have never played Arx, and pretty much everyone agreed with the fact that they didn't feel I had been trying to dissuade her. But as mentioned before, if she at all felt like I was, as I posted earlier, I apologise. I never wanted to do that. I was just trying to help.
Yeah, it's really nice that you have some yes men willing to back you up, but, taking myself as an example? I've had no less than three people at some point remark on you freezing someone out of RP, and ask if I can help facilitate involvement. So clearly there are people who feel this way, and what you should maybe do is invite them to CONSTRUCTIVELY (this is important) point out where they feel things went sour. If they're rude or abusive or passive aggressive while doing so you have every right to shut them down, but rather than trying to prove how right you are, maybe take a moment to weigh the impressions of those you've played with and ask "why do you feel this is so"?
This hobby does not exist in a vacuum. I understand you believe your own motives were pure - I played from the exact same position for many years, and I didn't have the tools to understand the level of objectivity of approach that was needed. But if you want to continue in this hobby and actually have fun and feel included with a broad spectrum of people (instead of just your yes men) than you need to be savvy enough to recognize that your intent and what people see are not the same thing, and if you don't understand why things are veering off and giving an impression you don't understand, you need to ask why, and be willing to view the situation from the other person's shoes. In all seriousness? Even if you STILL don't see it, a lot of people will become ten shades warmer if you just reach out about it in the first place; it shows maturity by giving them the opportunity to break it down for you.
@Clarity said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
I was not trying to dissuade the newbie, I was trying to help them. I offered them background information regarding their PC and how they had interacted with mine. And what the two scenes involved. I even had asked for a scene with them and offered to help them get settled. I did not mean to in any way dissuade her from taking the character. If she thought I was doing so, apologies for that, it wasn't my intention.
I have not intentionally tried to block anyone from story lines. And I don't think I complained loudly and often on channels about not having enough meta plot attention. I think maybe once, early on when I didn't understand the significance of my PC's secret, yes, because I had been struggling to get involved in things as a commoner, but often? Hardly. I spent a lot of time on channels helping people, I sang the praises of the staff and the awesome job they do often. And I asked a lot of questions.
I don't think I've had any special staff attention, no GM'd scenes, I think I submitted one story action request. The character secret had only just recently started to come into play and it was really helpful when it came to getting involved, so I was grateful for that.
Clearly many, many people do not view your actions that way. I would be the first person to sympathize with being in a situation where you are limited to the subjectivity of your own intent, but if so many people are saying this is how you came off, and if staff was willing to ban you for it, you owe it to yourself as someone who is part of a community hobby to ask yourself why and how you gave that impression, try to view it objectively, and take what you can from that.
@Meg said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
As a side note, I do need to RP with Castiel. PLEASE.
Yes, you do. Sam simultaneously wants to throttle him and have him be her dinner party table buddy for the rest of ever. Which basically is a testament to @Arkandel's RP mojo.
@Goyim said in Coming Soon: Arx, After the Reckoning:
What'd Julea do? Has anyone else been banned yet?
I do know some eyes were turned toward her direction regarding blocking other people out of rp, and likewise some regard as getting an overt amount of attention and shinies plotwise. I could not speak as to the veracity of it all, but the former would be more likely a reason for ban than the latter.
Peculiarly, I noticed Julea the character is still in play, though the player got banned, and she's technically listed in the RIP section on the wiki. I'm assuming the character's presence is needed for the current plotline, after which, who knows.
There was a recent post by Hellfrog to the tune of "don't be sarcastic in your communications with staff". That was just yesterday, and today @lordbelh is bidding the game adieu. I don't know if that's coincidence or not, but I do know that if is, that's not behavior I associate with the player, who has always been patient and friendly in all of our interactions, even when I was being particularly neurotic (because it happens).
So about three weeks ago an introverted work friend of mine declared on his FB that he wanted to run a D&D campaign for folks who haven't played before and indicated they might want to. But he wanted at least one player to be experienced, a ringer, and surprisingly the person he asked was me. He got a lot of noise from people who were interested, so he proceeded apace.
I came up with what I thought was a fun concept (A half-orc monk who is all about effectively controlling and directing her rage) and had my sheet halfway finished.
He requests a final roll call of those who planned to attend, and when it wasn't radio silence, it was cancellations. I felt so bad for him. He was really excited, he doesn't put himself out there like that very often, and I could see how deflated he was.
Can we all agree that Minmei needs to be shot in the head tho
Fuck Minmei, for rlz
It was a dark and stormy night. In her attic bedroom Margaret Murry, wrapped in an old patchwork quilt, sat on the foot of her bed and watched the trees tossing in the frenzied lashing of the wind. And then the murders began.
The first thing the boy Garion remembered was the kitchen at Faldor’s farm. And then the murders began.
By day, the Nicollet Mall winds through Minneapolis like a paved canal. And then the murders began.
In the week before their departure to Arrakis, when all the final scurrying about had reached a nearly unbearable frenzy, an old crone came to visit the mother of the boy, Paul. And then the murders began.
( @Aodhfin : You win everything for PPZ.)
I managed to track down my greyhound's breeder in Ireland, and chat with her about how well he's doing. It was really nice to be able to thank her for him, and the health and happiness he's brought into my life.
Edit/Update: She is sharing pictures with me of him before he was flown out from Ireland to Canada where he was originally purchased. It's really incredible!
Robotech?
I don't care which, but the first game that lets my character pilot an AJACS gets me.
@fatefan: I played there for a little bit, but there was just no plot movement at a pace fast enough for me so I kind of faded out.
I played Rebecca on Coyote Trail. I think I only had one scene with Felix, but what I remember of it was that he was crude as hell and while Rebecca was miffed, I the player was laughing my ass off.
Maybe they were expecting another FBI raid?
(I kid, but for the fact that they really were raided by the FBI, ha ha.)
I don't know if you were that Beast, but I was Trish Tilby for about 5 minutes on CotA!