@Cupcake said in Sexuality: IC and OOC:
So my notion is, if you are self-assessing your capacity to portray another gender or sexual orientation, if you decide that you don't think you can do so because you genuinely don't feel you can grasp the nature of that gender/orientation and you would come off as a caricature (which for obvious reasons you wouldn't want to do), does that make you mindful of your own limitations, or limiting yourself in an unnecessary fashion?
Should people who feel like they can only meander down one of these particular paths have to feel like they should be embarrassed or ashamed about it?
(FTR, I'm not accusing anyone of shaming or embarrassing anyone else, but I do feel like there's a tone here from people who pursue certain singular characteristics like they could somehow do better, myself included.)
I dig this philosophical approach. I dig the questions.
My own 2 cents on this is that anytime you are writing a character whose perspective is different from your own real-life perspective you're going to get a few things wrong. In good faith is a useful term, here. Is it an attempt in good faith or meant to be a caricature? The only way to know for sure is to ask the player, because assumptions can be (and often are) assumed to be negative until proven otherwise. Plenty of stories in this thread show that.
My OOC preferences are my own, and I prefer to RP characters with different perspectives than my own. I've RPed a decent amount of the spectrum. However, I tend(ed) to shy from a lot of acted out sexual RP (near the end) because I'm honestly not in it for that particular aspect of RPing. I found that that when it comes to sex/relationships on these games the place where IC/OOC separation is at its thinnest is on this very topic, and that's danger zone for me personally.
So here's my take on roleplaying genders/orientations:
- The point of writing fiction is to create a character and to not make yourself.
- With this in mind, if the assumption is that it's fiction, then the perspective of the player should be less important than that of the character.
- Who you are may or may not share some similarities with who your character is, but altogether people shouldn't be judged Oocly by their choice in characters. The point is to write something that isn't entirely you.
- HOWEVER, it's important to understand that if someone is roleplaying some gender/orientation trope that you identify with in a way that you don't agree with, but it's being done in good faith, you never know...they might just be feeling through their own gender/orientation situation through IC role play.
It's a tricky balance. How does one approach being supportive of IC/OOC sexuality and attempt to identify whether or not someone is doing it in good faith without slipping into the realm of gatekeeping?
IMO the only answer is to focus on the characters and make side commentary about the stuff the writer did that you really liked. What you know/assume about the player only makes it easier to judge, and less judgment is better.